Wtf. If i am following correctly, only neighbor A's son has actually.said something. The douche canoe put stickers on your cars and parked in front of your house. This makes no fucking sense to me. They all have places to park their own shit. Your "extra" cars aren't doing anything to anyone. I am so sorry you have to deal with this.
Wtf. If i am following correctly, only neighbor A's son has actually.said something. The douche canoe put stickers on your cars and parked in front of your house. This makes no fucking sense to me. They all have places to park their own shit. Your "extra" cars aren't doing anything to anyone. I am so sorry you have to deal with this.
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Yeah, DH keeps trying to find the logic in it, and there just is none. And so DH keeps thinking that if he's that illogical, maybe he's just full-on crazy and will actually hurt us, or our kid, or our dog. Whereas I think he's just a garden-variety racist/asshole, of the type I grew up with on every street corner in Oklahoma. Here's how I explained it to DH: I think that he doesn't like us. But it's not enough for him to just secretly dislike us, he needs for us to KNOW that he dislikes us and that we are unwelcome here. But, he's not brave enough to just walk over and say, "I don't like you and I don't want you here." So, he watches our house, and looks for anything that gives him the slightest excuse to get into it with us, and then uses it to communicate to us how much he doesn't like us. And then he goes back to his house, all smug and satisfied that we've been thoroughly informed of how much he doesn't like us. And that warms his asshole little heart.
As much as I would want to do something for revenge, I wouldn't want to start a war. If a son that *doesn't even live there* is going to make such an effort to piss you off, There's no telling what else they will do. I'd hate for someone to be harmed.
Something sort of similar happened at our lake house when I was growing up. It resulted in us dealing with $$ damage and us dreading even going because we didn't know what we would arrive to find. Nobody won. It went on for YEARS. It only ended when we sold the place.
Your neighbor is seriously fucking unhinged. Which is about where I am headed after seeing your update. I'm impressed with any restraint you and your DH are showing. Because my first response would be to rearrange my four cars to park (a) in his former spot across the street, (b) in front of his truck AND (c) behind his truck. And then order my own set of stickers on Amazon and make sure the hood of his car gets one.
Google 'cease and desist' and send it registered to their house. Seriously though, dude sounds insane.
Now would be a good time to put up some cameras, who knows what his next move will be. You can get them pretty cheap on amazon, and they can connect to your wifi.
Yeah, I'd just KOKO. And next time they say something, depending on my mood, I'd tell them to eat a bug. And possibly go park both cars in front of their house.
I think everybody on our street would like you. Want to move?
Seriously, though, he seems unhinged. I would document everything and call the police again if you feel the slightest bit threatened (including things like the stickers on the car). And also keep us posted.
Omg what an asshole. I'm sorry that you have to deal with this. Is the son always around? Can you speak with the neighbor directly or it's not even worth reasoning with a racist moron? Sadly, I think it's the latter.
Just wa Ted to thank you for posting. I started googling because I'm nosy to see what was so seriously wrong with your cars, that you couldn't drive them.... And I discovered that DH's pickup truck is on the list for the very same recall. I'm checking into it today, so thanks!
Wtf. If i am following correctly, only neighbor A's son has actually.said something. The douche canoe put stickers on your cars and parked in front of your house. This makes no fucking sense to me. They all have places to park their own shit. Your "extra" cars aren't doing anything to anyone. I am so sorry you have to deal with this.
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Yeah, DH keeps trying to find the logic in it, and there just is none. And so DH keeps thinking that if he's that illogical, maybe he's just full-on crazy and will actually hurt us, or our kid, or our dog. Whereas I think he's just a garden-variety racist/asshole, of the type I grew up with on every street corner in Oklahoma. Here's how I explained it to DH: I think that he doesn't like us. But it's not enough for him to just secretly dislike us, he needs for us to KNOW that he dislikes us and that we are unwelcome here. But, he's not brave enough to just walk over and say, "I don't like you and I don't want you here." So, he watches our house, and looks for anything that gives him the slightest excuse to get into it with us, and then uses it to communicate to us how much he doesn't like us. And then he goes back to his house, all smug and satisfied that we've been thoroughly informed of how much he doesn't like us. And that warms his asshole little heart.
I think you are spot on with this. It sucks so bad you and your family have to put up with this crap. I would not do anything more than you already have except put up the cameras, little minded people as they are I still think their type could get more dangerous when poked.
Wow, I can't believe he parked in front of your house. And yes, I think he's a racist, because no one legitimately cares that much about legally parked cars.
I would not want to verbally escalate with these people. I would want every incident documented. I would park one fit one driveway and leave other in street. I would send a certified letter and cc yourself that the other car is remaining in the street until recall ends.
I would also document in writing for yourself and if needed police what has occurred with the sticker on property and notify the non emergency police of the sons verbal threats and indicate the man is now parking in front of your house. You may at some point need to demonstrate a pattern of harassment if these racist assholes keep up with this shit. They need to know that you are not afraid to park on a public street, but you need to do it in such a way that keeps your family as safe as possible. (Whereas ongoing harassment makes you feel uncomfortable in your own home/street).
As much as I would want to do something for revenge, I wouldn't want to start a war.
