I'd probably mention it in the chatroom whenever the "jokes" came up such as, "cool story, bro, are we gonna talk about your mama next?"
If it didn't stop, then I would definitely speak to HR but instead of saying omg, he called me fat, I'd tell them that someone is making constant offensive and derogatory comments about my appearance and has refused to stop even when asked. I'd tell them that it makes me feel uncomfortable and it's starting to make work an uncomfortable place to be. If pressed further about the nature of the comments, I'd say they were about my weight.
I like habbsies idea. As much as i like frkls idea, it might not be the most appropriate place. My H would definitely not contact HR, but he also wouldn't put up with it. I highly doubt anyone would ever try this on him though. lol
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How I responsed would depend on it it's a private chatroom in no way affiliated with my job and people chat on it at home, or if it's a company chatroom and people get on it at work.
If it's a private chatroom and everyone chats on it from home, then really, he can say whatever he wants back. But I agree that to CYA, to keep it civil.
Any chance your DH has another buddy at work who can have his back? If the asshole guy says another fat joke, the friend can come in and tell the asshole to STFU?
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Post by lissaholly on Sept 3, 2012 22:53:27 GMT -5
My DH is very sensitive about balding and his hairy chest. I have never realized it before, but it is a quick joke he will make about these things shortly after meeting someone. My H has some quick wit, too. I think there is something about a person who is self deprecating that really makes people not want to make jokes about you. Like dude calls him fat, he says " it's funny because it is true!". ( NOT that it is!!) it makes dude look like a jerk, makes others extremely uncomfortable so that your H's weight becomes off limits in their minds and it is a sarcastic "Fuck off!" for your H. The more assine the comment by co- worker the better this works. And best of all, there is nothing that can be taken out of context or twisted to look bad that your H has said. Maybe I am off base, but it seems to work well for H.