Speaking out loud, I guess. I dunno.

[snatchparade]

If you really feel inclined to give in and have a phone conversation, stay on point. If he starts to ask you personal questions, steer the conversation back to the purpose of your phone call: the refi. Do not let him get into your life. He doesn't belong there anymore. If he persists, tell him that you need to go and that you will continue the discussion in email.

[doriswe]

I guess I don't understand why you couldn't manage all of this via email, to be honest.

At the same time, it sounds like you're wise enough to redirect him if you did speak on the phone about the situation and he started asking questions that had nothing to do with the loan. He can ask all the questions he wants, if you don't answer them, that's okay....and who cares if he paints you as a bitch? His opinion doesn't matter!

So to recap, I have no real advice! ;0

[explorer2001]

Sorry my advice is to tell him that you want to have everything documented so that you can go over it in detail because there is so much to it and you don't want to miss anything.

[marigoldgirl]

I always say to my X when he asks questions that do not pertain to the conversation. 'I'm not going to discuss that." or " This conversation is about ________ let's stay on that topic."

[formerlyak]

I say stick to your guns about the email thing. There is no reason to have this conversation on the phone.

[BlueBayou]

Sept 7, 2012 11:46:56 GMT -5 formerlyak said:

I say stick to your guns about the email thing. There is no reason to have this conversation on the phone.

Ditto this. Not necessary.