Oh hey ML....

[Ohhmm(bligo)]

<3. I love you. I'm glad you're realizing the drinking is becoming a regular occurrence, bit you seem self-aware enough to know that you need to keep an eye on yourself. I am all for you continuing to say FUCK IT ALL for awhile, as long as you check yourself (before you wreck yourself).

I hope he is OUT ASAP. Please take whatever measures to make it happen.

[mrsd2006]

I'm sorry you are going through this bullshit. I'm with the posters that said throw his stuff on the lawn and change the locks. I can't believe he has the balls to refuse to leave your parent's house and see other women along the way.

Take care of yourself.

[sofamonkey]

Apr 6, 2016 3:55:39 GMT -5 mrsukyankee said:

Apr 5, 2016 23:44:30 GMT -5 sofamonkey said:

I'm sorry you are going through this. Is there some reason you can't leave? When I left my abusive xh, I went to my grandma's house. Anything to get out, and I figured out the rest later. It was actually nice not being anywhere his stupid ass was, and no looking at a staircase remembering the time he threw me down them. Or any other reminders.

She's living with him at her parent's house.  That would mean leaving him alone with her parents.  I personally couldn't do that.

Ah. Thank you, I couldn't remember.  Well, whenever that part arrives, the relief is amazing.  So sorry you're stuck, OP.  ((HUGS))

[lexxasaurus]

It's good you are reaching out to someone close to you and letting them know that you are not all right. It's okay to not be okay.

Letting drinking get out of control is unhealthy and honestly so hard to get back from. I had to quit drinking completely finally because it had become my go to coping method. Just keep yourself in check.

I didn't tell people how horrific my relationship had gotten until I was done. I know plenty of women have said the same thing. I'm sorry you had to suffer for so long but you are so close to the end. You've got this. Vent to us if you want/need, seek out a therapist and know that as frustrating as it is now, you are going to be able to wash your hands of this soon and move on to happiness.

[megstoo]

What does he need with the guns? I'd fear for mine and my family's safety.

[Gato]

Huge (((hugs))), Tricky. This sounds so hard. Your H stalling on getting out of your parents' house is just another form of abuse, IMO. He wants control and he's using it to make you miserable. For now, just take the steps you need to take to legally remove him, and to keep yourself safe.

I'm glad you've gone back to school, and you're meeting new people. Keep taking steps in a positive direction. Even if it seems sometimes like you're stuck, just keep going a little bit at a time toward the place you want to be, and you'll get there. When you get there, you'll look back and "all this" will seem so far away, and he won't be able to hurt you any more, I promise.

More hugs!

[stella1802]

I am so sorry. (hugs) You have gotten a lot of good advice here, I hope you follow it. A year from now this will be a bad memory, you will be in a much better place.

[cville]

Go to a lawyer, now. You need legal help with eviction, with divorce, with gun issues, with the car title, with EVERYTHING. You are in a legal swamp and six text messages about get out by Monday oh maybe not but definitely six days from now blah blah mean essentially jackshit. You need to figure out how to document what needs to be documented and follow appropriate legal procedures to get it done fast and properly.

What he's putting you through is awful. It's confusing and emotional. But the immediate solutions REQUIRE clear, methodical thinking. Get a lawyer. That's their function, role, and job.

[sparkythelawyer]

If you don't have any connections to a lawyer, contact your county bar association. Almost all of them have a referral desk.

[btay]

Huge hugs. It's so hard during the transition but I can guarantee once he is out and you will feel a million times better. Definitely get to a therapist as soon as possible, and also a lawyer as he does not sound like he plans on playing fair.

[TR]

Apr 6, 2016 13:17:17 GMT -5 mofongo said:

Were you drunk when you wrote this?

What makes you say that?

[TrickyBob]

Apr 6, 2016 13:28:34 GMT -5 HRH Queen Dick I, Orphan said:

This girl isn't coming back to this thread. She was always one to cherry pick to whom she would reply. Ignoring the truth mirror. Lol

What would you like me to say beyond everyone here IS right? Because you all are.

And no, was not drunk or drinking when I wrote this.

[thedude]

I wholeheartedly agree with everyone who has advised you to talk to a lawyer NOW. A lawyer will provide you with the fastest way to divorce and evict him legally. Your lawyer will also know what options are available in your state/town to help you control the situation (guns, protecting your assets, etc). Please, please call a lawyer tomorrow morning. I'm so sorry you're dealing with this but so glad you are getting out and have a supportive family. You got this. Hugs