Anyone wean a resistant toddler?

[huskymom]

I think I'm done. But DD is...not. I can get away with distraction first thing in the morning, and after daycare, but weekend naps, bedtime, and MOTN wakings...nope. She is hysterical if I say no, and if DH goes in my place. He can usually calm her but it takes awhile. She rarely sleeps through the night and DH works most nights so....ideas? I have a 5 day business trip coming up in May and do not want to bring a pump!

I also feel some serious mom guilt bc DD1 was pretty easy to wean and DD2 is so attached to nursing . She'll be 2 next month but still young enough that I don't think she'll get any type of explanation but I can try.

[Pilsy]

No advice, because I haven't tried yet. I'm going to bookmark this thread.


Not the point, I know, but congrats on the extended nursing!

[Deleted]

We did CIO sleep training and weaning at the same time. It sucked but I was SO DONE so I just pushed through and it only took 1 REALLY bad night and then a few bad nights but then she Sttn and has ever since!

For nap and night I totally changed the routine. I didn't sit down at all, and ESPECIALLY no Bobby pillow. I held her while standing and she laid her head on my shoulder than I sang our songs, etc and laid her down.

ETA this was at 21 months and I weaned cold turkey from 6+ sessions a day and a few motn

[huskymom]

Mar 18, 2016 21:48:11 GMT -5 ladybug said:

We did CIO sleep training and weaning at the same time. It sucked but I was SO DONE so I just pushed through and it only took 1 REALLY bad night and then a few bad nights but then she Sttn and has ever since!

For nap and night I totally changed the routine. I didn't sit down at all, and ESPECIALLY no Bobby pillow. I held her while standing and she laid her head on my shoulder than I sang our songs, etc and laid her down.

ETA this was at 21 months and I weaned cold turkey from 6+ sessions a day and a few motn

This is a good idea. DH stands and rocks her like that a lot MOTN. If he sits down with her he instantly falls asleep!

Did you have to pump if you went cold turkey like that? I had a one night business trip and almost got mastitis. Fever, chills, red streaks rtf but luckily it went away after a loooong nursing session.

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Mar 18, 2016 21:54:57 GMT -5 huskymom said:

Mar 18, 2016 21:48:11 GMT -5 ladybug said:

We did CIO sleep training and weaning at the same time. It sucked but I was SO DONE so I just pushed through and it only took 1 REALLY bad night and then a few bad nights but then she Sttn and has ever since!

For nap and night I totally changed the routine. I didn't sit down at all, and ESPECIALLY no Bobby pillow. I held her while standing and she laid her head on my shoulder than I sang our songs, etc and laid her down.

ETA this was at 21 months and I weaned cold turkey from 6+ sessions a day and a few motn

This is a good idea. DH stands and rocks her like that a lot MOTN. If he sits down with her he instantly falls asleep!

Did you have to pump if you went cold turkey like that? I had a one night business trip and almost got mastitis. Fever, chills, red streaks rtf but luckily it went away after a loooong nursing session.

not with her because I was 10 weeks pregnant so my supply was dropping anyway

When I weaned DS I used the manual pump or hand expressed when needed, just enough to relieve when it was REALLY full. It hurt pretty bad for 2-3 days but then was fine

[redpenmama]

Well, I thought my DD was resistant at 18 months until my DS. Looking back, she handled it all quite well. With her, the hardest and last one to drop was before bedtime (and MOTN) -- I just told her we couldn't do it one night, and I rocked her and held her (didn't lie down with her, like usual) and she cried herself to sleep. She did it four more nights, and then she was fine.

I have been gradually weaning DS since January and we are down to nursing before bedtime and MOTN. I have not been successful in dropping these, but I also haven't been too forceful yet. I am 100% ready to be done, so I need to suck it up. We have a ton going on -- we are moving into our new house in a few weeks, we plan to switch him to a bed, and we just found out he needs dental surgery. So, I'm not sure if I should lump total weaning into the upheaval or give him a few more weeks of nursing until all of that dies down. I believe I am going to have to go cold turkey and sign up for some sleepless nights to kick the nighttime weaning.

[huskymom]

Mar 18, 2016 22:15:45 GMT -5 redpenmama said:

Well, I thought my DD was resistant at 18 months until my DS. Looking back, she handled it all quite well. With her, the hardest and last one to drop was before bedtime (and MOTN) -- I just told her we couldn't do it one night, and I rocked her and held her (didn't lie down with her, like usual) and she cried herself to sleep. She did it four more nights, and then she was fine.

I have been gradually weaning DS since January and we are down to nursing before bedtime and MOTN. I have not been successful in dropping these, but I also haven't been too forceful yet. I am 100% ready to be done, so I need to suck it up. We have a ton going on -- we are moving into our new house in a few weeks, we plan to switch him to a bed, and we just found out he needs dental surgery. So, I'm not sure if I should lump total weaning into the upheaval or give him a few more weeks of nursing until all of that dies down. I believe I am going to have to go cold turkey and sign up for some sleepless nights to kick the nighttime weaning.

I think I need to do the same, hopefully DH will have a stretch of earlier shift days. I think her 2 yr molars are coming in though so we are already so tired from all the wakings and the timing seems terrible.

[statgirl]

Lots of distraction and milkshakes. He was almost 24 months when we stopped and I promise he forgave me and doesn't drink many milkshakes now at 3.5. I had night weaned a little after one (told him night milk was gone), so he was used to waiting until 6 am anyway. He was and is a crappy sleeper, so it was waiting until 6 from when he woke up. We just changed up the morning routine and had some early mornings when I had left by 6. He does sleep later now.

[zarapipe]

Watching. Dd is 18m old and the older she gets the more dependent on nursing she us getting.

[anna7602]

I weaned DD very slowly and it still sucked. There was a lot of talking and explaining at the end about how she was a big girl, didn't need to nurse anymore, etc. she was 25 months old. Weaning her coincided with a few big things- her verbal explosion, her dropping naps and her basically potty-training herself. It all sucked so much altogether that I get anxiety just thinking about it.

To pre-empt a repeat, I've been trying to wean DS earlier. He is 19.5 months now. We were solidly down to 1x/day or even skipping a day entirely, and then he got sick this week, and won't eat any food, and is clingy and whiny, and I opened the nurse-whenever-you-want bar yesterday. He nursed 3 or 4 times yesterday.

[lolo]

I waited until mine wasn't resistant. But what helped a lot was switching her to a toddler bed around 2. At that point we dropped all nap sessions and eventually had just the before bed session for a while. She learned to love snuggling instead--and we still do snuggle a ton!

[jsillyfun]

I wouldn't say no but "yes, we will nurse soon!" If she got really upset we drove to Starbucks and got vanilla milk. I dropped one feeding a week until we were down to the last three that were important to her and at that point we dropped one a month.

[anna7602]

Also, it's so hard to discuss this with anyone IRL. My friends who BFd fall squarely into the following categories: weaned at or before a year or let their kids self-wean in toddlerhood. It's not that I get judged (although a friend did recently question my decision to leave DS for a weekend), but they just can't relate or offer any commiseration.

[7costanza]

My DS was resistant at first, as I dropped the morning and nap sessions, but I finally just told him there was no more milk and he completely accepted it to my great surprise. That was just a week ago at 2 years 8 months, I'm not sure it would have gone so well at 8 months ago.

My doctor suggested putting bandaids over my nipples and showing him that he couldn't nurse, that seemed a little weird to me but I was planning on trying it if he put up a stink since I was 1000% ready to be done.