Who is your best friend? Where and when did you meet? Has your friendship changed through the years?
I've just been contemplating my friendships today and getting all sentimental. Haha. I love a good best friends story a la sisterhood of the traveling pants, etc.
I met my best friend/oldest friend in the 6th grade. I went to a snooty private school...and saw this new girl putting her stuff in her locker. I was very outgoing and completely ignored the clique system at my school. I came up and introduced myself so she would know someone. We've been hanging out ever since. Heck, I coordinated her wedding.
Post by Skyesthelimit1212 on Mar 29, 2016 10:46:19 GMT -5
I've known my bestie for 35yrs. When we were little our backyards were side by side, she'd come over once a week for dinner, sleep-overs all the time. When we were around 15 or 16 we had the usual rift, came back as friends, but we really became best friends again after she found out she was pregnant. She didn't have the greatest marriage, but we stuck by each other through tough times, her divorce and her moving out of state. Now I wish more than ever I was in NC to help her through her
I had one best friend in high school but we started going different ways in college. I also met travelbug in high school, but we didn't become close until college. We're obviously still super close, but lately we've both had to branch out and extend our friends because we live far apart and are in different stages of life. It's hard to find common ground to text every single day when she doesn't have kids and I'm not working. But we still are there for each other for all the important stuff
Best friends as adults is hard! I'm so grateful for sisters now because even if we're in different life stages, we're stuck with each other and that forces us to talk often no matter what.
Post by HoneySpider on Mar 29, 2016 12:25:50 GMT -5
I'm a dork and will say that DH is my best friend. It's been really hard to keep friendships close over the years as people have moved away, gone in different life directions (kids/no kids), etc.
I had a best friend from high school that I was close with up until the last several years - while I would say she's still my friend, I also feel she just lives in a totally different world than me. I had a group of friends from college that I was close with but over the years a few have sort of fallen out of that circle and now there are 4 of us, spread out all over the place. It's so hard to get everyone together I'm also not a phone person at all, so I'm not going to just call people randomly to chat which is not good when you're trying to keep in touch with people.
I've had a group of 4 girlfriends since eighth grade when I went to private school, I've known 3/4 longer than that but that's when we got close. We grew up to be very different people but we try to get together when we can. My current "BFF", katiek was part of this group. Even back in high school, KatieK was easily my closest friend. We're still very close now and probably would be even more if we lived closer together. My other "BFF" is my DH. I met him my first year of university and I was crazy lonely. He was the only other person in our residence who'd rather spend the night watching movies and in deep conversation than partying. If we hadn't ended up romantically involved, I totally see us still being best friends. HoneySpider - See, you're not the only one.
Post by wanderingenough on Mar 29, 2016 13:53:37 GMT -5
Ditto HoneySpider that my best friend that I see day to day is my H. It's cheesy, but true. As for best girl friends, I have two and they both live far away. It's interesting, but they are very different and serve somewhat opposite "purposes" in my life. I met both in college - one through church and one through a college club (on campus organization, not like nightclub). One I have only seen twice in the last 7 years, but talk to almost daily on text/fb messenger/etc. The other I also talk (i.e. text/online) multiple times a week, vacation with, our husbands are great friends, and we see each other multiple times a year. Both would drop anything to help me but we talk about totally different things, have different histories, and different jokes. My husband even likes them differently.
Post by rockinrobyn on Mar 29, 2016 16:04:39 GMT -5
We grew up together but were not close until our last few years of high school. We were roommates in college for 2 years and became even closer. She was actually roommates with DH their last year of college. She now lives in California so we don't see each other frequently, but we talk and text a lot.
Aside from her DH is my best friend. He is the only person in my life I can spend days upon days with and not get sick of or annoyed with.
Post by estrellita on Mar 29, 2016 17:18:35 GMT -5
I have a hard time with this because I've never really had one best friend that also considered me their only best friend. But the person I refer to here as my BFF is my closest friend. We met when she went through sorority recruitment and joined my sorority. I then became her big sis and we were pretty much inseparable throughout college and probably would still be if we lived close together. She lives about 4 hours away so we don't get to see each other a lot. She was my MOH and I'm in her wedding coming up (her sister is her MOH). We have the kind of friendship where we can be apart for a while but pick right back up where we left off. We have had our differences over the years but nothing major. She is very much like a sister to me
My BFF is a coworker I met 12 years ago. We started hanging out after work sometimes and clicked. As we have gotten older, changed jobs, gotten married, it has changed through the years. As we grew up so did our friendship. Life gets in the way and we don't talk or see each other as much but when we do get together it's like we just hung out yesterday. We do try to call and text each other during the week as much as we can. We also try to get together as much as we can.
My DH is my male BFF. I know I can count on him when I need to talk about anything. He's always there for me. I look forward to spending time with him everyday. Plus he puts up with me lol.
amaranth Your post made me tear up because I miss you! Boo being in different parts of the state and busy with our lives!
My BFF when I was younger through my first/second year of college was definitely my cousin, but over the years we have definitely grown apart and don't see eye to eye anymore on a lot of things, but she's still one of my dearest friends and we have a great time when we are together.
I have a few really awesome friends that I know I can count on from high school, but I don't see them a lot either... I have a few more friends I'm currently trying to branch out to. I'm hoping a few of them stick to become really good friends in my current town.
My forever BFF is definitely amaranth. Like she said, we met in high school and then became fast friends our first year of college and have been every since. I know that even with our busy lives she will always be my person. Lately we haven't been able to see each other or hang out in a while which stinks. But I know if and when I ever need anything she's a text/phone/email away. It makes me excited for the future when our little minions can run around with each other when that time comes for us. It makes me sad sometimes that we are in different parts of our lives and it feels we don't have a lot to talk about sometimes, but I know that she will always be there! <3
H is my best friend, without question. I don't have any IRL female friends. In fact, I don't have many friends at all. The friends I do have are people I met through H, and I don't spend one-on-one time with any of them. I actually tried to talk H into not having groomsmen/bridesmaids because I didn't have anyone to ask to be on my side. I've always struggled to connect with people because of my emotional issues, and my physical health problems made it that much harder for me to make friends. Eventually, I just gave up trying and came to terms with the fact that I'm not meant to have friends.
Post by estrellita on Mar 29, 2016 21:03:10 GMT -5
I suppose I didn't read everyone else's before answering. Lol. H is really my best friend. He actually was one of my best friends before we started dating. I wanted him to be in my wedding when I got married. Didn't realize then I'd be marrying him! Haha. But he's really the only person that truly understands me and that I can be completely myself around.
katespade: This thread made me realize how normal it is to not have a ton of friends as an adult. I too struggle with making friends because of mental health and I am eternally grateful for the people in my life who understand me.
My longest friend I met in 1st grade. We sort of drifted in and out of each others lives until post-high school. Now we see each other fairly regularly. I will be in her wedding this July.
My truest friend I met when I was 17 at a special academic summer program. We were in the same class and lived in the same dorm. She is truly the one friend I can say absolutely anything to and not worry about judgement. We have discussed every possible topic. She lives further away now, but when we are together, it's like we've never missed a beat. Our 10 year reunion is this summer and we plan on going together. I really wished she lived closer.
To be honest for years her and I were acquaintances at best. She was always around but dh and her H were good friends, and we hung out but only in a group.
When I miscarried at 15 weeks she was the only friend of mine that actually stood by my side and was there for me. She sat with me while I cried and brought me meals when I was to sad to cook. Every since we have both been through some losses and I also got to participate in her daughters birth.