Daycare director leaving?

[bunnymendelbaum]

Yes. I'd ask the assistant director, but would not expect a full answer. I bet you'd get the real scoop from the staff though.

[lala]

It sounds like it wasn't a good fit - on either or both ends. I don't think you can expect more information since it's a personnel issue.

[ssmjlm]

You could ask, but there's no way to really know. Perhaps she's a military spouse and leaving the area?

The only front office turnover we've had was when the Director retired.

[greycat]

When the long term director (13 years) at our center left abruptly I definitely asked. I wanted to know if there was an criminal activity involved. I still do not know why she left but the sense I got was that she was reprimanded several times for the same thing and was then let go. They told me there was nothing criminal.

I would ask even for someone that had only been there a short time but not expect to get a detailed answer. I would assume thy just weren't a good fit.

[jeaniebueller]

I don't really think it's the parents business sine it could be anything

[sunshineluv]

Mar 10, 2016 8:25:41 GMT -5 swizz said:

Mar 10, 2016 8:15:11 GMT -5 jeaniebueller said:

I don't really think it's the parents business sine it could be anything

Oh I get that assuming it's something NBD, but I just think such a vague letter leaves it WAY open to interpretation. Was the commute too long? Was it really just not a good fit? Was she fired for DUI? Did she hit a kid and his parents aren't pressing charges but she was obviously fired? 

I think I'll attempt to casually (lol) ask the lead teacher in Cora's room at pick up and assume she'll probably give me another non-answer, and just drop it. 

Truthfully, I'm a little bummed. I really liked the director and she's been a wonderful advocate for Cora getting the SPED help she needs via the county. 

When teachers leave, we officially get no information. Which I get, employees have a right to privacy. But, I always ask the other teachers and get the scoop.

[karinothing]

Our daycare is a revolving door of directors. I don't ask for my info. If they want to give info they will (most leave to a better paying job).

[undecidedowl]

I would not expect anything from the daycare. I would definitely see if I could get the scoop from the teachers though.

[karinothing]

Mar 10, 2016 8:41:00 GMT -5 swizz said:

Mar 10, 2016 8:37:08 GMT -5 karinothing said:

Our daycare is a revolving door of directors. I don't ask for my info. If they want to give info they will (most leave to a better paying job).

Oh really? I knew it was fairly common for teachers to do that, but didn't realize for directors too. This is definitely on the cheaper side of tuition for the area (not like, what's wrong with it cheap, but a good amount less than the national centers), so maybe she did find a better paying job. 

I think our director gets paid something like 60K a year or whatever. Which I mean isn't horrible obviously, but isn't that awesome when you have to deal with crazy parents all day long lol.

[IrishBelle]

From an HR and privacy perspective, they should not be telling you anything more than they already have.

[mpc]

Our assistant director just left. I heard from another mom that she left for a job outside of childcare that paid better and had health insurance.

[kershnic]

Our director left a month or so ago, after the center just opened in the fall. They also sent a vague letter about her "no longer being employed with <daycare>." We asked for a meeting with the owner who has now taken over in the director role. She gave us some information but I doubt it's the whole story. We also ended up texting with the former director who was more open than I'm sure the daycare would like her to be, and had her own spin on things. Who knows. If you like the day to day care I don't think you can get caught up in these things.

[countthestars]

Besides satisfying nosiness, I'm not sure what difference having more detail would make?



ETA: I mean, I would be nosy too! But it sounds like even if it was something bad that happened, it has been taken care of by letting her go.

[greycat]

Mar 10, 2016 14:24:49 GMT -5 @littlemoxie said:

Mar 10, 2016 8:10:47 GMT -5 greycat said:

When the long term director (13 years) at our center left abruptly I definitely asked. I wanted to know if there was an criminal activity involved. I still do not know why she left but the sense I got was that she was reprimanded several times for the same thing and was then let go. They told me there was nothing criminal.

I would ask even for someone that had only been there a short time but not expect to get a detailed answer. I would assume thy just weren't a good fit.

Do you normally ask if there was criminal activity involved when someone leaves their long term job?  

As a general matter, I really think it's none of our business.  If you feel close enough to the employee that is leaving (or I guess other teachers), ask, but I don't think the fact that someone is running a daycare means they owe us more information or should expect a lower level of privacy.  Let's face it, these jobs tend to be thankless and relatively low paying (given the importance and effort).  We should be surprised they stick around very long at all.  No one asks why a waitress would "only" stick around for 5 months.

/end rant

In this specific instance I think it was a fair question. The director had been there over 13 years (since that particular location opened). She was present at the center that morning for dropoff. During the day we received an email stating that the door code had been changed. When I picked DS up she was gone. I thought it was a fair question given the suddenness of her departure. Previously when an assistant director left she worked for 2 weeks after giving notice.

I told the OP she should ask but not expect a response.

[greycat]

Mar 10, 2016 15:00:13 GMT -5 @littlemoxie said:

Mar 10, 2016 14:36:00 GMT -5 greycat said:

In this specific instance I think it was a fair question. The director had been there over 13 years (since that particular location opened). She was present at the center that morning for dropoff. During the day we received an email stating that the door code had been changed. When I picked DS up she was gone. I thought it was a fair question given the suddenness of her departure. Previously when an assistant director left she worked for 2 weeks after giving notice.

I told the OP she should ask but not expect a response.

Oh, OK.  That does seem shady, then.  This was very relevant info that was missing!

Eh, it wasn't terribly relevant to the OP but fair enough.