Kid related stuff

[amaranth]

I just needed to talk about my day and hopefully this separate thread allows people to ignore it if they aren't into it. You can add your kid stuff here too.

Brain dump ahead.
S had her two week appointment and it didn't go well. She has only gained one ounce in the past week (should be back to birth weight but isn't), hadn't pooped in days, and showing signs of mild jaundice. The doctor said these are all signs of not getting enough milk. She has suddenly gotten fussy for the first time and the Dr said it's because she is hungry it broke my heart. Who starves their own baby? I didn't even know. I'm so upset at myself. With M I had drastic over supply and could pump 100oz a week almost instantly so I just never considered that I was under producing. I'm pretty sure I can fix this quickly, but I am still really sad that my sweet baby has been crying because of hunger

Add to that a boil or cyst has appeared on her neck. It hurts her and I just hate that she is in pain. The Dr wants to wait a week before treating in case it self corrects.

And finally, I'm a bundle of emotions about M. It feels like we've lost our best buddies bond since S has been born. He's so good to her, but bad to me. He went from mommy's boy to daddy obsessed and barely tolerates me. He doesn't even want to cuddle while watching TV and before I couldn't have paid anyone to get him off me. He has been so naughty and aggressive to me non stop. He stayed with a sitter during today's appointment and the alone break was so nice I didn't even want to go home. I dreaded seeing him. So I feel awful about that too. I used to miss him as soon as I left but not today. I'm afraid we'll never be buddies again

[wanderingenough]

First, I'm sorry you are having a rough day. Hugs! You are not starving your baby! Don't let yourself get caught up in thinking that. As for M, from what I've seen with other friends who have kiddos under age 3 or so, that sounds pretty common. The older one is ALWAYS back to normal within a couple weeks. His routine is shaken up, but they quickly adjust to the new routine! Promise!

Did the doc say what (s)he thinks caused the boil?

[katespade]

I don't have any advice, but I want to give you all of the hugs.
You are a great mom. It will get easier. S will thrive, M will adjust, and you will find your rhythm as a family of four.

[bk1]

Big hugs!!

I know what it is like to have the doctor tell you that your baby is hungry when you are breastfeeding. It scared me so much I know from that comment our breastfeeding relationship was ruined. Please don't give up! Keep at it. You've done this and your body knows what to do. You aren't starving her.

M's world has been shaken up. He will come around. My cousin had the same issue with her son when her daughter was born. It broke her heart but she did say it didn't last but a couple weeks at most. You are all getting back into a new grove. I'm worried about this part to, but it's just an adjustment on everyone's part. 

[luv2rn4fun]

Big ((hugs)) you are a great mama and both M and S are so lucky to have you!! Keep it up with S...it's hard in the beginning to know why they are fussy. Now you know what might be causing it and can work on resolving it and helping her out. As for M, he is just being a normal toddler who is trying to adjust to a new normal. He loves you so much...likely why he has chosen you to act out on...I would bet money you are still his favorite and in a few weeks things will be back to normal. Maybe have you DH care for S for a bit sometime this weekend and you and M have special time together...just a thought to help him get through this time.

[HoneySpider]

((amaranth))

[MrsMB]

SO MANY HUGS....I had that appointment where I Was told I wasn't giving L breast milk. So painful.....I'm so sorry you are going through this! You are a great Mom. Like wanderingenough said, your body can do this and you are amazing!!!

I know M will come around...I know it!

SO MANY HUGS LADY!

[awick14]

((amaranth))

[melsamoony]

amaranth I am sorry you are struggling. Like pp's I too had the dreaded not enough milk appointment and it is a dagger to the heart. Fortunately you are catching it early and can work on it.

M will come around. Be kind to yourself. You are doing great.

Does the pedi want you to pump? Have you seen lactation? They can be super helpful.

[amaranth]

Thank you all for the good thoughts and encouragement. I feel better today. S has pooped a bunch which the doctor said would be the best sign of her eating enough. M and I went grocery shopping together and my sister watched S so I could nap with M. I think he appreciated it.

wanderingenough he thinks if it's a boil it was cause by a skin abrasion in the fat fold that went un-noticed then got infected. If it's a cyst then I don't know how it happened. He's going to examine her again Tuesday (unless it gets worse) to recommend course of treatment.

melsamoony I haven't seen a lactation consultant this time, but I have the phone number for one if needed. For now I am increasing my good nursing foods, drinking mother's milk tea, and eating/drinking more. Oh, and just nursing and pumping more often. I am feeding her every two hours now instead of waiting on her to wake up.

[melsamoony]

amaranth maybe if your H/someone can feed her the pumped milk so you can spend some time with M/rest that may help. You can probably do 1 four hour break in the middle of the night. We were allowed to do that even when DS really wasn't doing well because rest is an important part of making milk.

[amaranth]

Mar 24, 2016 18:34:20 GMT -5 melsamoony said:

amaranth maybe if your H/someone can feed her the pumped milk so you can spend some time with M/rest that may help. You can probably do 1 four hour break in the middle of the night. We were allowed to do that even when DS really wasn't doing well because rest is an important part of making milk.

Oh yes, the Dr said I can let her do longer at night. I was so relieved that my sleep isn't being taken away!