Get a camera Let them know you called the police etc
We had a situation a few years ago where my h had parked outside a neighbor's house (we have a fire hydrant so can't park in front of our house). It was a new neighbor and he left a note threatening to tow our car even though it's a public street and anyone can park anywhere. That sure endeared him to the neighborhood lol. Now he could have got our car towed but at his expense- the city won't touch it.
Sorry you are going through this.
I did like your last idea of getting stickers to put on their car but don't do it. Would be hilarious though.
dr.girlfriend, I love your diagrams!!! Made it much easier to follow.
I suggest two things: 1. get one of those game cams (seriously, they are like $80 on Amazon) to appease your H and catch your neighbors in action if they pull any more shenanigans. We had to do this with some punk ass neighbor kids (long story short - their parents INSISTED the kids weren't doing anything wrong, and then we caught them red-handed stealing an address sign off our front yard. Who steals an address sign!? punk ass kids.)
2. Proactively address this with the neighbors. Go over when you know both are at home, and share two things: (1) You have spoken with law enforcement (name the cop) and are well within your rights to park where you park, and you recognize this might be an inconvenience to them, and it is also an inconvenience to you. (2) You would appreciate their kids not haranguing you about this issue - if there are things they feel need to be addressed, one of the adults come speak to you directly (3) There was a suspicious and fake sticker (show the photo) placed on your car, and you "wanted them to be aware" that this was going on in the neighborhood so they could keep an eye out. In your shoes, I would also note that you were improving your home security and surveillance,but that's just me.
Mother fuckers! I am most pissed at the fake sticker and the idiot kid telling you it's rude - fuck off kid! Fired up on your behalf
I just have one tidbit of advice. A lot of towns have an ordinance that a park parked in the same spot for 48 hours us abandoned. At my condo, my cars were even towed a few times for this. And my last house, the police issued threats. Id move the cars every other day, even if it's just a few feet up or down the street. It's only s matter of time for these idiots to call the cops to cause trouble.
Id move the cars every other day, even if it's just a few feet up or down the street. It's only s matter of time for these idiots to call the cops to cause trouble.
From what I understand (I have 2 neighbors who are dealing w/ the recall too) that once the car is towed back to their house, they have to agree to NOT move the car again. Obviously Dr. G can speak to this more directly as she's living it. But as I understand, she's actually should NOT be touching the cars again until the recall issue is fixed.
Past that, Dr. G, I agree- you're doing NOTHING wrong. I also agree w/ @shoegal, on what to do. I would also make a comment about how you're documenting everything (and actually do so! Dates and times of the stickers, dates and times and what was said with the son, etc).
These people are assholes. I would not appease them at all. AT ALL.
Neighbors who park in front of their own property are the best kind of neighbors. You're fine!
Although if it was me, I'd park all my cars on the street now. I told my neighbor if he pulled any more shady shit I'd buy a dozen beaters and line the whole fucking street with my vehicles.
dr.girlfriend, I love your diagrams!!! Made it much easier to follow.
I suggest two things: 1. get one of those game cams (seriously, they are like $80 on Amazon) to appease your H and catch your neighbors in action if they pull any more shenanigans. We had to do this with some punk ass neighbor kids (long story short - their parents INSISTED the kids weren't doing anything wrong, and then we caught them red-handed stealing an address sign off our front yard. Who steals an address sign!? punk ass kids.)
2. Proactively address this with the neighbors. Go over when you know both are at home, and share two things: (1) You have spoken with law enforcement (name the cop) and are well within your rights to park where you park, and you recognize this might be an inconvenience to them, and it is also an inconvenience to you. (2) You would appreciate their kids not haranguing you about this issue - if there are things they feel need to be addressed, one of the adults come speak to you directly (3) There was a suspicious and fake sticker (show the photo) placed on your car, and you "wanted them to be aware" that this was going on in the neighborhood so they could keep an eye out. In your shoes, I would also note that you were improving your home security and surveillance,but that's just me.
Mother fuckers! I am most pissed at the fake sticker and the idiot kid telling you it's rude - fuck off kid! Fired up on your behalf
I am enraged on your behalf. Your neighbors are completely out of line. I would lose my shit if my neighbor put a sticker on my car. OMFG. Leaving aside the fact that they are total assholes and 100% wrong, why couldn't they leave a note or something under the windshield wiper like a normal passive aggressive neighbor? A sticker would put me through the roof on this. I'd be tempted to park all four cars in the street out of spite. It's a public street. If they don't want to see cars parked there, they should move to a gd gated community that doesn't allow street parking.
I am completely that they put a fucking sticker on your car! Oh my god. No. No. No. I'm not big on confrontation, but fuck no. I absolutely would not move the cars now. I'd rather spend money on cameras than do anything to remotely appease them. I'd also plaster "yard and vehicles under surveillance" signs on the fence, yard, cars. Very obnoxious ones. I'm sorry you're dealing with this. Ugh.
1. Do you have a garage? If so, why aren't you parking 1 or more cars there? No blame, just wondering.
2. How long have your Fits been on the street?
3. How much longer will they be on the street?
4. Are there lots of kids on your street?
Are you the chucklefuck neighbor? Because none of this has anything bearing on OP legally parking her cars and chucklefuck illegally vandalizing her vehicles.
I don't think that means what you think it means. :-P
Internalizing Definition: make (attitudes or behavior) part of one's nature by learning or unconscious assimilation.
