@ Travel/wedding related WWYD

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Okay so we have a wedding in Colorado in 3 weeks. We were planning on bringing DS. My mom just offered to watch him for the weekend. Should we take her up on the offer?

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Wedding is in Granby (apparently 90 minutes outside of Denver I think?). So we need to rent a car, big enough for his stroller etc, and bring a
Car seat.

We have non stop flights both ways. We are flying out early Friday AM and home early Monday AM. We may e able to change our return flight to Sunday.

I'm a bridesmaid so will be doing stuff from about 10 am Sat on.

DS is breastfed so I would have to try to stockpile enough milk which could be tricky. Could also supplement with formula of necessary I suppose but I feel guilty doing that for a wedding. I'd still pump while I'm there.

This is a no brainer right? I feel guilty ditching DS though.

[Deleted]

TAKE UP THE OFFER!!!!

[ringstrue]

take it!!! traveling with babies in rental cars and planes is really hard.

[onomatopoeia]

Do it. Traveling with a baby is hard especially with wedding stress on top of it. I don't know how old your child is, but he might even do better home with your mom than traveling with you but having you be so busy and unavailable. I'd be torn between being a mom and being a bridesmaid, and end up sucking at both.

[thejackpot]

Go and leave DS with gma. Try to enjoy the time away and love it up with the hubby

[aurora]

I don't have kids, but do you think you will enjoy the weekend more with or without him? I mean, I know you love your son and would die for him in a heartbeat, but it's natural to enjoy some time without him, so it seems like more of a question of whether your guilt at leaving him will outweigh your sense of freedom for a couple of days. Of my friends who are moms, I know some would honestly answer yes and some no, and I don't think either one is wrong.

[pescalita]

Take it and get drunk.

[aurora]

Oh, and it's not quite as bad this time of year, but if you do change your return flight to Sunday make sure you leave a lot more than 90 min to get back to the airport. Most people think that the I-70 traffic is only bad during ski season, but it can sometimes be even worse heading east on Sunday afternoons in the summer. Either that or plan to return via the scenic Rocky Mountain National Park (quite a bit longer and slower, but very pretty and more predictable).

You should be fine heading west on Friday this time of year.

[hopecounts]

I'm going to say it depends on how old he is, not in terms of leaving him but in terms of BFing and keeping supply up if he's over 8 months I say leave him and pump, if he's younger I think you might be risking having supply issues so think about that before making a decision.
Also keep in mind how many times (at least once per time he'd eat) you will need to pump to keep from having issues and how much time it will take to do that vs. traveling and Nursing and figure out which will work better for you.

Of course this is based on my experience struggling with iffy supply and a weekend of just pumping would've killed it.

[puppiesandrainbows]

I couldn't tell from your post, so is he EBF, meaning he has not had a bottle yet? This could be an issue. Also, does your Mom respect your parenting choices and will she follow your "rules" when you're gone?

If the bottle isn't an issue and neither is your Mom, I'd say go for it, enjoy the time away with your H, get drunk and have hotel room sex.

[Deleted]

How old is he?

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He is 4 months, and in daycare so takes a bottle no issue. I can't think of anything where my. Mom would undermine my parenting at this age? I basically follow her advice anyway lol.

I guess I'm mostly paranoid about my supply, but if I pump that should be ok right?

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Sept 7, 2012 19:42:19 GMT -5 @mrsbecky07 said:

He is 4 months, and in daycare so takes a bottle no issue. I can't think of anything where my. Mom would undermine my parenting at this age? I basically follow her advice anyway lol.

I guess I'm mostly paranoid about my supply, but if I pump that should be ok right?

I've been away for 24 hours and had no issue; and I've also had weekends where I was pumping more than nursing and it was fine. Also, since you pump for daycare i think you probably have it down pat

Maybe pump a bit extra the week before if possible (aside from trying to leave milk) that will help boost supply.

[meg]

I couldn't have done it. But I didn't spend a night away till this May (sister's bachelorette - DH was home with him and it didn't go great) and then again this weekend (2 nights for weddings, he was with my mom and it went fine). For one thing, Henry until VERY recently was very reliant on nursing and was up through the night - and was bedsharing. I really just didn't want to put all that, and knowing that he would maybe be up all night, not go down well without nursing etc on someone else. But tbh I don't think I would have had the offer haha.

And emotionally I just could.not. That is a personal thing though. For the clusterF of a wedding weekend we had, my MIL had offered to come to ct to babysit fri night through monday and I declined because I was not personally OK with that length of time away. 2 nights was hard enough.

So I think it depends on how reliant he is on nursing, how your supply is (pumping should be ok as long as your supply is well established, and you MAKE SURE to pump enough, like as much as he nurses), how he is overnights, and how YOU feel about it.

If you think it will work for all the above it will be WAY easier that way

[NitaX]

Sept 7, 2012 9:08:03 GMT -5 pescalita said:

Take it and get drunk.

No more advice needed. Shut it down folks. LOL

[teflep]

Take it and def get drunk as others have said.

[marie427]

My answer doesn't really count but I'm inclined to agree with Pesca's sage advice lol.