Question about Facebook etiquette

[flex]

I'm an Old, so please be patient with me.  lol

My mother's celebration of life will be held in my home town at the end of this month.  Would it be tacky to post something about the event on FB?  A lot of younger relatives don't read the papers--they use social media.  Would it be icky of me to post details as to the location, time, in lieu of flowers..., etc.?  

[mcmel]

Yes, that's completely fine.

[pantsparty]

That's fine. I appreciate when people put information like this on Facebook.

[bex1973]

Totally fine. I see this kind of thing often.

[hopecounts]

Definitely OK, I have seen it done before and thought it made sense for those of us who don't check the paper regularly.

[berbles]

Not tacky. Very much appreciated for those who use FB as their primary way of contacting people they don't see regularly.

[melissa]

Not tacky at all and it is a great way to spread the word. One caveat - as long as all of the immediate family knows. I've seen stories where people find things out on FB that they should have been told about before it was posted online.

[flex]

Another question: would it be appropriate to create a separate page for the event?

[bex1973]

You can create an event I would probably only do so if I wanted an idea how many people were coming for food or seat counts.

[flex]

Jul 6, 2016 13:45:25 GMT -5 bex1973 said:

You can create an event I would probably only do so if I wanted an idea how many people were coming for food or seat counts.

Okay.  That makes sense.  We're not really looking for a head count as we have a fairly good idea of how many people will be there. 

Thank you!!

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Jul 6, 2016 13:43:10 GMT -5 flex said:

Another question: would it be appropriate to create a separate page for the event?

I think you can, especially if you want to ensure certain people see the details. Allow people to add others you may not have on your Facebook.

[steph96]

I'm not a fan of ONLY doing it that way. My husband's grandma did that with a family member's memorial and my husband never saw her status because he doesn't check Facebook often. I didn't see it because I had her hidden from my feed. My husband was really upset that he missed the memorial.

If you can't call/text all of the family members, I would also send them a message on Facebook or tag them on the status (or in the comments of the status). Or you could create an event and invite people.

[MixedBerryJam]

That would be fine. Posting about her services, etc. is fine. Just (obviously moot in this situation) don't let people find out she has passed away on fb. That's my rule, anyway;I posted info about both my husband's and my mother's services on fb.

[fairygodmother]

I think FB and also a private email (bcc everyone to avoid the effing Reply All) are fine, presuming this is not the first time anyone will have heard of her passing...

Signed,
Also The Old

[flex]

FYI: There will be an obituary printed in the paper because Olds. lol

But I have tons of cousins, second cousins, and yes, even third cousins who use social media ONLY. I'm just trying to cover all the bases. Thank you for the feedback!

[moolarkey]

I think it's fine and actually, it's been very helpful to get information recently for a couple of family and friends that have passed in the last couple of months. If you can link to a map, that's really helpful.

[verycontrary247]

Not tacky at all.

I would also probably cross post that event to any schools if she was an active alumni