A mother breastfeeding in public allegedly 'squirted her boob' at a woman who told her to move somewhere private.
The incident is said to have happened in a park in Dartford, Kent this week and was later reported on a local Facebook forum.
The post states: 'To the lady in Dartford park who thought it was appropriate to breastfeed her baby whist my child and very easily distracted husband sat nearby.
'I don't think it was necessary for you to react the way you did just because I asked you to go somewhere private, telling me to f*** off and squirting me with your boobs was incredibly uncalled for. I hope you are ashamed of yourself!' More at link, it's a tough one to c&p on my phone.
Post by timorousbeastie on Aug 5, 2016 15:11:27 GMT -5
I wonder if the BFing mom didn't squirt her intentionally (if it happened at all). One NIP moment that will forever be burned into my brain was when I took DD to a wedding when she was ~5 months old. I took her to a bench in a quiet corner to nurse without a cover. Shortly after DD latched on, another guest came over all "ooh, a baby! I want to see the baby!" DD of course pulled off to see what was going on, but my milk kept right on flowing... I'm fairly certain I hit the lady's shoe.
So it's entirely possible that the complainer was hit with breast milk, but just because she was all up in the mom's business causing a distraction. And if that's the case, she deserved it!
I wonder if the BFing mom didn't squirt her intentionally (if it happened at all). One NIP moment that will forever be burned into my brain was when I took DD to a wedding when she was ~5 months old. I took her to a bench in a quiet corner to nurse without a cover. Shortly after DD latched on, another guest came over all "ooh, a baby! I want to see the baby!" DD of course pulled off to see what was going on, but my milk kept right on flowing... I'm fairly certain I hit the lady's shoe.
So it's entirely possible that the complainer was hit with breast milk, but just because she was all up in the mom's business causing a distraction. And if that's the case, she deserved it!
I was wondering this too because seriously, how does one smoothly and intentionally squirt milk? It squires out on its own if you're letting down and baby pops off... Not very contrôlable.
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Was there no other way to get the point across without the use of bodily functions?
This is where I am. I mean, that woman was completely out of line for harassing a mom trying to feed her baby. But squirting her with breast milk is not the best reaction. It's a bodily fluid.
I actually think everyone in this story sucks--the woman who harassed a breastfeeding mom, the pathetic "easily distracted" husband, and the woman who responded to these assholes by childishly squirting bodily fluids at them.
Listen to Michelle, folks. When they go low, we go high.
Was there no other way to get the point across without the use of bodily functions?
This is where I am. I mean, that woman was completely out of line for harassing a mom trying to feed her baby. But squirting her with breast milk is not the best reaction. It's a bodily fluid.
The CDC does not consider human milk a "bodily fluid". It's food. Think of it like squirting your water bottle at someone.
Yeah, I...no. I will give you a really dirty look, and I will definitely think of 40000 snarky things I should have said an hour after the fact, but I'm not going to stoop to the level of squirting you with breastmilk.* This does nothing to help the NIP community.
*I'm pretty sure I'm not coordinated to shoot somebody with breastmilk on purpose even if I wanted to (which I don't). First, there's the shooting it on command, which I don't think I could do, and then there's the aiming part, which I KNOW I couldn't do.
The CDC does not consider human milk a "bodily fluid". It's food. Think of it like squirting your water bottle at someone.
Which I still wouldn't do, because I'm a fucking adult.
I'm all in favor of people keeping their potential pathogens to themselves, unless asked, no matter how irritated they are by a nasty comment.
That's fine. I wouldn't shame a woman for defending herself against harassment, but I guessing I'm the minority.
And please don't tell me this verbal abuser was ready for a sit-down on the biological nature of breast-feeding and breast milk. I'm sure you could come up with a dozen perfectly perfect ways to react in this situation while you sit on your couch. But really, if you want to "go high" let's concentrate on the person who is actually doing the harassing.
This is where I am. I mean, that woman was completely out of line for harassing a mom trying to feed her baby. But squirting her with breast milk is not the best reaction. It's a bodily fluid.
The CDC does not consider human milk a "bodily fluid". It's food. Think of it like squirting your water bottle at someone.
Considering diseases can be passed through breast milk, you have no business freaking squirting it at someone. If it actually happened like that. Is it unlikely that someone would get something from this situation? Yes, absolutely. It's also unlikely (per the CDC) that one bottle of breastmilk will pass disease to the infant, but people lose their damn minds if a bottle gets mixed up at daycare or in the hospital. I worked with a nurse who gave the wrong bottle to a baby. The paperwork and testing of the mom for HIV, etc was insane. So you (general you) can't have it both ways.
I don't understand how this is even debateable. Stand up for yourself, absolutely. There are better ways to do that.
That's fine. I wouldn't shame a woman for defending herself against harassment, but I guessing I'm the minority.
And please don't tell me this verbal abuser was ready for a sit-down on the biological nature of breast-feeding and breast milk. I'm sure you could come up with a dozen perfectly perfect ways to react in this situation while you sit on your couch. But really, if you want to "go high" let's concentrate on the person who is actually doing the harassing.
No, I'm all for shaming everyone involved in this shitshow. Why is it so hard to people to pause and be decent to each other? I'm not even talking about going out of the way to be nice. Just go a half step above not being a tool, and not being disgusting.
I'm totally down the the "fuck off" part because the lady deserved that. Would I say it in that situation? No, because I don't swear. But I understand her decision to do so. But if the bf lady did in fact purposefully squirt milk at her (the likelihood of which I still doubt) then that's just gross. It's essentially spitting on someone.
Post by redheadbaker on Aug 6, 2016 8:21:45 GMT -5
I probably would've told her that me nursing in public was not the problem, rather than her husband was the problem. But I would've given serious consideration to squirting her with milk, LOL.