WWYD? (lame lol)

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Yesterday I went to a basketball game with a meetup group and then 4 of us went to a hype bar until 2 am. I was not dressed with a skympy outfit like most of the girls there since I was going to a basketball game in the 1st place. A lot of girls and guys came and talked to me so I had a lot of fun. So many guys told me I was really pretty even thoug I was dressed " normal" lol. I was wearing a banana republic tank top like this one meribellechic.files.wordpress.com/2011/04/v-neck-streamers-tank-br.jpg (without the ruffles) and leggings.

Anyway, this venezuelan dancer comes to me and tells me I am so pretty. He thought I was 21 lol ( I am 30) and then he told me he really wants to date me! He talked to me and said he was looking for The One since he is 36 and wants to get married and have kids. He basically interviewed me to see if I was on the same page. Crazy! The problem is that he has my phone number. I don't know if I should see him again. I mean yes it could be fun but I am not looking for a serious relationship at all. Plus I live 1.5 hours away.

WWYD?

[bullygirl979]

First of all, I find it amusing that he is looking for "the one" yet talks to you cause he thinks your 21. Is he looking for a beebee bride?

Personally, if you are looking for "fun", an 1.5 drive is a loooong way to drive for fun. There isn't any prospects where you live? If you do decide to hang out with him, I would be very clear that you don't want a relationship and let him decide. If he is so focused on marriage, he may not want to hang out with you knowing that you just want to have fun.

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You're right. No, no prospects where I live. It's a town of 50K with corn fields all around. If you want to find a bigger city, it's at least a 1.5 hour drive in every direction. My goal is to relocate to the metro area of my State.

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Oh and I will make that clear in my text to this guy. Since he talked about all this serious stuff like on the 1st night, I will talk about not wanting a serious relationship right now.

[MixedBerryJam]

I would definitely tell him you're not on the same page, but in general, I give the guy credit for bringing it up so early (even though it might have been inartfully done). My not-yet-my-husband-at-the-time brought up the "Are you interested in marriage and kids? Because I am." discussion on our third date. (We were a little older than you, though; I was 37 and he was 39 or 40.) I was beyond relieved to have it out in the open, actually.

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Ok I am going to see him again. He offered to eat and have drinks in a lake area. We'll see how it goes!

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I'm sorry, but all I got from this is he's a dancer....a dancer??. I don't know about that one. Stay away.

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Sept 1, 2012 19:02:58 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

I'm sorry, but all I got from this is he's a dancer....a dancer??. I don't know about that one. Stay away.

Can you elaborate?

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Sept 2, 2012 1:19:28 GMT -5 @redvelvet29 said:

If he is looking for the one and you aren't looking for anything serious I would let it go and try to find someone on the same page as you. also 1.5 hours is really far away

Where do you live that so many men were telling you how pretty you were?

I've actually found that I get more attention when I go out to a club and I'm not scantily clad. I think it kind of makes you stand out from the rest of the crowd, ya know?

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Sept 2, 2012 1:19:28 GMT -5 @redvelvet29 said:

If he is looking for the one and you aren't looking for anything serious I would let it go and try to find someone on the same page as you. also 1.5 hours is really far away

Where do you live that so many men were telling you how pretty you were?

That was in downtown Minneapolis. It's the whole Minnesota nice I guess lol. I was "natural" and I AM a pretty. I hear it a lot from guys

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I don't see a reason to waste your time on this guy. How TOTALLY creepy that he tells someone he just met that he wants to settle down and get married. Either it's a line he uses to get women or he's sort of nuts. Either way I don't see this being an appropriate situation for "fun." Don't waste your time and find someone who is on the same page as you. Also if he is really serious about settling down, even if you are clear about what you want, it won't end well.

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Sept 2, 2012 12:57:06 GMT -5 @redvelvet29 said:

Sept 2, 2012 1:42:48 GMT -5 lookingup said:

I've actually found that I get more attention when I go out to a club and I'm not scantily clad. I think it kind of makes you stand out from the rest of the crowd, ya know?

I guess... I don't really go to clubs or dress scantily clad ever so I wouldn't really know. I was just wondering what town had so many men that actually approach women

I have heard Minneapolis is a great city! My friend here in Boise is looking to eventually end up there as it's her favorite city in the US.

I think it depends more on the setting than the city. Men who go to clubs are more willing to approach women. That's why they go.

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Sept 1, 2012 21:09:17 GMT -5 @landobiscuit said:

Sept 1, 2012 19:02:58 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

I'm sorry, but all I got from this is he's a dancer....a dancer??. I don't know about that one. Stay away.

Can you elaborate?

If he's a dancer, then his living is made at night in the bar/club scene. This is not a good job for relationship stability---cheating and picking up girls is common. Plus, his "looking to get married" is surely a pick up line. Also, you mentioned he's Venezuelan...maybe he's looking for a green card.

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Sept 2, 2012 12:07:25 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

I don't see a reason to waste your time on this guy. How TOTALLY creepy that he tells someone he just met that he wants to settle down and get married. Either it's a line he uses to get women or he's sort of nuts. Either way I don't see this being an appropriate situation for "fun." Don't waste your time and find someone who is on the same page as you. Also if he is really serious about settling down, even if you are clear about what you want, it won't end well.

I agree