More work complaints. Sympathy is welcome.

[janegold]

Oh man, mp. This guy sounds like a total jerk. Is he this way with others, too? I'm glad you went to HR.

And LOL at "this isn't about you!" as he is rattling off your deficiencies.

[Serenity9]

That really sucks. I hope HR can help. In the meantime, this is for him:

[TR]

Ugh, working for a condescending micromanager is so, so awful I sympathize because I've been there. And he was the owner/CEO so there was nothing to do, but keep looking and eventually find another job (I was in NO position to quit without something lined up). Are you actively looking? Weren't you considering another position recently?

[TR]

Mar 31, 2016 13:10:25 GMT -5 mp said:

Mar 31, 2016 13:07:47 GMT -5 TR said:

Ugh, working for a condescending micromanager is so, so awful I sympathize because I've been there. And he was the owner/CEO so there was nothing to do, but keep looking and eventually find another job (I was in NO position to quit without something lined up). Are you actively looking? Weren't you considering another position recently?

Yes, in January I made a decision NOT to jump because things had seemed to be getting better and I wanted to stay in entertainment and not go back to advertising if I could tough it out. Right now, I am back to putting my feelers out and seeing what happens. 

I'm pretty sure BF is set with his new opportunity so I will now send out ALL of my job vibes to you!!

[Deleted]

I'm sorry, that sounds awful. I hope HR can help you with this situation.

[WOT?*]

I'm sorry MP. He's right though. It's not about you. It's about HIM. Even HR recognized it and was waiting for you to reach out to them.

Managers like this are why I am no longer with Big Insurance Company and why DH left his first attorney job out of law school. He was getting ulcers and I was getting reviews like "I don't understand why your team wants to work with you. I asked if they wanted someone else and they all said no. I don't get it."

If it's affecting your health, something needs to be done about it. Keep in touch with HR and record, record, record. If necessary report, report, report. Keep your bases (and your ass) covered.

[kris356]

I am sorry. It is terrible to work for a person like that, I can totally sympathize unfortunately. I was fired, which was terrible at the time but a huge blessing in disguise. ((HUGS)) and I hope that HR can help you out, especially since they have seen him in action.

[cleo29]

Part of being a good boss, in my mind, is letting the people you hire do their job and not tell them how to do it. He sounds like a pompous ass and I am so sorry that you are on the receiving end.

[FormerlyRR]

Sadly I think most of us have worked for some version of him at least once. I'm having a few flashbacks in solidarity.

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Mar 31, 2016 15:08:52 GMT -5 FormerlyRR said:

Sadly I think most of us have worked for some version of him at least once. I'm having a few flashbacks in solidarity.

Amen sister.


Sorry mp

[miso]

I am so livid on your behalf!

But resist the urge to quit as much as you can!

[snipsnsnails]

I'm so sorry. I've worked for pompous bosses who overcompensate because they don't understand the technical aspects of my role and feel they need to throw some muscle around by demeaning and belittling me. I always have "Its them, not me" on repeat in my head.

I hope something shifts work culture wise or you find something else.

[agnes]

I'm sorry mp. I hope HR will be able to help.

[pantsparty]

What a fucking jackhole.

[littleduck]

I'm sorry mp Keep your chin up and know that you are being the bigger professional here. I hope HR can help but since most bosses like this are set in their ways, I would also look for something else.

Wishing you lots of luck!!

[Deleted]

He's a bad boss. 

I hope HR helps you. 

[1confused1]

I'm really sorry. Working for people like that is so hard.

[shopgirl07]

I'm sorry. Working for a sucky boss is the worst. It affects your whole wellbeing. Good news is that it's a good job market and you seem to have a desirable skill set so I'm sure you'll find something amazing soon.

[renna]

((((mp)))) Try to hang in there, girl. You have many talents. Don't let this guy rattle your cage.

[MixedBerryJam]

Aw, I'm sorry your boss is an ass, mp. But it sounds like HR is a.) aware of this fact; and b.) on your side. Good luck!

[10nille]

I hope HR kicks him in the balls. At least wait until they have a chance to show that bully he is a jerk.

[cville]

What a jackass.

[miniroller]

I bet he's a Trump supporter
Sorry mp; very glad to hear you've got a helpful HR!

[Nonny]

Having been in a position where I had an insufferable, asshat boss, I hate this person for you.

I wish you the better of the two situations - HR kicks him in the balls, or you get a better more awesome job. Or even option three where HR kicks him in the balls as you are leaving for your new awesome job.

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Mar 31, 2016 13:02:47 GMT -5 mp said:

Mar 31, 2016 13:01:19 GMT -5 janegold said:

Oh man, mp. This guy sounds like a total jerk. Is he this way with others, too? I'm glad you went to HR.

And LOL at "this isn't about you!" as he is rattling off your deficiencies.

He is very harsh & condescending with a lot of people, and definitely micromanages. The micromanaging is a running joke amongst people that work for him. Others have tougher skin, or are in roles that need more hand holding, and so they seem to handle it better. I am thinking he may be harsher on me than the others, but there's a level of brashness with everyone he manages.

If you just switched the gender, he sounds like my old boss. I began having panic attacks and had to quit. Everything I did was questioned in a harsh manner. I was quite competent, thank you very much, but sharing an office with her negativity was a horrible experience. I began to question myself. mp don't you let it go that far! Hugs.

[sewpinkgal]

What an asshole. I'm sorry girl - I hope he either shapes up or you find a new position soon.

[LanaLang]

I had a boss just like that for the past year. HR had their heads in the sand though and I left a couple of weeks ago with nothing else lined up. I was seeing a therapist, documenting and talking to HR, hell, my entire team of 30 was talking to HR! As I was signing my severance papers, they hinted that they were starting to understand she might be a problem. Ya think?

Just be sure to keep up the hunt so when you are ready to break, you have somewhere else to go.

[mrsukyankee]

I'm so sorry. I also had a boss like that and it was soul destroying. I hope that HR continues to have your back!

[LoveTrains]

Mar 31, 2016 15:46:44 GMT -5 jenny1980 said:

Omg I had this exact boss right down to chastising me for being defensive right after berating me (oftentimes asking me to explain how a particular error happened--and then would scream at me for trying to explain away the problem). It got to the point when I would get nauseous when i saw an email from him.

You have to get out of there. Working for a toxic boss is a soul sucking confidence destroyer and you're too bright and talented for that. He won't change.

Yes to this 100%. And my experience was identical to Jenny's. I called that boss "soul crushing".

[jojoandleo]

Mar 31, 2016 15:57:43 GMT -5 mp said:

Mar 31, 2016 15:46:44 GMT -5 jenny1980 said:

Omg I had this exact boss right down to chastising me for being defensive right after berating me (oftentimes asking me to explain how a particular error happened--and then would scream at me for trying to explain away the problem). It got to the point when I would get nauseous when i saw an email from him.

You have to get out of there. Working for a toxic boss is a soul sucking confidence destroyer and you're too bright and talented for that. He won't change.

I am there, with the sinking pit in my stomach whenever I see an email or phone call from him.

Sigh. 

Feelers are out. We'll see what happens. 

I am so sorry.  This was my old job.  Any time my email dinged, I felt like I was going to vomit.  I had so much anxiety working there.