So BF's neighbor/friend is getting married. She asked for his middle name for the invitation (guess they gon' be fancy). He gave it to her and then gave her mine, but she said she only needed mine if we were engaged. Otherwise his invitation will just be addressed to BF MIDDLE LAST & Guest. Weird, right?
Um I think middle name of the guest is odd. The non name (guest) part drives me insane. Yes, I get its etiquette. But, tunes have changed. Pretty sure the brides family isn't giving the grooms a few cows
I imagine if they're going to be fancy enough to include middle names on the invite, they're following every Emily Post etiquette rule to the letter. I'm pretty sure only saying "and guest" for anyone not engaged or more is an old fashioned etiquette rule.
It is still weird though.
Ok, this wouldn't surprise me. Her family has a LOT of money and she seems like the type to go all out. She throws very elaborate parties with printed menus and place cards and stuff. I did not know that was an actual etiquette rule.
weird. But I'm guessing most women don't get names. If they are that old fashioned, they are probably going the "Mrs. and Mr. John Quincy Adams" route. You'll be in good company with all the other pissed off people.
The only time we are careful when addressing envelopes is for our southern relatives. Apparently if you don't do it right it can offend.
Yeah, I was wondering if it was a super duper formal southern thing. It reminds me of the time I taught at a well-to-do private school in NC. On the panflete that had the teachers' info, all the married female teachers were listed as "Mrs. Husband's first name last name (actual teacher's first name). Fucked up.
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Post by wesleycrusher4ever on May 28, 2016 16:23:36 GMT -5
The last super fancy southern wedding I went to was like. My friend knows my SO's name and we live together, but it only had my full name on the invitation.
The only time we are careful when addressing envelopes is for our southern relatives. Apparently if you don't do it right it can offend.
Yeah, I was wondering if it was a super duper formal southern thing. It reminds me of the time I taught at a well-to-do private school in NC. On the panflete that had the teachers' info, all the married female teachers were listed as "Mrs. Husband's first name last name (actual teacher's first name). Fucked up.
Boy this brought me back. This was how my mom used to sign things like notes to the school about an absence. She was neither formal nor from the south. I never knew where it came from.
It's odd that she said she'd only take it if you were engaged! If I knew who a person was bringing then I'd put their name. If I didn't know (or they were unlikely to bring a guest at all) it was just "& guest".
I got engaged in February and married in May in the middle of a million weddings. One couple (wedding a month after mine) included me on my parents invitation and didn't invite my husband at all. Yes, they knew I was getting married--her parents sent a gravy boat. 10 years later and I still wonder why I was even included on the invite. We also got a "and guest" invite from an acquaintance around then--we had been dating for 8 years. Signed--from the Deep South and they still messed up.
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I absolutely HATE being referred to as Mrs. H'sFirstandLast. Rage. I have a name, damnit. Use it.
Yep. I'd rather be "and Guest"
That suggests I have an identity, I'm just unknown to the host. Mrs. MrSonrisa is a holdover from coverture when a woman stopped having an independent legal existence upon marriage. You couldn't sign your own name to a binding legal document, so why did you need a name anyways?