S/O: name change

[rikki]

Would you go back to your maiden name if you changed it when you married, but then divorced?

[agnes]

Probably.

[AAM2012]

Yes. Although my married name is waaaay easier to spell.

[liveintheville]

I'd go with whichever was the better name (psst that means your maiden name )

[giantsgirl]

If I didn't have kids, I would change my name back in a heartbeat. I would have to think on it more if I had kids.

[theintended]

Yes

[heygrey]

realistically, no - only because it would be a pain in the ass with all of my immigration records.

hypothetically, if i lived in the states and immigration wasn't an issue- yes. i don't have kids, i don't have any professional ties to my married name, and i think i'd want a clean break from h if we were divorcing.

[Deleted]

Absolutely.

I also think that if I got remarried after that, I'd still keep my maiden name.

I didn't realize how attached I was to my maiden name until I got rid of it. I'm over it now but if I had it to do over I don't think I'd change it.

[ejpint]

Yes. I miss my maiden name and sometimes wish I hadn't changed.

[dexteroni]

Since I don't have kids, yes, I would.

[takeonyou]

I probably would. But really it would depend on what we divorced over. I know that sounds weird, but if it was a "we fell out of love" divorce I probably wouldn't.

[Deleted]

I did, yes.

[hopenotlost]

Yes.

[Lilac]

Sept 6, 2012 20:42:31 GMT -5 ejpint said:

Yes. I miss my maiden name and sometimes wish I hadn't changed.

This...

[slug*bug]

At this point, possibly: we've only been married 6 years and I'm not that attached to it. I likely wouldn't, though, because we have children w/our shared name.

[womet]

If I didn't have kids, then I would change it back to my maiden name.

[rubytue]

Sept 6, 2012 20:42:31 GMT -5 ejpint said:

Yes. I miss my maiden name and sometimes wish I hadn't changed.

This exactly.

[mskitkat]

Yes. I strongly identified with my maiden name, and it really hurt to change it.

[fuddyduddy]

Yes. I will change my name back to my maiden name when I file the divorce papers. Now I wish I hadn't changed it in the first place.

[pumpkin]

I went back to my maiden name after my divorce. I'm not sure I would have if I had kids, but I don't so back I went. Also, I think if I'd been married for many many years I might not.

[Deleted]

With kids, I won't change.

[rikki]

I think I will, but I kind of like the expressions I get when I meet people and they find this white, pale girl. My current last name is super Hispanic. That said, everyone in my professional life only knows my married name. So many decisions. Wishing I hadn't changed it.

[drloretta]

I'm torn.

It was a PITA to change it when I got married, so in some ways I don't want to deal with that if I don't have to.

It would also depend on the duration of the marriage, how many people knew me by my married name, etc.

I know that if I did go back, I wouldn't take anyone's name again if I got remarried.

[childofhiphop]

In a heartbeat.

[KaraOrNot]

I would change it. I sometimes regret changing my name when I got married.

[fuddyduddy]

Sept 6, 2012 20:56:09 GMT -5 drloretta said:

I know that if I did go back, I wouldn't take anyone's name again if I got remarried.

This is something I've been thinking about lately. I hope to remarry and have children one day and I might want to have the same last name as my children. On the other hand, I don't want to give up my "identity" again.

[dexteroni]

Sept 6, 2012 20:59:13 GMT -5 KaraOrNot said:

I sometimes regret changing my name when I got married.

Me too.

[dr.girlfriend]

I think names are so random. My DH's mom was married, and then divorced and later had DH out of wedlock. So, DH's name is actually after someone he had no relation to -- just his mom's first husband. We met him for the first time MIL's funeral, and it was this weird moment where he was like, "I'm Max Power" and I was like, "I'm, um, Judy Power." (fake names, of course).

If I liked my maiden name I would go back. My maiden name is now my middle name, and I sign all three professionally, but in all honesty it is a giant pain in the ass. Think along the lines of Nahasapeemapetalan. I would be more likely I think to pick a brand new last name that I just liked, but I've heard that's complicated to do given the new anti-terrorism laws.

[jackie011]

Probably not. I wanted to start using DH's name before we were even engaged! Growing up with a long, complicated and difficult to pronounce ethnic name was not easy. Then, I started dating someone with such a classic "All American" name and I honestly can't imagine going back.

[SJ]

I honestly don't know.