WTF??? TX High School assembly speaker on DV and rape...

[WOT?*]

"I won't feel bad for you...I told you this was going to happen to you." Victim blaming at it's finest. (news video at link)

www.khou.com/story/news/local/2016/03/11/teens-upset-after-school-assembly-rape-domestic-violence/81627516/



HUMBLE, Texas - A group of students are upset after a speaker at their high school brought other students to tears during an assembly about rape and domestic violence.

The assembly at Humble High School was for 9th and 10th grade girls. The school district says it was planned by students as part of International Women's Day.

A speaker was brought in from a local domestic voilence and sexual assault charity to speak about teen dating violence, sexual assault awareness and healthy relationships.

It started out as a simple message of self-respect and the four friends were on board. But they say when another group of girls began talking through the assembly, the visiting speaker snapped at them.

"She said when she moves the cover from over your face and they start swabbing and combing the hair, she was explaining the rape kit, she said she would not feel bad for us. She said she would tell us, 'Oh I told you this was going to happen to you.'" said Chantranise Lane, a sophomore at Humble High School.

The district confirms that they speaker talked about how and what students wear, and what they portray on social media can create an impression.

To many of the girls present, it felt like an accusation. The girls said there were rape victims in the assembly brought to tears by the speakers comments.

"They shouldn't be telling students that just because you're posed a certain way, you're going to get assaulted. That shouldn't happen. You need to teach the boys not to do that." said Zaria Rogan, another sophomore at the school.

The girls said it seemed wrong that boys were not allowed in the assembly. They said they felt the message was misplaced.

"If somebody comes at me and I tell them 'No, you stop what you're doing,' that is a no. So if boys are not being taught this and they're being taught that if we portray ourselves like this then they can do what they want to us, then that's never going to change." said Emily Nelson, also a student at the school.

"I'm not mad at them about trying to teach us about respect but it should have just been addressed in a better way." said Faith Jordan, another student.

The district said they ended the assembly early when it was clear students were upset. The second session that was to be held for upperclassmen girls Thursday afternoon was cancelled.

The district issued the following statement:

"The intent of the assembly was to keep students safe by educating girls on texting/sexting, teen dating violence, sexual assault awareness, and healthy relationships. Parents were informed of the assembly and permission slips distributed. The assembly was part of a variety of special campus activities planned by students through service learning in conjunction with International Women’s Day.

Some comments addressed that one’s clothing and social media activity creates impressions. As students asked questions, school staff members noticed that some students were upset and so they stepped in and ended the assembly about 15 minutes early. The school did not repeat the assembly in the afternoon as planned. We never want any student to feel uncomfortable and will be meeting with those who have concerns so that we can prevent future misunderstandings.”

The group who organized the speech said they have been doing this for years and never had a problem before.

[phdprocrastinator]

While this is horrifying, I'm rather impressed with the young women who identified exactly what was wrong with this message. One would hope the grown adults would listen... but their statement suggests otherwise.

[jln]

WTF. Boys should have been in that assembly. Making it for girls only puts the onus on them to not get raped, instead of teaching boys not to rape. And fuck the person who said they wouldn't feel bad if they were victimized. Gross.

[DesertMoon]

Rape can happen to boys too, there is NO excuse for boys not attending. I'm glad they didn't end up hearing these bitches message.

[cville]

Emily Nelson literally gives me hope for the future.

[rosiebear]

Why do some women insist so hard that it's the girl's fault? To deny that it could happen to them?

My mom was like this. I can't count how many times she pointed out a girl who was "just asking to get raped" based on her clothes or demeanor. Sickening.

[isabel]

Mar 11, 2016 18:55:43 GMT -5 cville said:

Emily Nelson literally gives me hope for the future.

As does Zaria Rogan. Those girls are smart.

[marriedfilingjoint]

What's the problem? Their parents signed permission slips. /sarcasm

[derp]

To many of the girls present, it felt like an accusation. The girls said there were rape victims in the assembly brought to tears by the speakers comments.

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"They shouldn't be telling students that just because you're posed a certain way, you're going to get assaulted. That shouldn't happen. You need to teach the boys not to do that." said Zaria Rogan, another sophomore at the school.

The girls said it seemed wrong that boys were not allowed in the assembly. They said they felt the message was misplaced.

"If somebody comes at me and I tell them 'No, you stop what you're doing,' that is a no. So if boys are not being taught this and they're being taught that if we portray ourselves like this then they can do what they want to us, then that's never going to change." said Emily Nelson, also a student at the school.

While this is all kinds of fucked up and I'm a special kind of angry that the assembly was coming from a domestic violence and sexual assault charity (??), I'm very glad that these girls at this age know that the above is true. Good for them. At least somebody taught them right and they stood up for themselves.

[hopecounts]

Mar 11, 2016 19:05:43 GMT -5 rosiebear said:

Why do some women insist so hard that it's the girl's fault? To deny that it could happen to them?

My mom was like this. I can't count how many times she pointed out a girl who was "just asking to get raped" based on her clothes or demeanor. Sickening.

Fear.
If it's the victims fault you can make better choices (how you dress, where you go, etc) and be 'safe' from rape.
It's BS but psychologically a powerful way to feel safer.

[bowies]

How horrific that there are rape victims in an audience of freshman and sophomore girls.

This "charity" should be ashamed of itself.