You made a commendable spreadsheet to defend someone's complaining about your parking legally on a public street. There is no need, unless you feel a need to defend yourself, against something that doesn't need defending. His comments and behaviors have gotten to you. That's all. I am sorry for that. It sucks to have neighbors who make you feel bad for doing rational, normal, legal things. I don't know what you think it means.
Yes, thank you, I have a Ph.D. in Psychology, I know what internalizing means, and that you're using it wrong. I made the visuals so I could vent to this board about how ridiculous the neighbors are because there's no way I could describe this situation verbally. Internalizing would mean that I had accepted and INTERNALIZED their judgment that we were wrong to park where we park. Stop trying to tell me I'm at fault for feeling harassed when someone is harassing me.
In the name of mild appeasement, I might put a note in all 3 neighbors' mailboxes. "Our cars are part of a nationwide recall, and are undriveable until mid-summer. We have parked them so they will still allow access to your respective parking spots. Thanks, the Gs"
In the name of mild appeasement, I might put a note in all 3 neighbors' mailboxes. "Our cars are part of a nationwide recall, and are undriveable until mid-summer. We have legally parked them so they will still allow access to your respective parking spots. Thanks, the Gs"
Thanks, guys. I did think about the security cameras, but I'm guessing if they acted out it would be against the Fits, and so any camera around the house or our driveway wouldn't capture it. This whole areas is much more elongated than I depicted it, probably. I guess maybe I could mount one to a tree in our yard? We do have a six-foot fence around our yard.
As for parking one Fit in our driveway, I didn't actually think about it because it where the Fits are parked doesn't affect them at all, but now I think it's GENIUS! They want two cars in our driveway, okay. I'll move one of the cars that doesn't affect them at all to our driveway, and keep parking our other car on the street where it's always been.
Ugh, poor DH is so freaked out about this.
I would get a wireless webcam and mount it to the tree or fence.
Yeah, I think I might do this. My friend has a system and actually has an extra base (he wanted two cameras and they weren't sold separately at that time) so I would just have to spring for the camera. The only thing is that to really point it at the Hondas, it would probably pick up motion for every car on that street and every time someone walked on the sidewalk (and we have a quiet, nice neighborhood where everyone walks their dogs, etc.) Well, it may be worth it if something happens.
Your neighbors are assholes. I'd be PISSED though that someone stuck that thing on my car. What if it didn't come off easily?
Yeah, all the Amazon reviews for it are like, "It took a really long time to scrape it off and still left some glue, it's a good deterrent." So, it was definitely deliberately meant to be a PITA.
In the name of mild appeasement, I might put a note in all 3 neighbors' mailboxes. "Our cars are part of a nationwide recall, and are undriveable until mid-summer. We have legally parked them so they will still allow access to your respective parking spots. And if you so much as BREATHE on them, we will be calling the police. Fuck you very much, Thanks, the Gs"
Your neighbors are assholes. I'd be PISSED though that someone stuck that thing on my car. What if it didn't come off easily?
Yeah, all the Amazon reviews for it are like, "It took a really long time to scrape it off and still left some glue, it's a good deterrent." So, it was definitely deliberately meant to be a PITA.
IRL - I would probably move the cars b/c I'm like your DH. They sounds like hateful racist a-holes - not sure I'd mess with them.
But what I'd really want to do? Like OPs - set up the cameras, maybe warn them in writing that you're monitoring the cars and have consulted w/the police and been told they're legally parked. Pleeeeaasse go on Judge Judy if they slash your tires.
Neighbour c is maybe the only person who could/should be annoyed. Because the cars are in front of their house. But even then, a normal person would just ask you why your cars haven't moved, hear about the recall and say "oh that sucks for you" and move on with their lives.
And that's a pretty big maybe because it's not on "their" side of the street so they still have convenient street parking right in front of their house.
I don't get people like this at all. My mom gets annoyed with my neighbours parking on the street (I tell her to ignore it, she's being crazy, we don't care). The only time I've called bylaw was when the truck didn't move for weeks and no one within 3 houses knew who it belonged to. And it took us weeks to start caring!
Post by heliocentric on Jun 3, 2016 10:51:25 GMT -5
I'd also set up cameras. (We have two cameras on our property and they are great--especially for this kind of thing.)
Do you have a neighborhood listserv? If so (because I am a wuss) I'd post something about how the stickers were put on your cars (with photos) and that you spoke to the police who informed you they didn't apply the stickers and you are legally parked. Then I'd mention that you are concerned for the neighborhood because clearly someone is messing with your personal property / potentially vandalizing cars. Then advise that everyone should be concerned and on the lookout and that the police will also be patrolling periodically (even if they aren't) and that you've installed cameras. This way you're letting them know what's up disguised as a helpful announcement for the neighborhood.
In the name of mild appeasement, I might put a note in all 3 neighbors' mailboxes. "Our cars are part of a nationwide recall, and are undriveable until mid-summer. We have legally parked them so they will still allow access to your respective parking spots. Thanks, the Gs"
Yes, I like this and might even add something like "We have discussed this with law enforcement and have ensured that we have legally parked them..."
Post by explorer2001 on Jun 3, 2016 12:23:10 GMT -5
You're right. They're assholes. My only question is if the kid harassed your H before or after the stickers were reported to the police and if it was documented as part of that conversation. If not, you may want to document the harassment with the police. Your neighbors' behaviour is illegal in addition to being deplorable.