S/O of "I love you" thread- saying the word "Love"

[doriswe]

I really don't think guys think like that! I'm also huge on loving stuff....songs, rain, food, etc. I've never once been told that me saying "I love Nutter Butters" is over the top or anything. I also don't think loving lots of stuff makes "LOVE" in the context of feelings for someone else any less important.

I'm actually a little concerned that you're purposefully toning down who you are for some dude, to be honest!

[starburst604]

Edited, wrong thread.

[doriswe]

Sept 4, 2012 19:42:29 GMT -5 jellymankelly said:

Sept 4, 2012 19:37:22 GMT -5 doriswe said:

I'm actually a little concerned that you're purposefully toning down who you are for some dude, to be honest!

Nooo, it's not FOR him, it's just because I've felt like I've been coming on too strong with a lot of people lately. It's real and natural for me, but I started to get the sense that I was coming across to people as trying too hard, or faking the enthusiasm to cover up my misery with my divorce and custody situation, and frankly, I was starting to get on my own nerves. I would hear things come out of my mouth and be like, "Who the hell said that?!" I've been working on being positive without being too over the top and gushy about everything. It just feels REALLY good to feel like myself again and sometimes it's hard to not act like an espresso-fueled cheerleader all the time.

Okay....you get a pass!!

I'll say that I'm waaayyyyy more gushy and over the top since the divorce. I have really taken stock of what is important and how good I have it, so I think I'm pretty Susy Sunshine these days, when that was not the case back in the day!

[lookingup]

I "love" a lot of things, too! I'm also very passionate, but I don't think that means I overuse the word. If I say it, it has meaning, regardless what it's about.

[jade28]

Sept 4, 2012 19:28:57 GMT -5 jellymankelly said:

Do you find that you overuse it? I've been noticing lately that I "love" a lot of things. I'm a very passionate and over the top person by nature, and find myself gushing over stuff and saying the word love all the time. (I LOVE that color on you. I LOVE this restaurant. I LOVE Red Stag. I LOVE this song.) It makes me wonder a little if The Guy cringes every time he hears me say "I love" because he's afraid "you" is going to be the next word ...and since I "love" so many things, does it kind of diminish the "I love you" thing?

(note: I've done a good job of toning down the enthusiasm lately, but this is something that keeps creeping back in!)

Haha I could have written this post! I am a total overeager, over excitable lovey dovey person. I just love to love. I love a lot of stuff and people and places. I can usually find something I love in anything and anyone. I totally have wondered if my bf is worried I will just throw that out there to him soon. He knows I am melodramatic though and I think he kind of likes my over the top language haha. I do worry though using the word so often may diminish it when I really mean it as something more. I still want it to be special.

[roselis]

I love a lot of things too. And I tell my friends I love them as well. My BFF and I say we love you when we hang up after a call. I don't think it diminishes the meaning of it at all because there are so many types of love.
The love I had for my XH is not the same love I have for my BFF and is not the same love I have for DS or for my friends or my family or anything else.

[jojoandleo]

I'm a lover. I say it to all my close friends, OFTEN, and I say it about a lot of stupid shit. Someone told me once that I say "I love you" too much, but I say it is better to say it too much than not enough.