Agreed. Unless I missed a separate update, this latest issue is that he parked in front of your house. Which is legal, and you're parked in front of his. He's trying to get a rise out of you, sure, but I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that he's dangerous, and I certainly wouldn't start calling non-emergency lines. I'd consider getting that trail cam and then keep a low profile.
I get the desire to retaliate but I agree- I'd stay calm and keep to myself. BUT - yes, I'd install security cameras. I don't trust these people one bit. And as I said before, document!!1. Keep your power point, keep that picture. Date them, write down what happened in all these incidents.
And yes, when appropriate, talk to the police. I wouldn't call over the guy legally parking in front of your house- BUT anything they do that seems threatening to you? Yes, I'd also want it on record. If you can create a relationship w/ an officer - maybe the one who came out about the stickers - that could maybe be a contact point.
As much as I would want to do something for revenge, I wouldn't want to start a war.
Agreed. Unless I missed a separate update, this latest issue is that he parked in front of your house. Which is legal, and you're parked in front of his. He's trying to get a rise out of you, sure, but I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that he's dangerous, and I certainly wouldn't start calling non-emergency lines. I'd consider getting that trail cam and then keep a low profile.
I don't think dr.g is parked in front of his house (at least not on his side of the street). The two Fits are father away along her property.
Agreed. Unless I missed a separate update, this latest issue is that he parked in front of your house. Which is legal, and you're parked in front of his. He's trying to get a rise out of you, sure, but I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that he's dangerous, and I certainly wouldn't start calling non-emergency lines. I'd consider getting that trail cam and then keep a low profile.
I don't think dr.g is parked in front of his house (at least not on his side of the street). The two Fits are father away along her property.
Ok, looking at the diagrams again, it looks like the crappy neighbors live across the street from OP. So in the update, he's parked in front of her house, which is...across the street from his. Intentional I'm sure, and irritating, but not rage-worthy.
I don't think dr.g is parked in front of his house (at least not on his side of the street). The two Fits are father away along her property.
Ok, looking at the diagrams again, it looks like the crappy neighbors live across the street from OP. So in the update, he's parked in front of her house, which is...across the street from his. Intentional I'm sure, and irritating, but not rage-worthy.
Not rage-worthy, agreed. But a sign of potential unhingedness when following vandalism of her cars (via the stickers) and aggressive behavior by the adult child who doesn't even live there. He is trying to get a ride out of dr.g and/or get the last word.
Post by dr.girlfriend on Jun 4, 2016 9:29:12 GMT -5
Thanks, everyone. I think it's really helped to vent here and get reassurance. I think if I were stewing about this on my own I would have taken it a lot worse, but as it is as soon as I got home and saw his car I was like, "I have to take a picture of this for MM!" :-D
I am definitely not going to retaliate or escalate the situation in any way. I understand that talking to the guy seems like a reasonable approach, but he hasn't even responded the few times I have attempted to say a friendly hello, so I am not going to risk going on to his property to address this with him. I am kind of downplaying DH's fears but he is kind of legitimately a scary guy. We did order a two-camera system (the Arlo if anyone is curious, it's the one my boss has and likes). It'll get here on Thursday. I think I'm going to move my Fit to the top of the driveway, since the inspection has actually expired while it's been recalled. I'll move the other one over a little more but leave it where it is, out of the way. I expect DH will continue to park around the corner. We'll see if one camera can cover the Fit that's still on the street and the other can cover our driveway which leads up to the door we use most. I don't love having spent $300 on this nonsense but if something happens I'll probably be glad I did.
Dr G, I am simultaneously heartbroken and enraged that you have to deal with this racist fucknut. I cannot believe that I'm 2016, you and your husband have to even worry about whether he's truly dangerous, or all bluster. I am really so very sorry, and commend you for how you're handling the situation.
Love of my life baby boy born 11/11. One and done not by choice; 3 years of TTC yielded 4 MMC and 2 CPs, through 4 IUIs and 2 IVFs. Focusing on making the world a better place instead...and running.
While I think these people (your neighbors) are disgusting, I agree that staying calm and protecting yourself w/ cameras is the best course of action. I am so glad we are a place for you to vent to. I would die without an outlet here.
I don't know if I could be calm after the last update. Some cities have regulations on how far from a driveway you must park. I'd find out if they were in violation and call non-emergency.
I'm so sorry you have to deal with these racist jerks.
I'm sorry you are dealing with this bully. I had a feeling that complying with his son's request wouldn't help and he is doing things in an attempt to provoke you. I'm glad you are getting a camera. After that, I would be tempted to park the recalled cars right in front of your house and if they tried to mess with them, you will have it on video. Get your car registration up to date first, then report them if they are parking backwards or too close to your driveway.
I don't know if I could be calm after the last update. Some cities have regulations on how far from a driveway you must park. I'd find out if they were in violation and call non-emergency.
I'm so sorry you have to deal with these racist jerks.
Honestly...I like to keep some things off the board, but my sister just found out today that her husband's cancer is too aggressive to be operable (he's already had one open-chest surgery, chemo, radiation, and more chemo, but they were hoping it would be contained enough to do another surgery). These idiots and their petty grievances seem like the stupidest thing on earth right now.