Can I start another BFing thread

[eddy]

I get annoyed being around people for long periods of time because they ALWAYS have to comment on how often I feed Leo. My family, my ILs, friends etc. It makes me so self conscious. I mean he is three months I thought it was normal for a baby to want to make sure the boob was close by at all times lol. And in reality at home I don't do it as often, but I also let him fuss and try other things to make him happy. When we are with people I am just trying to keep him quiet.

Mostly I was annoyed yesterday as my MIL prides herself on being Miss Pro BFer of the decade yet commented repeatedly about how often I fed him. Mostly it is just for comfort, which I told her and she was all "OMG he just has to eat so often. Why does he eat so often." Shut up dude. I eventually went to the other room to nurse without the cover and to so I could stop listening to her lol.

[ElizabethBennet]

I always hated that. During the day DD nursed every 1.5 hours for the entire time I nursed her (10 months). I tried ignoring it as best as I could but it did get to me.

[Deleted]

My mom and your MIL sound like they're sisters.

My mom berates my SIL for how she feeds my niece. Its like Mom, stfu and worry about yourself.

[iamgrace]

I still nurse Henry whenever he wants when we're out. It's almost always for comfort. He's a well behaved kid! Lol.

[speckledfrog]

I think people remember their kids as older babies and forget that little babies eat often.

[sarahbear]

I feel for you. My first son was a frequent eater and comfort sucker. He was always at the boob and it was so exausting to me. I was really self consious about it in public or around friends. Your MIL needs to mind her own business.

[Deleted]

Sept 3, 2012 16:22:14 GMT -5 speckledfrog said:

I think people remember their kids as older babies and forget that little babies eat often.

Definitely this.

I also hate that ppl think eating often is bad for the baby. Adults should eat every few hours, too.

[oleswenson]

My MIL asked when DS was little if he was sleeping through the night yet. He was 7 weeks old. I looked at her like she was crazy. She gave me the advice to "put cereal in his bottle. Even though he was exclusively breasted. She also stares(ed) at me when I nurse DD2 and when I nurses DS. Hello, do not stare at me. I am not comfortable with you already. This is making me 123346666 times more uncomfortable. She has 'maybe' seen me nurse a grand total of five times combined. She does not visit often, so when she does I stay in the nursery for much of the visit.
Unlike my own family. I do not nurse with a cover in front of them. My parents are very pro-breast feeding. My mom did with my two sisters and I until we were nine months old, since that is when she conceived the next child. My Dad was anti me weaning DS at 15 months because of he got sick, or was teething again, etc.breast feeding would help comfort him.

(posting from iPhone, excuse typos)

[eddy]

Sept 3, 2012 16:27:05 GMT -5 ninjabridemom said:

Sept 3, 2012 16:22:14 GMT -5 speckledfrog said:

I think people remember their kids as older babies and forget that little babies eat often.

Definitely this.

I also hate that ppl think eating often is bad for the baby. Adults should eat every few hours, too.

I know it is such a weird thing. He is a baby what else does he have going for him!

And I agree I think people only remember older babies.

Leo is a very easy baby to nurse so I don't mind until people comment on it all the time.

[eddy]

Also I think with family they get jealous because they can't hold him more. But they just need to slow their roll a bit.

[papie]

I used to get that ALL the time. You need to smile, say "thanks for the advice" and keep on nursing. Both my girls were every hour nursers for the first 3 months or so. If they insisted I was like "She's hungry, I don't like to let my child cry, thanks."

and for the super annoying types (like my mom) I ended with "Your poor children must have cried so much and nobody fed them, isn't it sad how things used to be weird in the 70s?". (ETA: because she says the pedi was making her nurse every 4 hours and not on demand)

[eddy]

Also this reminds me of how I said my c section was so easy but then I realized I pretty much took every drug under the sun to make it be that way.Well durr of course it is easy when you are as high as a kite for two weeks.

I always talk about what an easy content baby Leo is but that is because I nurse on demand so the little stinker is as happy as a clam lol.

[Deleted]

MIL used to make comments about it, mostly b/c she wanted to hold DD 24/7. One day in particular, I was over her - talking, laughing, overstaying her welcome, everything. She said, "Gah! You have to feed her agaaaaaain?!" I looked at her and said quite flatly, "She's my favorite excuse for leaving the room with unwanted company with unsolicited advice."

[eddy]

Oh yeah also Leo likes to be held by others but after awhile he sort of needs to check in and make sure I am still available. So it is just much easier if everyone just let me hold him because then he doesn't get grouchy. But MIL is trying to take him, he is fine for a couple minutes then gets mad and I have to solve the problem by shoving a boob in his face.

Somedays I would just rather stay home!

[softspot]

My family does it as well, but I am literally the first to BF in a long time. I think they just forget. Plus a lot of people may not know that BM breaks down faster than formula.

[Deleted]

I ask her if she'd rather hear him scream.