If you're not comfortable calling someone out (which I understand) you can use the "Report to Mod" button. Knowing that a post will be immediately taken down will hopefully dissuade an offender from doing it over and over again. There are some things that are obviously over the line and shouldn't be tolerated. I have faith that the mods can judge this.
The seriousness in which this board collectively takes its self is beyond staggering. "inviting discourse"? Have you taken a look at 90% of the threads here? And now, completely over the top hyperbolic name-calling's line is just past the reach of twatwaffle, but definitely before cuntwitch? All while uttering those words is absolutely worth presumption of instability and the need to "seek help"---without further knowledge of intent or the personal life of said "offender"? That manufactured "insults" presented as nothing but snark are bullying while the mob summarily shuts down and stomps all over any and all that don't meet their subjective and ever-shifting criteria as acceptable. Any easy target is met with repeated fear and intimidation in the form of pages long snark fests over closeted gay husbands, glittered blouses and, how invalid it is to let anything but facts inform viewpoints---
And this takes place even while speculation and meaningless anecdotes rage onward about unfortunate AE'd reg who has had her life turned upsidedown, under the guise of care and concern---even though we all know that behind the scenes the gossip flies faster than MeredithE can type ditto, Tef can dafdh fiowe, and DP can refuse to be a massengil-dripping cuntwitch. It's laughable, really. I'd suggest a board wide tit-calming with the reminder that none of this is personal---but it is more than apparent that is a futile effort, so go on proving to any objective onlooker that women's emotions constantly interfere with true debate, discourse, and communication.
The seriousness in which this board collectively takes its self is beyond staggering. "inviting discourse"? Have you taken a look at 90% of the threads here? And now, completely over the top hyperbolic name-calling's line is just past the reach of twatwaffle, but definitely before cuntwitch? All while uttering those words is absolutely worth presumption of instability and the need to "seek help"---without further knowledge of intent or the personal life of said "offender"? That manufactured "insults" presented as nothing but snark are bullying while the mob summarily shuts down and stomps all over any and all that don't meet their subjective and ever-shifting criteria as acceptable. Any easy target is met with repeated fear and intimidation in the form of pages long snark fests over closeted gay husbands, glittered blouses and, how invalid it is to let anything but facts inform viewpoints---
And this takes place even while speculation and meaningless anecdotes rage onward about unfortunate AE'd reg who has had her life turned upsidedown, under the guise of care and concern---even though we all know that behind the scenes the gossip flies faster than MeredithE can type ditto, Tef can dafdh fiowe, and DP can refuse to be a massengil-dripping cuntwitch. It's laughable, really. I'd suggest a board wide tit-calming with the reminder that none of this is personal---but it is more than apparent that is a futile effort, so go on proving to any objective onlooker that women's emotions constantly interfere with true debate, discourse, and communication.
I can't believe this thread blew up like this. I think if you are seriously getting offended by what an internet person says you need to take a step back from these boards. It's not that serious.
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Can you explain how this works? And I'm being totally sincere here BTW. There is no such thing as an "internet person." So if a person is saying hateful vile things to you on the internet, it's *your* fault that it is hurtful? Or are our feelings supposed to turn off when we're on the internet? I've never understood these arguments that one should never have their feelings hurt about what someone says about them on the internet and you see it all the time on the boards.
Oh Emmy. It's old. Seriously. But, hey, at least I made the burn reel. Since dyl said I won, I'll take my prize and bounce boo. Oh, and see, all nicely typed for you.
Emmy's repeated defense of her use of offensive names has been "hey, it's just the internet, so STFU about online civility." Frankly I completely forgot about the TOS so I didn't even think if that would apply to some of her posts.
Like I said: for my part, she can call me what she wants. It simply draws attention back to her own personal issues, since I refuse to own the names she tries to assign to me.
I think she needs help. I don't know that banning her would make any diff to her or message to her that it might be time to get help. But I think if it's gotten to a point of bullying - where, as has been admitted here, people are afraid to step in and request civility or call her out because they don't want to be the next target - something needs to be done. It's hardly conducive to the purpose of this board, which is inviting dialogue. Can we all agree on that?
Absolutely I agree. I'm not going to defend Emmy's use of... whatever that was, or her general attitude on the board lately. I think she has been/is getting a bit of a pass because she used to be a productive, contributing member.
Combine that with the fact that we've always enjoyed being a lightly-moderated board and for the most part were impressed with the fact that proboards allows us to use adult language. Very few people are offended by people using strong language (some are, and not everyone uses it), but yes, I agree that personal attacks are uncalled for. I also think that there are times when posters have to hash things out on their own, and in the end, their relationship may be better for it. In addition, you and others have said you wouldn't be fazed by personal attacks.
Therefore, I disagree there should be a rule about banning posters for those kinds of personal attacks. It depends on a lot - the poster doing the name-calling, how the recipient feels about it, and the overall situation.
Post by lyssbobiss, Command, B613 on Sept 1, 2012 20:31:17 GMT -5
Emmy, if you truly, honestly don't give a flying fuck about saying things that could be construed as hurtful to a group of peope who, it seemed to me, cared a great deal about you while you were going through something difficult, then that's sad, and I'm sure we are all just thrilled that we wasted even a second being concerned that YOU were hurting. It's not even so much the language out of you - it's the complete 180 you seem to have taken in a short period of time. But if you'd rather don a shield of hatefulness and vulgarity at this point then that's on you. Apparently you've shown all of us that we need to put on our big girl underpants and deal with your attitude because you're a "stranger." Cool.
