S/O Poll #3 - Daily Challenge?

[sfy]

A friend and I once discussed an article we'd both read about couples pledging to have sex daily for 30 days.  Most often, the end result was that the couples found that engaging in sex more often made them want to have sex more often, enjoy sex more and have a better physical connection.  Would you be open to trying to this experiment if your partner made the request?

(If you do not have sex while menstruating, please assume that those days would be skipped and "made up" on the back end.  No pun intended! )

[justjen]

May 12, 2016 10:51:39 GMT -5 sfy said:

(If you do not have sex while menstruating, please assume that those days would be skipped and "made up" on the back end.  No pun intended! )

LOL. Really, sfy??

[sfy]

May 12, 2016 10:52:53 GMT -5 justjen said:

May 12, 2016 10:51:39 GMT -5 sfy said:

(If you do not have sex while menstruating, please assume that those days would be skipped and "made up" on the back end.  No pun intended! )

LOL. Really, sfy??

[arch01]

My lady bits hurt already just thinking about this. We didn't have sex daily even for just a week when we first got together.

[orangeblossom]

May 12, 2016 10:55:11 GMT -5 sfy said:

May 12, 2016 10:52:53 GMT -5 justjen said:

LOL. Really, sfy??

I love you!

[orangeblossom]

No, I have no interest in this. Like, none, whatsoever. First, I can't think of a 30-day period in which I've been annoyance-free with DH, and I'm not into having sex when I'm annoyed. Second, I just don't want to have sex every day.

[mbcdefg]

I joked about this when we weren't getting anywhere with TTC. Yeah, didn't happen. 

[simpsongal]

I didn't answer the other poll b/c TTC for a year took a toll on our sex life. And surprise, pregnancy is another poison pill for us.

I'm not sure 30 days straight would be good either - but it's hard to imagine engaging that much w/a toddler and no goals beyond pure enjoyment.

womp womp

[sfy]

May 12, 2016 11:20:36 GMT -5 cubed said:

[konapoppy]

I feel like I contracted a uti by reading this poll.

[Pom]

LOL. IF we tried it for a month, I feel like we'd be glad when it was over.

[sfy]

You guys are killing me .

[ijack]

I can't imagine ever agreeing to this.

[SJ]

I don't even think my husband would be interested.

[Poppy]

Maybe without a kid in the house (ie pre-kid or after they're grown). But now? Not a priority. Sorry, H.

[theblissisback]

I've done it and I'd do it again.

It doesn't have to be a full blown 45 mins sweaty sex session. When I've done it in the past, it's been a mix of just oral, quickies, and sweaty sessions.

The last guy I dated, we did 30 days of hands and mouth only before we had real penis/ vag penetration.

It was amazing!!

But again, I have a super super high sex drive.

[genet313]

What about if we set a specific number of times per week to have sex and that's the goal? Like...3 or 4 max.

[Marmee]

We did this after not getting pg after almost a year. It worked...lol. I am one of the ones who want sex the more I have it. But having sex daily did not mean it was always "great" sex and that was ok too. I'd do it again but my H is 41, not sure he'd be as enthusiastic about it 10yrs later. Lol

[Raggedeannie]

Pre-pregnancy I might have been willing. At 33 weeks this sounds awful...

[theblissisback]

May 12, 2016 15:30:29 GMT -5 @invino said:

May 12, 2016 12:56:32 GMT -5 theblissisback said:

I've done it and I'd do it again.

It doesn't have to be a full blown 45 mins sweaty sex session. When I've done it in the past, it's been a mix of just oral, quickies, and sweaty sessions.

The last guy I dated, we did 30 days of hands and mouth only before we had real penis/ vag penetration.

It was amazing!!

But again, I have a super super high sex drive.

Also you are not married and without kids, which no matter how high your sex drive is changes things. 

I guess. My friends who are married are 4-6x / week. They don't have kids.

Those who do have kids are 3-5x a week, but aren't married, but live together.

Those who are married and have kids are closer to 4x.

So...it depends.

I don't anticipate my sex drive changing. I also don't want kids or necessarily marriage anytime soon.

Different strokes and all that.

[magpie]

No. It took us 6 months of TTC to make our first child and it wasn't 30 days straight, but it was a lot and sex was totally not as fun by the end of each monthly window. Less with the second, which was great because we don't have time for that stuff anymore! If we weren't having enough, I don't think it would be unreasonable to challenge to do it more often, just not every day. Sometimes, I do think you have to make time and prioritize for the magic to happen and, although it feels unromantic to schedule sex, that's what needs to happen during some of the crazier periods of life. That's too much!

[tacom]

if it was super important to my husband, I'd consider it. but honestly it would be a logistical nightmare -- we don't see each other a whole lot during the week

and I'm a nightmare if you mess with my sleep.

[peachdragon]

We did this for awhile, but it was every other day. It did make me want it more and enjoy it more when we were doing it.

[mpc]

TTTC has been exhausting. after 3 days in a row my H is like I can't do it again. And I happily agree.

[orangeblossom]

May 12, 2016 16:19:24 GMT -5 capscapscaps said:

I am too damn old for that. I'm in bed by 9 and once I have my face creams and bonnet on I do not want you to touch me please and thank you.

I love you. Not the face creams and bonnet.

[flgirl]

I don't go here but we have done this. I was about 20 weeks pregnant. According to our rules had to be more then once a day, different acts both times. It was super fun actually. We also have 3 other kids. they were asleep. We considered it our "date" or "alone" time. It did make us want more.

[fernweh]

I would normally given that the more sex I have the more I want. Given that with our current schedules H and I often go days without seeing each other a wake and I will not cut into the already too little sleep I get, NO.

[sfy]

May 12, 2016 18:04:46 GMT -5 flgirl said:

I don't go here but we have done this. I was about 20 weeks pregnant. According to our rules had to be more then once a day, different acts both times. It was super fun actually. We also have 3 other kids. they were asleep. We considered it our "date" or "alone" time. It did make us want more.

I don't have any judgment either way about how a couple conducts their sex lives, everyone has to do what works for them, but I will say I'm a bit awestruck at this one. At 20 weeks pregnant with 3 children? You guys are either my idols or my nightmare lol!

[gogreengowhite]

I told my husband about this discussion. He was all "hmmmm, interesting concept", "I think that would be good". I had to clarify that I wasn't offering

[rootbeerfloat]

I asked my H what he thought about this and he said: 1) that he would give it try, but probably get sore and 2) is this something your Internet friends are trying?!