MIL and babies

[Trouble]

I am getting really tired of dealing with H's mom and trust me, he has told her to stop time and time again, but she will not leave the baby issue alone. I have health concerns and have been told by my doctor that it is not the right time to try. My mom is fine with this, I am fine with this and h is fine with this. His mom, not so much. Tuesday we were at the hospital for H to have surgery on his shoulder and while he is prepping for surgery his mom decides to come out and talk to me about grand kids. Your son is having surgery and you pick right now to harass me about kids. I explained to her again our reasons for not trying. She drops it. The yesterday she comes over and we are showing H's aunt our house and she goes in to the guest bedroom and ask why it isn't a nusury and oh this was supposed to be the nusery blah, blah blah. I told her that she is going to have to wait a few years for that and she just acted like I was asking her to cut off her right leg. Then she contenues to state that the garage should be a MIL suite. I told her no, and she exclames "Well I will just have to sleep in here with the baby!". Really?!
I am having yet another conversation with H to tell his mom to stop.

[OrangePixyStix]

Oh my, all the assumptions she is making would make my head explode, too!

I hope the next conversations go smoothly, both with you and your H and presumably with your H and his mom. There are certain boundaries and levels of privacy that everyone should respect, and that goes for family members just as much as strangers.

[darkling_glory]

Holy Fuck. This is what I would say or have your husband say some version of this,

"MIL, it means a lot to me that you are looking forward to spending time with future grandchildren. But I can't believe you'd keep bringing this up KNOWING that I am not physically healthy enough to have children. It makes me feel like shit and I don't appreciate it at all. The next time you bring it up I will be leaving immediately."

[Trouble]

Thanks OPS.

[mdgirl]

Yikes. I posted here earlier this week about my MIL annoying us about this, but we have the luxury of being on the opposite side of the country and not having to deal with her much. Talk to your husband about it first, but the next time she brings it up ask why she wants to put having a grandkid ahead of your health, and make her give you an answer.

[Trouble]

May 17, 2012 13:18:24 GMT -5 darkling_glory said:

Holy Fuck. This is what I would say or have your husband say some version of this,

"MIL, it means a lot to me that you are looking forward to spending time with future grandchildren. But I can't believe you'd keep bringing this up KNOWING that I am not physically healthy enough to have children. It makes me feel like shit and I don't appreciate it at all. The next time you bring it up I will be leaving immediately."

This is perfect!

[alabasterangel]

Pickle fork to the forehead.

[Trouble]

Thanks gals, I just had get this off my chest.
now I am off to find pickle forks!

[shellybelly]

May 17, 2012 13:18:24 GMT -5 darkling_glory said:

Holy Fuck. This is what I would say or have your husband say some version of this,

"MIL, it means a lot to me that you are looking forward to spending time with future grandchildren. But I can't believe you'd keep bringing this up KNOWING that I am not physically healthy enough to have children. It makes me feel like shit and I don't appreciate it at all. The next time you bring it up I will be leaving immediately."

^
I like this.

[Deleted]

H's mom used to bug us about kids. One time I told her we weren't having children, just puppies.

Her response, "well that is the stupiest thing I have ever heard."
But that was the last time I ever heard about it.