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Post by timorousbeastie on Aug 9, 2016 3:42:08 GMT -5

I just talked to my dad. My brother died in the middle of the night. He was 39 years old. He wasn't sick, this is totally unexpected. He has 3 kids. I am in shock right now. Please keep our family in your thoughts.

I just keep thinking this can't be real. Fuck, he was 39, he and I were just joking yesterday about toys we used to play with as kids.

Update: thank you everyone. It really means a lot to me. Still don't know what happened, but I'm assuming heart attack. I guess we'll find out in the coming days.

It still feels completely surreal. I never in a million years would have thought this would happen. My H answered the phone when my dad called to tell me. When H told me it was my dad and that my brother was dead, I was 100% convinced he misspoke, that it was my brother calling to say my dad died. I mean, my dad is in his late 60s and has cancer. I would have been devastated but not shocked. If it had been any of my other siblings, I think I would have been less surprised. If it was my oldest sister, well she's still too young, but she's the oldest so I guess I would have always thought she'd go first. My other sister, at least she doesn't have children that she'd be leaving behind (which I know sounds callous or like I think her life is worth less because she's childfree, but that's not how I mean it I swear). My other brother, well he's not exactly a picture of perfect health and isn't exactly what anyone would call athletic. Hell, if it had been me, I don't think anyone would have been shocked - I've had enough health issues throughout my life I should have been dead 10 times over by this point.

But it this brother? Fuck, I don't even know what to say. He recently graduated college and reentered the workforce after been a SAHD for a decade. His anniversary is next week. Two of his kids have birthdays in the next few weeks. He buried two kids. One of his adopted daughters (I only mention she's adopted because it's relevant to the RAD; she is 100% absolutely his daughter even if not biological) has RAD after going through some crap prior to her adoption; he did such an amazing job with giving her all the support and love and treatment she needed to become an amazing young woman. He and SIL just went through so fucking much. This isn't fair.

