Helping a depressed relative

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This is a heavy question, but I don't want to ask people IRL and would love to hear from others in a similar situation.

My sister struggles with mental illness and has for years, but she absolutely refuses to see a doctor or psychologist, counsellor, etc. However she's now at the point where she's been unable to work for years, and now doesn't even really leave her place anymore. *deleted details, just in case.*

I'm not even sure what I'm asking, I guess, just feeling like I can't take care of her right now, but I don't think she can take care of herself.

Has anyone been in this situation, or have any words of wisdom? Depression is so awful, and she's been depressed and almost debilitated for such a long time. I'm feeling really discouraged. Thanks for reading.

[jag01]

Oh Leftie, that's hard watching someone you love go through that, and feeling so helpless. Have you spoke with a professional for guidance? I'm not sure what else I would do, but be there and show them love.

[abs]

Oh I'm so sorry. You can't help someone that doesn't want help. That said, it's so hard to see your family struggle like that. I'm not sure what I would do. I think I would seek out a doctor and ask for their advice. Hugs to you.

[Deleted]

I am so sorry about your situation, that sounds very difficult. That was really kind of you to try to care for her and help, but what I have learned in dealing with a depressed family member on my end is that if they don't get help, you have to be sure to take care of yourself. I'm not sure how you can help her but I would recommend you get some personal counseling so you can talk about it and also, good therapists can sometimes help you come up with a plan or healthy boundaries and help you improve difficult situations. Wish you the best of luck and hugs!

[Deleted]

Thanks for the kind words! I don't have a counsellor right now, but I agree that I probably should. @itsbritt, sorry you've been through it too, it's so sad (and frustrating, to be honest!) I feel better having somewhere I can vent about it and thanks for listening!

[vettymama]

I have no advice, but I can imagine it's a frustrating situation to be in. Take care of yourself. Hugs.

[lattelady5]

I'm really sorry No advice but all my sympathy. ::hugs::