Will your DH have a vasectomy

[Deleted]

MCAngels post has me wondering.

My DH likes to play the catholic card whenever it is convenient. Apparently it is okay for me to use BC because I'm not catholic but he can't use it so no vasectomy for him.

That said, if I couldn't use BC and it meant abstaining from sex I am 90% certain he'd have one.

[honeybee]

If it meant sex vs no sex, he would.

[protozoa]

We've never discussed it in a definite, here is what we will do sense. But all the conversations we've had around it suggest that he is very open to it if we decide not to have kids or are done having kids.

Note, currently we use condoms so this would be an improvement for him

[Deleted]

We haven't used birth control in years and I've never gotten knocked up, so it's highly unlikely he'll ever get one. I suppose if there is ever a health issue where it is imperative that I not get pregnant he would.

[Deleted]

I've pitched it as the deal since before we were married. I do birth control before we have kids, he does it after we're done.

[matildasun]

We are done having kids. I mentioned that we should think about permanent forms of birth control. The next day my husband came home and told me that he researched our options, decided that a vasectomy was the easiest and safest option, and had already made an appointment.

[CallingAllAngels]

He says he will, but he hasn't scheduled the appointment. My IUD is good for 3 more years so he has time.

[jigsy]

If my H used that bullshit sort of reasoning, I'd give him all sorts of hell.

Luckily, I dont have to worry about it, DH got the snip snip a little over a month ago. Super simple, I dint know why anyone wouldn't do it if they don't want kids.

[Deleted]

My dad had one. His dad had one. He will have one when we are done breeding.

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Sept 2, 2012 11:05:15 GMT -5 jigsy said:

If my H used that bullshit sort of reasoning, I'd give him all sorts of hell.

Luckily, I dont have to worry about it, DH got the snip snip a little over a month ago. Super simple, I dint know why anyone wouldn't do it if they don't want kids.

We have to wait. No doctor will perform it on H. He's 30 this year and were CFBC.

[cajunmom]

He had one already. My IUD was giving me problems and we were done having bio kids, so he scheduled it and had it done two years ago. He was only 33 and I was 30.

[mollz007]

When the time comes, we will do research about options for non reversable birth control. If a vasectomy is the safest and most MM option, than he would do it.

[biogirl21]

My H will be having one after we're done having children. The BC thing is one of the things that bother me about the Catholic Church.

I don't know how much a vasectomy costs, but if my H were resistant, I would tell him that it's much cheaper for him to have that one procedure than for me to keep paying for my BC for the next 20 years.

[mlvmd]

Mine will if we have a second child. I have been told to only have two children at the most so we would be done at that point and it's the easier permanent solution.

[Deleted]

I am sure he would but we've never talked about it. I already told him I'm not going back on the pill and an IUD sort of freaks me out so I'm sure once he wants me to stop popping out kids (lol) he would consider it. Although if I ever somehow get to the point of having three c-sections I'm going to ask for a tubal if insurance will cover it.

[slug*bug]

Yes, and he's already done it.

We talked through all of the options: he was always open to it, but it took a few weeks to decide for sure.

He also wound up finding out that most of the guys he worked with had already had it done, so having them tell him it was NBD didn't hurt.

[lindyanne]

Already done

[vanillacourage]

After I've had 2 c/s, yes he agrees that it's his turn to take one for the team.

[Deleted]

I think he's scared to have one, but if my health was at risk on BC, he would.

We're still undecided on kids, so I'm getting an IUD for now. Probably Paragard.

[cjeanette]

I have an IUD now. But when we decide we are done with kids, yes he will. If he doesn't he doesn't get laid anymore.

[ssmjlm]

Yep. Once this one is born he's getting snipped. I don't want to deal with bc again.

[Deleted]

that is the plan for us.

I don't do well with hormonal birth control so we currently use condoms + the withdrawal method. like pp mentioned, this would be a step up for him. lol.

[IrishBelle]

I had a tubal before I was stitched up from my last c-section. I had said I would do it that way if possible but if not, he was going to have to have a vasectomy. It's only fair...I handled the birth control until that point so it would have been time for him to step up to the plate.

[heygrey]

most likely.

we'll pursue some form of permanent birth control once we're done having kids, but haven't decided exactly which route we'll go.

[MixedBerryJam]

Ddh would have, but I wanted to have the tubal instead. We knew when we were done (after 1 at 40 and 1 at 41) that one of us would be permanently, surgically altered. I'm a bit of a control freak, and I just wanted it to be me.

I had a lap. tubal through my navel, and used to joke that I could go to church in my bikini and no one would be able to tell. (I have never work a bikini in my life.)

[MixedBerryJam]

Sept 2, 2012 11:06:21 GMT -5 @idaholakelady said:

My dad had one. His dad had one. He will have one when we are done breeding.

This struck me as funny, because I originally read it as, "My father had one, his father before him had one" as if this was a longstanding family tradition!

[Kore]

Sept 2, 2012 11:53:58 GMT -5 MixedBerryJam said:

Sept 2, 2012 11:06:21 GMT -5 @idaholakelady said:

My dad had one. His dad had one. He will have one when we are done breeding.

This struck me as funny, because I originally read it as, "My father had one, his father before him had one" as if this was a longstanding family tradition!

I totally read it that way, too.

[sillygoosegirl]

We're no where near this point yet, as we're still planning on having between 1 and 3 kids. However, he says he plans to get one and has nasty things to say about men that refuse. But I'm not convinced it's a good idea, since he's always leaned toward wanting a bigger family than I want. And anyway, I think I'm gonna want a hormonal IUD after we are done having kids regardless.

I don't understand men who truly and completely don't want more kids and yet refuse to have it. I know it's cliche, but I do think in a lot of marriages one person is done with having kids, and the other not as enthusiastic about it, and really would choose to have kids with someone else someday in the event of death or divorce. While the vasectomy is easier and less invasive, I think it is a very personal decision. A tubal is also safe and effective, and I think it's the better choice if one person is more committed to not having more kids than the other.

[Kore]

At this point, he probably won't. My Mirena controls my suspected endo, so I'll have one probably for the rest of my fertile years. There's no point for him to get sterilized when my method is just as effective.

[statlerwaldorf]

We talked before having kids and basically said DH would have a vasectomy. If we know we are done when I'm pregnant with my last child and I need a c-section, I would have my tubes tied instead. I might go back on birth control pills to help manage my PCOS.