What can I do for my mom?

[wanderingenough]

Some of you may remember at the beginning of the summer when I made the trip down to Florida to have my grandpa meet R, because we found out the cancer had spread throughout his body. Then a couple weeks ago my mom and I had that little argument about whether she should call in Hospice for support. A couple days after that argument, she did call Hospice for evaluation and he was enrolled. They were coming to see him once a week. When they came to see him Friday, he was in such bad shape they decided to go ahead and bring him into the Hospice center. She called me on my work trip yesterday to tell me we were at the end and prob only have a few days left. She went from super emotional, to calm/rational, to planning her drive into town the next day to buy a dress (for a potential funeral) and back to emotional all within a few hours. There's nothing really I can do for her from afar except call and checkin right? If things are still ok this weekend, I'll try to get a flight down to say goodbye --and then go back for the funeral.

[MrsMB]

Maybe send a card? But yes, calls are the best thing right now. Maybe throw in some cute baby pictures for good measure?

ETA: To support suzv 's suggestion, you could do some things FOR her over the internet...or make calls for her while in between meetings. 

[amaranth]

Calls and letting her know you'll be there soon. If it were my mom and knowing her personality I'd probably leave my trip to go now, but I know not all trips offer that option.

I'm so sorry about your grandfather.

[wanderingenough]

That's a good idea, MrsMB about seeing if there is anything I can do for her online. We know I'm an Amazon champ--maybe she needs snacks or books while sitting with him at the Hospice center?

amaranth I'm leaving tonight and if I had R I'd change my flight and head straight there. Unfortunately, H has work travel scheduled tomorrow and Friday and I don't want him to cancel that to watch little man because I'd rather him be there for the funeral. So I'll head back to get him and go down on Sat.

[MrsAggie]

I think your current plan of action is best given the circumstances. Calling really does help and sending snacks or books would be a really sweet gesture too.

[travelbug]

Sending books and snacks sounds so sweet. Huge hugs!

[Deleted]

I'm sorry. I think sending books and snacks is a good idea, and calling to check in.

[bk1]

I'm so sorry

[awick14]

I'm so sorry.

[estrellita]

*hugs* I agree that checking in on her and sending some things to help keep her occupied would be nice.

[katiek]

I'm so sorry. I agree with everyone else to call and see if she needs anything.