Tonight's episode of "why my life sucks" starring: stbxh

[carowen]

Contact your lawyer about best steps to stop this. And do not see him alone with your toddler child. Is his visitation ordered or just casual? If you have to allow him time, is there someone you know that be there too? He sounds seriously unstable.

[statlerwaldorf]

I would contact your lawyer like yesterday. I have a RO against my xh. He has supervised visitation and we have a no contact plan for drop off and pick up. We can also do any necessary communication regarding the kids through the visitation center. There's ways around it.

I actually have to go to court in a few days to renew my RO. Xh came to my house last night and slashed dh's tire and left a dead bird in my mailbox. This is the 4th time our tires have been slashed in the last year.

[ErinExpat]

Aug 4, 2016 20:22:29 GMT -5 statlerwaldorf said:

I would contact your lawyer like yesterday. I have a RO against my xh. He has supervised visitation and we have a no contact plan for drop off and pick up. We can also do any necessary communication regarding the kids through the visitation center. There's ways around it.

I actually have to go to court in a few days to renew my RO. Xh came to my house last night and slashed dh's tire and left a dead bird in my mailbox. This is the 4th time our tires have been slashed in the last year.

What the actual fuck? Did you file a police report?

[statlerwaldorf]

Aug 4, 2016 21:52:48 GMT -5 ErinExpat said:

Aug 4, 2016 20:22:29 GMT -5 statlerwaldorf said:

I would contact your lawyer like yesterday. I have a RO against my xh. He has supervised visitation and we have a no contact plan for drop off and pick up. We can also do any necessary communication regarding the kids through the visitation center. There's ways around it.

I actually have to go to court in a few days to renew my RO. Xh came to my house last night and slashed dh's tire and left a dead bird in my mailbox. This is the 4th time our tires have been slashed in the last year.

What the actual fuck? Did you file a police report?

Of course. I keep filing police reports. The back of my house backs up to an alley, so he's been backing into the alley that way I can't catch his car on camera. But there's not much the police can do without a witness.

[pinkdutchtulips]

another vote for RO.

i got mine, it included a custody order (no visitation for xh), and i ENFORCED that sucker. every text was forwarded to the PD, i kept a log of calls, if he showed up, i called the cops. eventually xh was prosecuted for violating the RO to the point where a Penal Code Protective Order was issued - xh can't see dd until she's 15 (she was 5 when the order was granted).

[doriswe]

Ita with the others about a RO. I'll add, if he's making suicidal statements, call 911 and report it. If you feel uncomfortable with his scheduled visit, ask friends/family to be there. If you feel your child is unsafe, refuse the visit until you can get a supervised visit set up (with professionals).

[sparkythelawyer]

If he contacts you again, call 911 tonight. Regardless of what you do, call your lawyer first thing tomorrow.

[Linie]

MY XH threatened with suicide. I was scared for a while and then nothing happened, of course.

Good luck!

[doglove]

I feel like this is another chapter of crazy and manipulating narcissism. I'm sorry you're going through this. Echoing other posters about contacting your lawyer and calling 911 if he threatens again. statlerwaldorf, that's also messed up.

[nextbigthing]

Now he's apologizing. Blah blah blah

Men!

I'm calling my lawyer this morning

I'm thinking about sending a couple of the texts to his parents. This needs to stop and they've been very involved

[momof2]

If he threatens suicide, call 911 and report it. A trip to the ER might solve this problem for you if he is faking this. And, if he is not faking this, then he will get the help he needs.

Talk to your lawyer first, but make sure you are not responding to anything unless it is specifically kid related and needs to be discussed. And really focus on getting an RO if you can.

[redshoejune]

My x was like this when he first moved out. Constant texts, emails, voicemails. I told him: you have contacted me over 100 times this week, this is haraasment. If you don't stop I will get lawyers involved.
That was enough for him. He immediately stopped and went out and got himself a girlfriend who he is now marrying.

[NandaB]

Aug 5, 2016 7:57:05 GMT -5 nextbigthing said:

Now he's apologizing. Blah blah blah

Men!

I'm calling my lawyer this morning

I'm thinking about sending a couple of the texts to his parents. This needs to stop and they've been very involved

I have never dealt with this, but think you should be calling your lawyer and the police, not his mommy

[Saint Monica]

Aug 5, 2016 7:57:05 GMT -5 nextbigthing said:

Now he's apologizing. Blah blah blah

Men!

I'm calling my lawyer this morning

I'm thinking about sending a couple of the texts to his parents. This needs to stop and they've been very involved

This is no a "men" or a "man" thing.

This is someone who is potentially dangerous to himself, you or your child.

[pinkdutchtulips]

Aug 5, 2016 7:57:05 GMT -5 nextbigthing said:

Now he's apologizing. Blah blah blah

Men!

I'm calling my lawyer this morning

I'm thinking about sending a couple of the texts to his parents. This needs to stop and they've been very involved

DONT !! What are his parents going to do ? He's a grown man who can face the consequences of his actions w/o mommie and Daddie to give him a stern lecture on how to behave properly.

Get the RO and be thankful he's no longer your responsibility or problem.

[statlerwaldorf]

I wouldn't get his parents involved. He is a grownass man. Plus at some point parents tend to look past all of the fuckery and side with their child.