I need to be bummed for a second.

[amberlyrose]

And of course I can't say anything to my family. 

I was planning on going on a girls' trip next weekend. With the new house buying, I'd set aside some money just for the trip. I didn't know until last weekend if I'd have enough to go, so I didn't purchase airfare or commit to anything. After budgeting, DH and I figured it wouldn't hurt, so I started looking at costs. Was planning on booking it all today. 

And then my grandpa died. They planned the memorial the Friday before the trip, so I thought about going from Denver to Phx then on to see friends, but my dad needed help getting there too. So the money I had planned for the trip is now going to mine and my dad's plane tickets to phoenix. He never ever ever ever asks for help, and he really didn't this time, but dropped a hint or two. There is no way I could've gone without feeling guilty. I feel guilty now just being sad about not going on the trip. But, dammit, I'm bummed about it DH said I could do both and we'd just budget around it, but I just couldn't spend that amount of money on one weekend while he stays home with the dogs.

At least I get to see my dad and be there for him. 

[W.T.Faulkner]

I'm sorry. (hugs)

[Deleted]

I think you should do both and budget around it.


Don't feel guilty helping your dad get to the funeral, you will never regret doing that for him.

I am so sorry for your loss

[lilac05]

It's OK to be bummed/sad about it. Anyone would be! It's the right thing to do, but it doesn't make it any easier.

If this trip doesn't work in your budget, start saving, planning, & looking forward to the next one!

[amberlyrose]

May 27, 2016 12:41:26 GMT -5 @lazerus24 said:

I think you should do both and budget around it.


Don't feel guilty helping your dad get to the funeral, you will never regret doing that for him.

I am so sorry for your loss

With the new house, I've been buying things left and right. I just can't justify it. 

[sparkythelawyer]

Sorry :-(

[amberlyrose]

May 27, 2016 12:56:39 GMT -5 sparkythelawyer said:

Sorry

 I'm never going to see you!

[winecat]

I agree with Laz. If he thinks you can budget for both, I'd go on both trips. Your H is a good egg.

[FastHands]

How often do you see these girls and do you do these trips often? If not, you should really consider still going. You can tighten the belt afterward and "pay yourself back." Your H is just staying at home -- it's not like you're inconveniencing him. And you deserve a break.

[winecat]

I'm sorry to hear about your loss.

[4speedy]

I am sorry to hear about your grandpa. You are such a good daughter and there will be gobs of good karma coming your way.

[amberlyrose]

May 27, 2016 12:58:36 GMT -5 winecat said:

I agree with Laz. If he thinks you can budget for both, I'd go on both trips. Your H is a good egg.

He is. 
He didn't even blink when I said something about buying my dad's ticket. 

[winecat]

May 27, 2016 13:04:00 GMT -5 amberlyrose said:

May 27, 2016 12:58:36 GMT -5 winecat said:

I agree with Laz. If he thinks you can budget for both, I'd go on both trips. Your H is a good egg.

He is. 
He didn't even blink when I said something about buying my dad's ticket. 

I trust that he would also say if you absolutely shouldn't make both trips.    

[amberlyrose]

May 27, 2016 13:05:49 GMT -5 winecat said:

May 27, 2016 13:04:00 GMT -5 amberlyrose said:

He is. 
He didn't even blink when I said something about buying my dad's ticket. 

I trust that he would also say if you absolutely shouldn't make both trips.    

I wouldn't. lol. He's too good to me sometimes, and I think would let me go even if it wasn't a good financial decision. 

[winecat]

And, if for some reason he needs to be gone too long one day, I can come over and let your dogs out. #benefitofhavingmeasaneighbor

[amberlyrose]

May 27, 2016 13:07:54 GMT -5 winecat said:

And, if for some reason he needs to be gone too long one day, I can come over and let your dogs out. #benefitofhavingmeasaneighbor

Aww! You're the best!  (heart)

[litebright]

I'm sorry, hon. That's never a good feeling when obligation/practicality trumps something you'd been looking forward to.

If you really don't feel good about swinging both trips, I know it wouldn't be the same, but you could dial it back with a GNO with local friends. I even know a bunch of people who would join you if you wanted us!

[muffin0]

I'm so sorry, you are allowed to be bummed. Very valid reasons, and yay for your husband being sweet. Adulting properly and responsibly sucks, add to that a death and missed trip, and its bum out city.

Sorry.

[pantsparty]

Oh man Last year we had to bail on a trip because of not-fun reasons as well. It sucks being an adult sometimes. I'm sorry for your loss

[amberlyrose]

May 27, 2016 13:11:39 GMT -5 litebright said:

I'm sorry, hon. That's never a good feeling when obligation/practicality trumps something you'd been looking forward to.

If you really don't feel good about swinging both trips, I know it wouldn't be the same, but you could dial it back with a GNO with local friends. I even know a bunch of people who would join you if you wanted us!

I really lucked out with such a good group of CO ladies. I'll let you know.

[sparkythelawyer]

May 27, 2016 12:58:01 GMT -5 amberlyrose said:

May 27, 2016 12:56:39 GMT -5 sparkythelawyer said:

Sorry

 I'm never going to see you!

Goddammit!

[styme46]

May 27, 2016 13:27:09 GMT -5 amberlyrose said:

May 27, 2016 13:11:39 GMT -5 litebright said:

I'm sorry, hon. That's never a good feeling when obligation/practicality trumps something you'd been looking forward to.

If you really don't feel good about swinging both trips, I know it wouldn't be the same, but you could dial it back with a GNO with local friends. I even know a bunch of people who would join you if you wanted us!

I really lucked out with such a good group of CO ladies. I'll let you know.

I would even brave driving in Denver to come hang out! But I would request that everyone wear name tags with their user names on it so I know who is who. ;-)

I'm sorry for your loss. (((HUGS)))

[sassycat]

Very sorry for your loss, and you have the right to be bummed. If your H says go for it then you know what, thank him very much and take the trip. You have been through a lot, and with just burying your grandpa a nice little stress reliever with some great friends is just what you need.

Just don't buy that nice rug, or patio set for your new house quite yet.

Enjoy.

That is what I would do anyway. You are entitled to a little fun in all the chaos.

[venice2007]

Sorry for your loss and missed trip
:-(

[jennistarr1]

I'm really sorry

[underwaterrhymes]

I'm so, so sorry.

[underwaterrhymes]

Also.

We get together pretty regularly in Chicago.

If you want to come another time, I'm pretty sure you'd have a welcoming committee.

[amberlyrose]

May 27, 2016 17:10:47 GMT -5 underwaterrhymes said:

Also.

We get together pretty regularly in Chicago.

If you want to come another time, I'm pretty sure you'd have a welcoming committee.

(heart) (heart)

[bonquiqui]

I am so sorry. Vent away ❤️

[meganew]

I'm so sorry for your loss. And I'm sorry about your weekend : (

Your H sounds like a keeper <3