"This prick is asking for someone here to bring him to task Somebody give me some dirt on this vacuous mass so we can at last unmask him I'll pull the trigger on it, someone load the gun and cock it While we were all watching, he got Washington in his pocket."
I just find it really sad that so many people are ok with others being verbally attacked with such lewd language on this board. And I have not been a victim of it myself - that I know of.
Is it because she is such an old member that people defending her? If she was a newbie would she be kicked off faster?
The seriousness in which this board collectively takes its self is beyond staggering. "inviting discourse"? Have you taken a look at 90% of the threads here? And now, completely over the top hyperbolic name-calling's line is just past the reach of twatwaffle, but definitely before cuntwitch? All while uttering those words is absolutely worth presumption of instability and the need to "seek help"---without further knowledge of intent or the personal life of said "offender"? That manufactured "insults" presented as nothing but snark are bullying while the mob summarily shuts down and stomps all over any and all that don't meet their subjective and ever-shifting criteria as acceptable. Any easy target is met with repeated fear and intimidation in the form of pages long snark fests over closeted gay husbands, glittered blouses and, how invalid it is to let anything but facts inform viewpoints---
And this takes place even while speculation and meaningless anecdotes rage onward about unfortunate AE'd reg who has had her life turned upsidedown, under the guise of care and concern---even though we all know that behind the scenes the gossip flies faster than MeredithE can type ditto, Tef can dafdh fiowe, and DP can refuse to be a massengil-dripping cuntwitch. It's laughable, really. I'd suggest a board wide tit-calming with the reminder that none of this is personal---but it is more than apparent that is a futile effort, so go on proving to any objective onlooker that women's emotions constantly interfere with true debate, discourse, and communication.
The seriousness in which this board collectively takes its self is beyond staggering. "inviting discourse"? Have you taken a look at 90% of the threads here? And now, completely over the top hyperbolic name-calling's line is just past the reach of twatwaffle, but definitely before cuntwitch? All while uttering those words is absolutely worth presumption of instability and the need to "seek help"---without further knowledge of intent or the personal life of said "offender"? That manufactured "insults" presented as nothing but snark are bullying while the mob summarily shuts down and stomps all over any and all that don't meet their subjective and ever-shifting criteria as acceptable. Any easy target is met with repeated fear and intimidation in the form of pages long snark fests over closeted gay husbands, glittered blouses and, how invalid it is to let anything but facts inform viewpoints---
And this takes place even while speculation and meaningless anecdotes rage onward about unfortunate AE'd reg who has had her life turned upsidedown, under the guise of care and concern---even though we all know that behind the scenes the gossip flies faster than MeredithE can type ditto, Tef can dafdh fiowe, and DP can refuse to be a massengil-dripping cuntwitch. It's laughable, really. I'd suggest a board wide tit-calming with the reminder that none of this is personal---but it is more than apparent that is a futile effort, so go on proving to any objective onlooker that women's emotions constantly interfere with true debate, discourse, and communication.
This is brilliant satire! Which one of you wrote this?
Post by foundmylazybum on Sept 2, 2012 6:19:50 GMT -5
No one was banned 2v. We have been talking about language that was used BY Emmy and if it violates the TOS....and IF you can be banned for basically, repeatedly using the kind of language she has been prone to lately.
No one was banned 2v. We have been talking about language that was used BY Emmy and if it violates the TOS....and IF you can be banned for basically, repeatedly using the kind of language she has been prone to lately.
Oh ok, but I thought I saw a post by pixy that said someone was banned. Nevermind....lol.
No one was banned 2v. We have been talking about language that was used BY Emmy and if it violates the TOS....and IF you can be banned for basically, repeatedly using the kind of language she has been prone to lately.
Oh ok, but I thought I saw a post by pixy that said someone was banned. Nevermind....lol.
I asked if she was banned because I was confused why everyone was talking about TOS and at the time Emmy had not responded so I thought she was gone. pixy was just answering me no that she was not banned. This is all becoming difficult to follow lol.
Not for nothing, bb, but you have obviously not been on the receiving end of it. I think the big issue came down with the hr and the horrible things said there, unfortunately. Not sure if it ever totally went away from the minds of some.
I am no fan of pile ons, but for this one, so many people took issue with how they were, well, bullied/hurt/whatever by the names that rolled out of Emmy.
As for heyjude, I have said stuff in the past about the change. I don't hate her...it was just an observation. I've been called on my online persona in the past. It stung, for sure, but I tried to improve as so much is lost in tone and translation across the interwebs. I didd not notice any vitriol in the discussion or I certainly would have jumped in as I think it is very unkind. I have always respected hj and her opinion so that is why it was noticed more than other posters who may also be snarky/more blunt/what have you.
Finally, as I said many times, the board has changed. I am hoping it can improve, but I also am not holding my breath. And, it really can't change if issues aren't aired in a civil manner.
I've engaged her a few times but it is like dealing with dylanite but worse. It goes no where so I resort to ignoring or acting as superior snark.
Frankly, I don't get this at all. There's nothing nasty or angry about dylanite. He just calls it like he sees it, and sometimes that's offensive to some posters.
Sorry to resurrect this, but I'm kind of upset about how this has gone down. I think this board needs to check itself and stop having these alleged "kumbaya" threads that just serve to make other people more unhappy.
And poor heyjude didn't deserve all this either.
I think if you have a problem with a poster, you should report or send a PM. Stop making some huge weird mob pile on.
WRT Dylanite, I thought the same thing you do, until this thread:
"This prick is asking for someone here to bring him to task Somebody give me some dirt on this vacuous mass so we can at last unmask him I'll pull the trigger on it, someone load the gun and cock it While we were all watching, he got Washington in his pocket."