You guys I'm livid and hopeless

[laurensmomma]

I'm so sorry, A. I would be livid too. Can he get a second job to earn some extra money?

[honeybee503]

I'm so sorry.

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May 12, 2016 12:49:55 GMT -5 laurensmomma said:

I'm so sorry, A. I would be livid too. Can he get a second job to earn some extra money?

He met with lyft last night to start driving. Just waiting on a background check.

[ladydi]

Oh no I am so, so sorry. Is there any type of emergency assistance program you could apply for?

[The Foozzler]

Can you call them and offer to work out a payment plan? Are there any government programs you can take advantage of to get it turned back on?

I'm so sorry.

[betsyray]

I'm so sorry I can't believe he didn't tell you.

[devotchka]

I'm so so sorry Hun. You can call me anytime. You know I've had issues w my h and I can relate. Big hugs!!! You're right to be pissed. Wish you lived closer. I'm in your old area and would come over and hug you right now.

[chirpchirp]

I'm so sorry

[charlielove]

Oh no. You have every right to be mad. He should've communicated with you if there was such a big financial issue going on. I hope he's looking into picking up more hours or getting a part time job.

ETA: In CA there is a program called LIHEAP which provides one time financial assistance with paying utility bills. Maybe that's an option for you.

[EnchantedSoul]

Find your local Community Action Council. They should be able to help since service has been disconnected.
Call your utilities company back and tell them you have 2 small children in the home. Ask them what your options are. There's usually a "heat share" fund that people donate to. See if you are eligible to tap into that.

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I'm so sorry A

[lauranicole91]

I am so sorry! That is so frustrating that he didn't tell you. Ugh. I hope y'all can get it all sorted out some how. *hugs*

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I called my mom balling I feel like such a failure. The last couple weeks I've been trying to sell different things just to get some extra cash. If try to pick up more hours at work but then I have to find/ pay for childcare.

[thedahliharpa]

I'm really sorry A. Can he ask his employer for an advance? HE should be looking for solutions.

[sunshineluv]

Do you have a church you go to? Or close friends who go to a church? My church has a collection once a month for instances like this. When a family in our community is in need for whatever reason. Perhaps your church or a church close by has something like this.

I am so sorry. You will get through this. Its time for a CTJ talk with your DH and a plan for the future. He cannot talk to you like he has been recently, or keep things this important from you. You are a team.

[jenbelle]

((hugs)) I've been there. I hope you are able to find assistance.

[thedahliharpa]

And you are not a failure, or hopeless. You are completely justified in wanting to leave. I would start keeping track of everything that has been going on. We are home today working and making messes...but we are here if you need somewhere else to decompress. You and the kids are welcome to come over for dinner.

[steph196]

I am so sorry, Ali! I hope there is something you can find to help!

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sunshineluv we just started going to a church. I called them but they have already left for the day

[atlas]

I'm so so sorry. I don't know you and I just want to help.

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May 12, 2016 13:08:11 GMT -5 thedahliharpa said:

I'm really sorry A. Can he ask his employer for an advance? HE should be looking for solutions.

No but he's close to one of his clients maybe he can ask him

[hocus2]

May 12, 2016 13:24:40 GMT -5 @jayhawkali said:

May 12, 2016 13:08:11 GMT -5 thedahliharpa said:

I'm really sorry A. Can he ask his employer for an advance? HE should be looking for solutions.

No but he's close to one of his clients maybe he can ask him

I wouldn't put a client in that sort of position. I'd do go fund me over asking a client for help.

I can't remember your back story -- did you guys have some sort of crisis that tipped you over the edge? Is there something of value you could sell? Folks that could help with childcare so you can pick up shifts? Do you get a tax refund? Can you tweak your width holdings so you get more each month and less as a refund?

Good luck. I know it is hugely stressful to be worried about money all the time. 

[carawestt]

I'm so sorry!

[monkeybabe]

I'm so sorry, A.

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I'm so sorry. Hugs to you.

[TrudyCampbell]

I'm so sorry! I hope you can figure it out.

[chasbride07]

I am so very sorry you are going through this.

[claralou]

I'm so sorry, A. You are not failing. This is on him. Please let us know if we can help you.

[blane12]

Oh Hun - I'm so sorry!! You have every right to be livid. He put you and your children in jeopardy. At the very least, he should've communicated to you what was going on and you guys may have been able to work out payments with the electric company before they turned it off.
Do you guys have 401k you could borrow against? Normally I wouldn't advise it, but I think it would be worth it to get electric. Getting a job with lyft is a good start, but he's also got to earn your trust back. I would take over all finances and not let him be responsible since he clearly can't handle it.

[ashleydl83]

I know that certain Catholic churches will help. I got help from one when I was pregnant with Lexi and XH and J had just separated. It would probably take a few days, but I'm not sure. I know you said you just started going to a church, but do you know anyone who might be a deacon, or a member of the congregation that can get in touch with the pastor? I've been there, and it is a horrible feeling. I'm so sorry.