S/o biological clock

[ravenb1111]

When did you really start wanting a kid??

I would say 22 it was ' awe these are cute, I'd like one ' (clearly. My response shows I wasn't ready lol)

24- was more like oh shit, let's have some fun I'm going to have kids one day

and now at 26, I really feel it. Like my mind is ready to make sacrifices and going out is so eh and I'm happy with my life overall. Ready for something more meaningful ( this statement is vague. I'm just trying to keep it short) Now I won't be having a kid soon but I can say at 26 it's 'ticking'

I know we all have biological clocks, just seeing where everybody else was at.

[starburst604]

Not until my 30's at least. I think at 30 I started thinking "ok the clock is ticking". It wasn't really until I was 34 (and single as all get out) that I started looking at cuddly babies and feeling my ovaries knocking like "Heyyyy!!! We need to get to work here!!!!". But despite that I'll admit that still when I see a screaming toddler I'm all like "Ohhhhh hellll noooooooo". But I'll know I'll love it when it's my screaming toddler.

[naeljun]

My battery is just about out.

I wish I started younger than I did though. 34 isn't old to have a first child but it definitely would have been better if I were 26 instead.

[achase123]

I never really had this strong pull, but I also was married young and got KU at 26. XH was the one who was constantly pushing me to get pregnant. It scared me because I knew, deep down that we weren't on strong enough ground with our marriage to withstand adding kids to the mix.

Now that I have P, I could never imagine life without him. I was just never one of those women who had this mad desire to have kids at a young age. I knew I always wanted them, but I also knew I had lots of time.

[aliciar6]

not until i met DH. up until then i NEVER wanted kids, like i'd cut off my head before having kids....and XH would have made a terrible father.

[jade28]

I had a "oh I really want kids" soon after I got married just b/c I think I was high on craziness. I felt like I had everything all sorted out and I was ready for a new challenge. For some reason I always envisioned myself having kids young. Obviously, I was young and silly.

For the past few years and now at 28, I feel no immediate desire to have kids. I understand more the sacrifice and I have more goals for life that I want to complete like my degree program. I want to build up savings again and have a nice career.

I hope though to be in a position where I can start having kids around age 31 (so much later than I ever "planned" but obviously for the way better). With this hope in my head, I am definitely looking for a good partner. My boyfriend I think would make an awesome dad and I look forward to seeing where this goes but I am as happy as can be just enjoying life for now!

[stephbfan]

I had DD when I was 26 and I was planning to have kids when I was 30 or older. I always loved kids but I never had that feeling that I was ready or wanted one right then.

[Deleted]

I'm 31 and still have not hit this "phase."

[roselis]

It really hit me in 2010 (26 yrs old) when my friend had her DS and I got to hold him at 3 hrs old. XH and I were coming up on our one year anniversary and I really started thinking about it. I lost my job a month later, and ended up pregnant 2 months after that.

[wrathofkuus]

We don't all have biological clocks.

[Deleted]

I'm 30 and the click isn't ticking nor has it ever. I think I'm missing any maternal instincts.

[gozf]

I started actually thinking that I'd like a child a few months ago. I'm 34 and terrified.

[heavenly]

I have always wanted children but at the same time wasn't convinced dreams do come true so I had low expectations. Sad I know. DS opened up a new world for me. I was 34 when I had him.

[emma245]

Im 30, divorced at 28. EXH and I were not TTC but I could have seen us start trying soon before the split because I was starting to feel that urge.

With my last relationship that just ended, my EXBF was AMAZING with kids and it made me kind of go back into "mommy mode" but realistically with the end of my relationship, career wise and money wise, Im just hoping and praying to be pregnant by 35. Hopefully, with a partner or husband but I think I will go the single mom route if need be because being a mom is so important to me

[lovelybb]

I've never felt the overwhelming urge... when I met D and saw how great of a father he was, it did make me think about it more. We both agreed we'd be great parents together, but I like the "idea" of it more than the reality. The reality makes me cringe a bit honestly . Also, he's snipped along with being 48 with three of his own... meh, if we'd met earlier than sure, but we'd probably not be as happy as we are now so I'd much rather him now than be upset over what ifs.

[starburst604]

Aug 30, 2012 11:52:02 GMT -5 wrathofkuus said:

We don't all have biological clocks.

Agreed. It's not for everyone and I hate when people try to convince women otherwise.

[udscoobychick]

Aug 30, 2012 11:52:02 GMT -5 wrathofkuus said:

We don't all have biological clocks.

:Y: :Y: :Y:

[lookingup]

Since about the age of 15, I have felt like I really don't want to have kids. I'm 24 now and my feelings haven't changed. I can honestly say that I wouldn't date a guy that thought he wanted a family in the future.

[lookingup]

Aug 30, 2012 12:07:32 GMT -5 starburst604 said:

Aug 30, 2012 11:52:02 GMT -5 wrathofkuus said:

We don't all have biological clocks.

Agreed. It's not for everyone and I hate when people try to convince women otherwise.

I agree with this wholeheartedly.

[hainesherway]

Not until after I was married to XH (I was 31 at the time). I'll be 35 in a month, and my baby fever is really high now. My nephew is mostly to blame for that!

[ravenb1111]

Aug 30, 2012 12:07:32 GMT -5 starburst604 said:

Aug 30, 2012 11:52:02 GMT -5 wrathofkuus said:

We don't all have biological clocks.

Agreed. It's not for everyone and I hate when people try to convince women otherwise.

I was being vague.. Like majority of women do have them, but I forget with this sometimes you have to 110% clear and correct, cant generalize in the slightest, and I wasn't convincing anybody. I was asking. I know some people never feel the urge or need to have children. Then this post doesn't apply to you.

