Help me plan my travel

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Background: I have a 4 day weekend off coming this Friday-Monday. I also have a 3 day weekend on 8/20.

My mom is a 4 hr drive away and J and I are supposed to go this weekend. Mom and her BF are moving to a new (to them) house in their same subdivision and were supposed to close today, but it got delayed and will likely not happen for another week.
We were basically going there to help them paint and move (and I want to give mom her belated bday gift). J doesn't really want to go just to hang out.

So I can postpone until my 3 day weekend and J and I can drive (but it's only 3 days).
I can go (and maybe fly) by myself for a day or two this weekend and then drive with J to help them over my 3 day weekend.
Or we can just go for the 3 day weekend and do something else this coming weekend.

Basic non negotiables--I will only fly if I'm alone because flights are expensive and driving 4 hrs alone is blah.
J won't go both times.

Help!?

[janegold]

Personally, I would just go for the 3-day weekend later this month and do something else fun this weekend.