Post by janiejones on Sept 3, 2012 17:00:11 GMT -5
We spent the weekend with her, her BF and his family. She's been waiting for him to propose for a while, and while we were there his younger brother proposed to his girlfriend.
I know when the time is right it will happen, and it will be this BF, but they've been together 4+ years, she's in her 30s, and is so anxious for it to happen.
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"I was thinking about getting off on demand, but it sounds like I should be glad that I didn't"
If they're in their 30s and they've been together for 4+ years I'd start to think the time isn't going to ever be right for him
This is what I was thinking too. I mean I get when you are young to wait, it is the smart thing to do. Finish college, and get established and such, but why the hold up in your 30's?
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"I was thinking about getting off on demand, but it sounds like I should be glad that I didn't"
If they're in their 30s and they've been together for 4+ years I'd start to think the time isn't going to ever be right for him
If I didn't know him I might say the same. I know that's not it, and I'd explain but it's their business, and not nest important, KWIM?
So, what's your take on what's holding him back? This isnt a dig at him (because I *dont* know him) I'm just trying to figure out why, if he's been saying for 3 years that he wants to marry her that he doesnt just, you know, marry her?
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"I was thinking about getting off on demand, but it sounds like I should be glad that I didn't"
Fiance and I had been dating 5 years when he popped the question.
My brother had been with his gf 8 years at that point. She had been begging for a ring for years.
A few months later she gave him an ultimatum so he gave her a ring. Now they're engaged and he has no intention of ever actually getting married. They've been together almost 10 years. If she had half a brain she'd walk away, instead they're both miserable stuck in a situation where neither wants to give in.
I wonder what finishing school will change for them and if your sister is on the same page with those desires.
For instance, if he's thinking they'll be able to afford a bigger wedding then and your sister doesn't give a shit about big weddings, perhaps it's time for a new discussion, kwim?