Ex is so clueless it makes me laugh

[formerlyak]

The past two years, at this time of year we start chatting about the holidays and who will have ds when. The only things spelled out in our agreement is that DS is with ex on Thanksgiving day, with me the Saturday after Thanksgiving, with ex on Christmas Eve and with me on Christmas Day. Other than that we kind of split the week between Christmas and New Year and call it a day.

So I sent the dates where everything falls to ex because fi and I are planning a trip to Vegas the week between Christmas and New Year and I want to confirm that ex wants the same dates he has had the past two years.

We were talking on the phone about something not related to this and then I asked him to let me know this week, because we have found a great deal on hotel for our trip, but it is only good if we book this week. He said he has to check with her girlfriend and that is so far away. I reminded him that last year at this time, he emailed me and TOLD me that he'd be gone for 12 days that time of year, so I am simply confirming the schedule for the holidays so we can plan our 3 day trip.

Here's the laughable part - he said to me, "Well me being gone 12 days didn't affect you. So that shouldn't matter." I had to remind him that 4 of those 12 days were his regular days with ds and I needed to rearrange my schedule to accommodate his vacation, so that trip actually did affect me. How does he not get that he is not the only person involved here? Glad to not be married to someone who sees things as so one-sided anymore!

[naeljun]

I swear we were married to the same person.

[formerlyak]

Glad this doesn't qualify as "drama"

Thank goodness fi knew from the get go that ex was this clueless and doesn't prioritize ds the way I do. We end up with ds a lot more than outlined in our court order because ex gets flakey -- but I am always ok with more ds time!

[naeljun]

My ex wants DD every chance possible but on the flip side, if he has something more important to do he will ask me to keep her. Men.