TTT: Wifeyness

[amaranth]

What're two things you rock at as a wife?

What're two things you suck at as a wife?

[MrsMB]

Rock:
Supporting him through his many, many, many transitions with dance partners, etc. Lots of listening!

Suck:
Many things right now....so many. Maybe I should answer this later this year I'm working on it though, I am.

[anyastroud]

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[amaranth]

Rock: Giving him space/time/money/support to pursue his interests and baking him delicious foods.

Suck: He often runs out of underwear before the laundry is done (lol), and there are some areas of his personality that I KNOW won't change and yet I nag at him anyway. I should move on...but I can't. Yet.

[amaranth]

Mar 29, 2016 12:11:53 GMT -5 suzv said:

Rock: I do most of the household duties like cooking/cleaning/scheduling bills. I get home at 3:45 compared to him getting home at 7. I'd rather spend time with him when he gets home instead of asking him to make dinner.

Suck: I complain about his family and don't make a huge effort to see them. I need to do better with that.

Oh crap, I do this too. A lot. This is probably much worse than dirty underwear... So, I change my answer to this. 

[luv2rn4fun]

Rock:  I am always trying to do things to make his life easier.  I also do the majority of parenting, house work, cook dinner, grocery shop, and make sure he has a lunch for work (acts of service is his love language and these are specific ways to meet his needs).

Suck:  I have a much higher sex drive than DH and I can be a PITA when he refuses or we go long periods of time without sex.  I also just want quiet time once C is asleep.

[rockinrobyn]

Rock: I let him do whatever he wants, no nagging about spending time with me or micromanaging his time.

Suck: I don't cook. I have a lower sex drive.

[Deleted]

Rock: I cook and bake some pretty yummy stuff. I take care of the household stuff like the housework, grocery shopping, cooking, ever.

Suck: I'm very stubborn. I also have a low self esteem, which annoys the hell out of H went I put myself down.

[HoneySpider]

Rock: I am very supportive of him/serve as the "rock" in our relationship and I handle the finances

Suck: I should probably cook/clean more and, at the risk of sounding 1950s-ish, I should probably be more presentable more often (I'm in sweats/pajamas when he gets home about 75% of the time)

[Blue Moon]

Rock: I do the majority of housework and accommodate his gym schedule even though it's inconvenient for me

Suck: initiating sex and requiring way more alone time

[travelbug]

HoneySpider and mine are about 100% the same haha!

Rock:
1) My H would struggle if something were to happen to me with the finances. I manage all the money/bills/savings etc etc.
2) I'm his cheerleader. Making sure stuff is turned in on time, cheering him on with all his studies, firefighting stuff. His motivator!

Suck:
1) Initiating Sex... I really need to work on this!
2) Making myself more presentable and doing my hair/make-up for him. I know he doesn't care, but I should try a little harder.

[wanderingenough]

Should this be so hard? I must be in a self deprecating mood tonight. All I can come up with are the sucky things.

[awick14]

Mar 29, 2016 21:35:15 GMT -5 wanderingenough said:

Should this be so hard? I must be in a self deprecating mood tonight. All I can come up with are the sucky things.

I'm right with you!

[katespade]

I'm with you, wanderingenough. I'm in a bad place to answer these questions because I'm pretty sure I'm a terrible wife. I can give you all sorts of ways that I suck, but I can't even come up with two decent ways that I'm not awful.

[MrsMB]

Mar 29, 2016 21:35:15 GMT -5 wanderingenough said:

Should this be so hard? I must be in a self deprecating mood tonight. All I can come up with are the sucky things.

This was me too....

[pooh8402]

Rock:
*remembering his favorite treats when I go to the grocery store.
*I don't know. I'm feeling like a generally sucky wife lately.

Agree wanderingenough

Suck:
*I'm bad about triggering his anxiety, by leaving the house messy. It's probably the one thing I could do to make evenings smoother (although even if I spend all day cleaning, he would focus on the one thing I didn't touch).
*I don't encourage him enough by telling him what a great father he is. Because he's an awesome father.