S/O PIP post from yesterday: before and after

[achase123]

So MCC and I were talking offline about how happiness can manifest itself and we don't even realize it. I say we post a picture of ourselves when we were still married or with our X and then post a picture now, to compare.

I know I feel like I look a lot better now because I FEEL a lot better now. YOU be the judge:

Before (with XH in Hawaii) it just seems like I am smiling with my mouth, but the rest of me is sad



Before (this was one of the first bump pics I took and I was pretty miserable at this point in my life):



AFTER (with one of my good friends at a bachelorette party):



AFTER (with P at the rehearsal before the wedding a few weeks ago)

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Yes! I can definitely see it in your eyes. I would totally do this if I had any photos of ex and I. Ha!

[roselis]

Me with XH:


This was a few weeks before I had DS. I already knew about the affair and we were supposedly working on things


Me recently:

[achase123]

Roselis-I think you look SO peaceful and content in the last pic!

[starburst604]

I totally agree - you are "smiling with your eyes" now as opposed to then. I've always felt the same way about myself, that I'm overall prettier when I'm happier. People always comment how I look so happy in pics when I was single and happy and now that I'm in a relationship and happy. With my ex-FI I just look somehow dull in photos.

[roselis]

Aug 30, 2012 11:22:23 GMT -5 achase123 said:

Roselis-I think you look SO peaceful and content in the last pic!

Thanks. I have been a lot happier. And DS makes me very happy.

ETA:
Some friends that knew me my entire relationship with XH have commented how much happier I seem now than when I was with him. I've noticed too that I am not as harsh on myself about how I look since we divorced. I'm not sure if its increased confidence or what.

[aliciar6]

with XH and a friend at a halloween party....as usual he was being a douche to me

[aliciar6]

one of me and DH's engagement pictures (we had to go play in the stream and water falls along the Appalachain Trail)

[starburst604]

Aug 30, 2012 11:22:23 GMT -5 achase123 said:

Roselis-I think you look SO peaceful and content in the last pic!

I agree! And I believe that confidence is an immediate boost to attractiveness. I'm sure you exude that so much more after getting rid of exH.

[starburst604]

Alicia, despite the obvious differences in the attire in the photos, you look so playful, happy and relaxed in the pic with your now DH.

[achase123]

Aug 30, 2012 11:39:43 GMT -5 starburst604 said:

Alicia, despite the obvious differences in the attire in the photos, you look so playful, happy and relaxed in the pic with your now DH.

Agree with this! AND you are way hotter than your XH.

[aliciar6]

thanks Starburst!

he's so much more fun, outgoing, relaxed. I don't have to walk on eggshells with him and he's playful too.

i can't wait to get some of the groomsmen photos back, they were going crazy with using my car as cover, he had his rifle out on the hood and his best man had a spotting scope next to him.

I never had fun with XH, if we were on vacation together or in the same room together, we just didn't enjoy each others company and he'd always tell me to "grow up"

ok time for a 2 hour long security refresher training...fun!!!!

[naeljun]

I'll play but I will delete.

Here is the 3 of us at Ella's 3rd bday party. We decided to divorce at the end of the Summer. This was June


And here we are at her 6th birthday in 2011.

[roselis]

Aug 30, 2012 11:39:43 GMT -5 starburst604 said:

Alicia, despite the obvious differences in the attire in the photos, you look so playful, happy and relaxed in the pic with your now DH.

Agreed!

[roselis]

Achase - you look overall happier. Like you are smiling wider.
MCC - Definitely look happier and you look like you are having more fun

[aliciar6]

Aug 30, 2012 11:22:23 GMT -5 achase123 said:

Roselis-I think you look SO peaceful and content in the last pic!

yes, you look so happy there. I love that picture

[roselis]

Aug 30, 2012 11:59:51 GMT -5 aliciar6 said:

Aug 30, 2012 11:22:23 GMT -5 achase123 said:

Roselis-I think you look SO peaceful and content in the last pic!

yes, you look so happy there. I love that picture

Thanks.
I love the photo too, but mostly because DS is being his cute self in it.

[aliciar6]

MCC wow huge difference in before and after. You are beautiful in all of them but so stunning in the after pictures

[liubotflittyfud]

On my wedding day with xH


Also on my wedding day with xH


I have NO pics with xBF. Probably for a reason..

While I was dating/living with xBF




Right after I left xBF. Actually the night I met J.


J and I.


Sorry it's so pic heavy. I had three major relationships in the past few years.

[BlueBayou]

MCC, I LOVE the pic of you in the lounge chair staring sexily ( is that a word? It is now!!hah) at the camera! It is hot, classy, and magazine worthy!!!!

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Me at my wedding with MOH


Me recently


Oh and one with my niece (well technically second cousin)

[bullygirl979]

Wow! You ladies all look so different!

Achase and Naeljun--your before pictures just feel so sad to me! You both look so miserable but trying so hard to be happy!

Aliciar---your DH looks like George Eads from CSI to me!! Has anyone ever told him that? lol.

[naeljun]

I know. That's why I put the birthday comparison there. I figured it was apples to apples. Even my EH looks miserable. LOL. We are both much happier now.

[liubotflittyfud]

Aug 30, 2012 12:56:33 GMT -5 calle28 said:

wow liubotflittyfud!! the one with the green bow in your hair. you look so happy. your eyes are shining!

Thanks!! I have makeup heavily covering a bruise on my face from xBF in that pic. I was so happy to be away from him

[achase123]

MCC-you look so much sassier/sexier/happier now!!! That's crazy!

Liubot-what a huge difference! You don't even LOOK happy at all on your wedding day-now you look happy/spunky!

pdx-you look way happier and sexier in the bottom two pics!

[stephbfan]

Ill play!

This was when I was pregnant and dealing with a bunch of shit from my ex. I wish I could go back and enjoy my pregnancy more.


This was at DD's baptism last year.

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Aug 30, 2012 13:07:48 GMT -5 achase123 said:

pdx-you look way happier and sexier in the bottom two pics!

Thanks! In looking back at my wedding pics I'm pretty sure I was scared and super anxious and not in a good way.

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Aug 30, 2012 13:30:09 GMT -5 mintchocochip said:

Aug 30, 2012 13:26:05 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

Thanks! In looking back at my wedding pics I'm pretty sure I was scared and super anxious and not in a good way.

I have a terrible look on my face when I'm walking down the aisle in my pics

Oh me too! My favorite part, and it's funny now, is that my mom is totally ugly crying and it's not her happy cry face.

[achase123]

Aug 30, 2012 13:30:09 GMT -5 mintchocochip said:

Aug 30, 2012 13:26:05 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

Thanks! In looking back at my wedding pics I'm pretty sure I was scared and super anxious and not in a good way.

I have a terrible look on my face when I'm walking down the aisle in my pics

My wedding day was a total blur. I felt really numb, like I had no concept of the enormity of what I was doing.

And I remember when I walked down the aisle I thought of my long-term BF who I always thought I would marry. I ALWAYS pictured him at the end of that aisle so I guess that's why it came up. If that isn't a red flag I don't know what is.

[hobs209]

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