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dancingirl21 Senior Member Posts: 7,267 Likes: 5,229	I need T&P UPDATE Aug 9, 2016 3:43:16 GMT -5 via Tapatalk Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by dancingirl21 on Aug 9, 2016 3:43:16 GMT -5 Oh my gosh, I'm so, so sorry.
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origami Full Member Posts: 3,850 Likes: 3,995	I need T&P UPDATE Aug 9, 2016 3:47:44 GMT -5 via mobile Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by origami on Aug 9, 2016 3:47:44 GMT -5 Omg I'm so terribly sorry.
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julianabixby Junior Member Posts: 725 Likes: 429	I need T&P UPDATE Aug 9, 2016 3:50:50 GMT -5 via Tapatalk Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by julianabixby on Aug 9, 2016 3:50:50 GMT -5 Oh my gosh. I'm so sorry. Sending tons of prayers to you and your family.
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yellowbrkrd Senior Member Posts: 6,719 Likes: 4,410	I need T&P UPDATE Aug 9, 2016 3:54:11 GMT -5 via Tapatalk Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by yellowbrkrd on Aug 9, 2016 3:54:11 GMT -5 Omg I'm so sorry.
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mannah Full Member Posts: 2,455 Likes: 2,413	I need T&P UPDATE Aug 9, 2016 4:13:51 GMT -5 via mobile Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by mannah on Aug 9, 2016 4:13:51 GMT -5 Oh my god, how terrible. I'm so so sorry. Will be thinking of you.
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lauren170 Full Member Posts: 2,831 Likes: 3,900	I need T&P UPDATE Aug 9, 2016 4:20:17 GMT -5 via mobile Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by lauren170 on Aug 9, 2016 4:20:17 GMT -5 I am so sorry. My thoughts are with you and your family.
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VillainV Elder Posts: 23,587 Likes: 29,586	I need T&P UPDATE Aug 9, 2016 4:29:13 GMT -5 via Tapatalk Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by VillainV on Aug 9, 2016 4:29:13 GMT -5 I'm so sorry.
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Elsa Senior Member Enter your message here... Posts: 7,508 Likes: 17,762	I need T&P UPDATE Aug 9, 2016 4:32:47 GMT -5 via Tapatalk Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by Elsa on Aug 9, 2016 4:32:47 GMT -5 Omg I am so so sorry
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ssmjlm Elder Posts: 32,821 Likes: 21,655	I need T&P UPDATE Aug 9, 2016 4:35:26 GMT -5 via Tapatalk Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by ssmjlm on Aug 9, 2016 4:35:26 GMT -5 I'm so sorry.
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mlvmd Full Member Posts: 2,568 Likes: 1,099	I need T&P UPDATE Aug 9, 2016 4:41:36 GMT -5 via Tapatalk Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by mlvmd on Aug 9, 2016 4:41:36 GMT -5 I'm so sorry, my thoughts are with you and your family.
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minzy Senior Member Posts: 5,206 Likes: 5,363	I need T&P UPDATE Aug 9, 2016 4:41:56 GMT -5 via mobile Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by minzy on Aug 9, 2016 4:41:56 GMT -5 Oh no, I am so sorry. I'm glad, however, that you got to speak with him yesterday. Hugs to you and your family.
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teatimefor2 Senior Member Posts: 5,839 Likes: 2,934	I need T&P UPDATE Aug 9, 2016 4:46:14 GMT -5 via Tapatalk Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by teatimefor2 on Aug 9, 2016 4:46:14 GMT -5 I am so so sorry. I have no words but prayers for you and your family.
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belovedbride07 Full Member Posts: 3,960 Likes: 3,209	I need T&P UPDATE Aug 9, 2016 4:50:05 GMT -5 via Tapatalk Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by belovedbride07 on Aug 9, 2016 4:50:05 GMT -5 I'm so sorry. Praying for you and your family.
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Jalapeñomel Platinum Posts: 57,715 Likes: 53,026	I need T&P UPDATE Aug 9, 2016 4:55:50 GMT -5 via Tapatalk Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by Jalapeñomel on Aug 9, 2016 4:55:50 GMT -5 I'm so sorry.
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Muddled Elder Posts: 20,257 Likes: 15,027	I need T&P UPDATE Aug 9, 2016 5:01:49 GMT -5 via mobile Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by Muddled on Aug 9, 2016 5:01:49 GMT -5 I'm so very sorry.
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chickens987 Senior Member Posts: 9,993 Likes: 11,927	I need T&P UPDATE Aug 9, 2016 5:02:11 GMT -5 Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by chickens987 on Aug 9, 2016 5:02:11 GMT -5 Holy shit, I am so sorry timorousbeastie. I will hold you and your family in the light.
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antoniamarchette Junior Member Posts: 947 Likes: 959	I need T&P UPDATE Aug 9, 2016 5:03:32 GMT -5 via mobile Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by antoniamarchette on Aug 9, 2016 5:03:32 GMT -5 I am so so sorry. Keeping your family in my thoughts.
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djc315 Senior Member Posts: 6,782 Likes: 6,240	I need T&P UPDATE Aug 9, 2016 5:04:39 GMT -5 via Tapatalk Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by djc315 on Aug 9, 2016 5:04:39 GMT -5 I'm so, so sorry. Sending good thoughts to you and your family.
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lolo Senior Member Posts: 9,367 Likes: 5,519	I need T&P UPDATE Aug 9, 2016 5:11:08 GMT -5 via mobile Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by lolo on Aug 9, 2016 5:11:08 GMT -5 That's so unfair and completely devastating. I'm so sorry.
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Pilsy Senior Member Posts: 7,951 Likes: 5,178	I need T&P UPDATE Aug 9, 2016 5:13:21 GMT -5 via mobile Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by Pilsy on Aug 9, 2016 5:13:21 GMT -5 I'm so incredibly sorry. You're all in my prayers.
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minerswife17 Full Member Posts: 1,761 Likes: 1,168	I need T&P UPDATE Aug 9, 2016 5:15:19 GMT -5 Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by minerswife17 on Aug 9, 2016 5:15:19 GMT -5 I'm so sorry. I'm thinking and praying for you and your entire family during this time.
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miamigirl Senior Member Posts: 5,089 Likes: 7,247	I need T&P UPDATE Aug 9, 2016 5:15:46 GMT -5 via mobile Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by miamigirl on Aug 9, 2016 5:15:46 GMT -5 I'm so sorry
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pippa Full Member Posts: 1,243 Likes: 532	I need T&P UPDATE Aug 9, 2016 5:18:48 GMT -5 via mobile Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by pippa on Aug 9, 2016 5:18:48 GMT -5 I am so sorry for your loss.
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adlove Full Member Posts: 3,556 Likes: 2,443	I need T&P UPDATE Aug 9, 2016 5:21:01 GMT -5 via mobile Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by adlove on Aug 9, 2016 5:21:01 GMT -5 My heart breaks for you. I'm so sorry for your loss, your family will be in my thoughts.
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jackie011 Senior Member Posts: 5,482 Likes: 3,194	I need T&P UPDATE Aug 9, 2016 5:27:16 GMT -5 via mobile Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by jackie011 on Aug 9, 2016 5:27:16 GMT -5 Oh my goodness, I'm so sorry. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
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raangoli Elder Posts: 17,235 Likes: 18,910	I need T&P UPDATE Aug 9, 2016 5:29:56 GMT -5 via Tapatalk Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by raangoli on Aug 9, 2016 5:29:56 GMT -5 I'm so sorry. Sending thoughts and prayers to you and your family.
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pennylane Full Member Posts: 2,261 Likes: 1,870	I need T&P UPDATE Aug 9, 2016 5:30:31 GMT -5 Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by pennylane on Aug 9, 2016 5:30:31 GMT -5 I'm sorry for your loss. Sending thoughts and prayers to you and your family.
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