So, say you have a six year old..

[cna]

Ant they have a six year old friend who wants to come over after school. Would you expect any kind of communication with that child's parent before that happens?

[mamaalysson]

Um, yes...is this a trick question? You mean like 6-year-old B is all, "I'm coming to your house" without any parent discussion?

[cna]

DS2 has a friend at school who wants to come over to our house. By the time I knew of this plan, her parents (who have never met me) had already told her it was ok and told her to call and get our address so they could drop her off. I thought that was really weird and I told her to have a parent call me so we could work out the details.

[mamaalysson]

Yeah, that would feel weird to me too. I would not take a child home with me without a really clear conversation with a parent, and I would be way uncomfortable sending my kid on a play date without talking with a parent.

[lala]

Yea that's pretty strange if you don't know each other at all.

[cna]

Yeah, I don't know if they assumed it was ok because she knows me, but I haven't ever seen or talked to either one of her parents and it didn't feel right to say "sure, come on over!" Without talking to them first.

[quesyrah]

Yes. I would expect a conversation with the other parent.

[cjcouple]

I have a 6yo and yes, i would need to speak with parent.

[thecheshirekat]

They told the kid to call you and get your address?! Why wouldn't they take that opportunity to call themselves?

[cna]

They told her to call and get our address from DS2. It all feels just weird.

[melew]

Very strange indeed. Are you their babysitter now? Who does that with a 6 year old? Sure little Sally, just let us know which house we can drop you off at with the adults we haven't met.

[expectantsteelerfan]

That is crazy. There is a kid in my ds's class who invites him over pretty much every day, and ds asks if he can go over, and whenever I see this kid's mom I kinda mention in hoping they will actually invite him over since ds is DYING to go (they live one street over from us so too), but I am fully aware that the kid inviting ds over doesn't 'count' as a true invite at this age.