Post by rosesandpetals on Feb 27, 2016 19:46:30 GMT -5
Just curious, I already know what we're doing. But my close friend is getting married in the state we grew up in. We've been friends since we were 11 and have always been close. She flew out here for my wedding with her then-bf (now fiance).
She just told me the wedding is going to be no kids. So wwyd:
1) politely say you can't make it 2) ask a friend to keep dd while you and dh fly out. 3) buy a $300 plane ticket for dd, take her, and get someone to watch her that night (probably my sister, who still lives in the area) 4) go by yourself
It is during the school year so no chance of making an extended trip out of it. It will be fly out Friday morning and fly back Saturday afternoon (wedding is on a Friday).
Post by dizzycooks on Feb 27, 2016 20:30:42 GMT -5
For a trip that quick if do 2. Would your dd be in school on Friday? If so its basically a slumber party and play date away from you and you and dh get a date night.
For a trip that quick if do 2. Would your dd be in school on Friday? If so its basically a slumber party and play date away from you and you and dh get a date night.
She'll be in preschool. The friends I'd leave her with don't have kids but she loves them and would have a blast. They're her godparents.
For a trip that quick if do 2. Would your dd be in school on Friday? If so its basically a slumber party and play date away from you and you and dh get a date night.
She'll be in preschool. The friends I'd leave her with don't have kids but she loves them and would have a blast. They're her godparents.
Id probably do that then. It's one night with capable adults who love her. Sounds like a nice overnight for her and for you guys too!
I'd only do 4 if it was too much money/inconvenience for both of us to go for such a short trip, you know? Not b/c I was worried about her overnight w/ trusted people. Also would depend on how well your DH knows her/cares. My preference would be he went, of course.
No vacation days at all? Teachers here get around 14 days, though they are used for illness too.
I get 2 personal days and sick time but (as came up in the other thread) subs are an issue. DD and I are flying out for 10 days over the summer and we'll stay with family then.
DH gets along with my friend and her fiance, he would like to go. It seems like a lot of money and hassle to bring Dd when she can't come to the wedding anyway. But if we could make it a vacation, we would. It just isn't feasible.
No vacation days at all? Teachers here get around 14 days, though they are used for illness too.
That's a lot of pto! Not the norm as far as I've seen and definitely a problem given the sub issues we've been discussing.
I used to get 15 sick days and 2 personal days (they all rolled over from year to year up to 5 personal days). But you could not use the 15 sick days for a trip without getting into trouble. And I think anything over 2 consecutive days needed special district permission. So in my area, that much pto is the norm, but the days are not used freely like in other professions (at least in my experience).
All that said, I would do option 2 or 3. Since you prefaced by saying she just told you it was kid-free, i assume the original plan was to bring her when you thought kids could probably attend. I absolutely would not skip the wedding, and unless money was very tight or the childcare options don't work out, I would want my H to come with me.
Post by lattelady5 on Feb 28, 2016 17:23:02 GMT -5
I'd do 2. My DD would be just fine spending a few nights with trusted friends. She spent some time with my kidless relatives awhile back and loved being spoiled. (DS would be a different story )
I'd also want to go with H. Going to weddings dateless sucks and I'm too cheap to shell out $300 for something my kid can't go to and wouldn't care about anyway.
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