[chrissie3416]

I dont remember a time when I didnt want kids. I mean, I wasnt planning babies or anything at 16 but I always saw being a mom in my future. I was 24 when I got pregnant with DD and she was a surprise. I definitely would have waited until timing was better but I cannnot imagine my life without her now. Ill be 32 in 2 weeks and now Im starting to get that "I want another baby" urge. I know that I definitely want more kids with the right person.

[ravenb1111]

I shouldn't wrote I know we have.. I was just generalizing..

[starburst604]

Aug 30, 2012 12:20:51 GMT -5 @ravenb1111 said:

Aug 30, 2012 12:07:32 GMT -5 starburst604 said:

Agreed. It's not for everyone and I hate when people try to convince women otherwise.

I was being vague.. Like majority of women do have them, but I forget with this sometimes you have to 110% clear and correct, cant generalize in the slightest, and I wasn't convincing anybody. I was asking. I know some people never feel the urge or need to have children. Then this post doesn't apply to you.

Oh, I wasn't saying you were trying to convince anyone, I knew what you meant. I was just commenting on what Kuus said because I know several women who have never and still don't want kids but so many people will try and tell them how much they are missing out on, etc.

[ravenb1111]

Aug 30, 2012 12:26:17 GMT -5 starburst604 said:

Aug 30, 2012 12:20:51 GMT -5 @ravenb1111 said:

I was being vague.. Like majority of women do have them, but I forget with this sometimes you have to 110% clear and correct, cant generalize in the slightest, and I wasn't convincing anybody. I was asking. I know some people never feel the urge or need to have children. Then this post doesn't apply to you.

Oh, I wasn't saying you were trying to convince anyone, I knew what you meant. I was just commenting on what Kuus said because I know several women who have never and still don't want kids but so many people will try and tell them how much they are missing out on, etc.

Yea I don't like those women either.. The ones who look at people funny if they don't have kids and oh 'one day'. It's how I feel about weddings and stuff (I know not even on the same page) but I never had that desire.

[prettyinpearls]

Aug 30, 2012 11:37:19 GMT -5 achase123 said:

I never really had this strong pull, but I also was married young and got KU at 26. XH was the one who was constantly pushing me to get pregnant. It scared me because I knew, deep down that we weren't on strong enough ground with our marriage to withstand adding kids to the mix.

Now that I have P, I could never imagine life without him. I was just never one of those women who had this mad desire to have kids at a young age. I knew I always wanted them, but I also knew I had lots of time.

I could've written this entire post, word for word.

Adding onto that..now that I have a child, I don't feel pressured to have another one because of my biological clock (I'm 28), but more so because I don't want a HUGE age difference between DS and the next one. That being said, I didn't feel this way until I was engaged and knew I'd be married to FF. I'm sure I would've been completely content just having the next one when/if a second husband was in the cards for me.

[redredwine]

I always knew I wanted kids, but never saw myself having them younger than 30 really. I guess because my mom didn't start having kids until she was 30?
XH wanted kids way early on...and that was always an issue with us. I held because because I knew we weren't in a place to financially or emotionally. Smart idea there.
BUT now I worry I won't have that opportunity. Though my clock isn't ticking, I do know that I have a clock. It just hasn't started ticking? I dont know if I'll ever get to the "my ovaries hurt" when I see a baby. But I love me some newborns. I just figure if it's in the cards for me...then all the better. IF it's not? Yah, I'd be sad.
I dunno...I think I'd be a good mom. I have natural maternal insincts, I love kids, I want a chance to be a mom. But I can't put a timeline on it.
And I guess I was right...I never saw myself having kids before 30. And I'm 30, with no kids. Way to call it redredwine!

[starburst604]

Aug 30, 2012 13:14:32 GMT -5 redredwine said:

I always knew I wanted kids, but never saw myself having them younger than 30 really. I guess because my mom didn't start having kids until she was 30?
XH wanted kids way early on...and that was always an issue with us. I held because because I knew we weren't in a place to financially or emotionally. Smart idea there.
BUT now I worry I won't have that opportunity. Though my clock isn't ticking, I do know that I have a clock. It just hasn't started ticking? I dont know if I'll ever get to the "my ovaries hurt" when I see a baby. But I love me some newborns. I just figure if it's in the cards for me...then all the better. IF it's not? Yah, I'd be sad.
I dunno...I think I'd be a good mom. I have natural maternal insincts, I love kids, I want a chance to be a mom. But I can't put a timeline on it.
And I guess I was right...I never saw myself having kids before 30. And I'm 30, with no kids. Way to call it redredwine!

Same here, I knew it wouldn't be before 30. Just no way!! But I don't think I would ever have guessed that I'd get to almost 37 with none....

[formerlyak]

I was about 30 when it hit me that I really wanted a kid. I always knew I wanted one "someday" but that's when I was ready and eager to be a mom. I got pg the first month we tried, so we got very lucky.

Right before my divorce I got pregnant (we were trying -- this was right before I found out ex was cheating on me). I had a miscarriage. After the miscarriage and going through the divorce I really felt the tick, but I think that was because I didn't know if I'd get the chance to have another kid at that point. However, once I decided that if I wasn't remarried at 40 I'd see about having a second kid on my own, the ticking calmed down.

My clock is definitely ticking now -- I'm 37. I'd like to have another kid and fi wants one and ds keeps asking when he gets a brother. Fi and I want to be married for a few months before we start trying, but I think we both feel like we are at the age where we don't want to wait a huge amount of time.

[awick14]

I have wanted to start having kids since I was 21. I am now 24 and I still want to have a kid any day now. We figure that we will be in a better place come December, so we will start trying then.