Monday whatevers

[HoneySpider]

So when we moved in, we had to set up our gas account through the complex's main office. We did this about 2 weeks before moving in. July comes and we don't get a bill like we are expecting so I asked the lady in the office about it and she says the name got changed on the account but not the address (which I don't get - so where did this bill go?) and that she fixed it and we would get a bill in Aug. Nope, never got anything. So I asked her again this morning about it. I don't know what the heck is going on, but at some point they are going to turn our gas off for non-payment. Chasing down someone to pay money is ridiculous. The gas is individually metered/billed so I wish we were able to just set the account up directly with the company like we did with the electric. Having to go through the main office seems so stupid. 

[pooh8402]

I would be on the phone or in the office until it is resolved. maybe once your parents get to your place, you can head down there? ugh, that's the LAST thing I'd want to do if I were 2 weeks PP.

well, tbh, I'd actually make my husband deal with it.

[ewall]

In a similar vein as HoneySpider's September excitement in the other thread, I've been burning my fall candles for the past week. Not trying to rush summer, just extend my fall candle addiction.

I subscribed and saved to some bar soap. It came and 10% of it was smashed/flattened. Still probably usable, but not in new condition so I requested a replacement and I would return the damaged item. It seemed ridiculous amount of effort for soap, but I was irritated enough to go through with it. Well, now Amazon tells me to keep the original soap and they are sending me new. Now I feel bad that I've cheated the system by getting twice as much soap.

[katiek]

Ugh, that sounds so annoying HoneySpider! I hope it all gets sorted soon.

On Saturday, H and I asked my parents to watch the kids for a few hours so we could "clean", which translates to have really loud sex in our empty house. It was awesome, no regrets, but now I have to actually clean. Blah. If we ever had the room in our budget, I would get a cleaner immediately.

[ewall]

Go katiek! We managed naptime on Sunday. If we wait until the end of the day, it's just not happening. We're hoping to pawn DS off on my mom for one day of our upcoming long weekend.

I have to imagine your parents know exactly what's up and that it's definitely not cleaning

[estrellita]

I guess they can't get us in for counseling until Oct 4. Grr. I really want to talk things out with someone ASAP. Oh well I guess. Anyone have any tips or resources that might help us? I was thinking of having both of us make lists of things we would like the other to do (reasonable things of course). H already has an interview tomorrow, so that's good. He does seem to be trying but I'm hesitant because I don't believe at this point that it won't happen again. We'll see.

[awick14]

((estrellita)) unfortunately this is a time will only tell situation.

It can take a while to get in to see a counselor, but after the initial appointment it's easier to get in.

I think the writing lists is a good idea. Just make sure you are both open minded when it comes to sharing the lists. (Don't do it when angry or upset.)

Today is my last day of work before I go back home for a few days. I work 1pm-midnight.

[bk1]

estrellita I'm sorry the wait is so long. Is there another counselor you can call to see if you can get in faster?


I got so much checked off my list this morning! I'm feeling time crunch on things now that we are down to just the last couple months until baby gets here. Thankfully I feel like I have much more energy since my allergies aren't bothering me like they had been.

[bk1]

Oh and vent -

My power company does an energy savings program during the summer. So basically I don't run the dishwasher or laundry from 2pm-7pm during the week in the summer. I am so ready for the program to be over! It only saves me maybe $10 a month at most but since I like to do all my errands in the morning I find it so annoying to fit in laundry/dishes in the evening. I need my afternoon time back! Thankfully it will end this week. 

[pooh8402]

((estrellita))


My doctor messed up the date on my adhd prescription, so now I have to swing by and pick up a new prescription. Grr. He has shit handwriting, though, so I'm not surprised. Plus the pharmacy didn't even get it in stock today anyway. Not a big deal in the grand scheme of things, just annoying.

[estrellita]

bk1 apparently this is the only one that takes our EAP. It's possible we could get in faster paying for it but.. obviously we don't have a ton of money at the moment.

[bk1]

Aug 29, 2016 13:56:48 GMT -5 estrellita said:

bk1 apparently this is the only one that takes our EAP. It's possible we could get in faster paying for it but.. obviously we don't have a ton of money at the moment.

Completely understandable.

[luv2rn4fun]

((Hugs)) estrellita. Sorry for the long wait. I would Definitely try to work on things between now and then since it is such a long wait.

bk1- good luck with your to do list! I highly encourage you to do things now...not sure if the zoo did me in or just coincidence but I am pretty exhausted these last few days. Glad to not have anything urgent or high energy to do these last few weeks (you know, besides taking care of a 20 month old LOL).

Had a great visit with step mom and cousin!!! Also had a nice morning out with C before they came...breakfast, grocery shopping, and a walk! Nap time now and not sure what else for the rest of today.

[travelbug]

estrellita I'm so glad you guys have an appointment with the counselor. It's great that your H already has a job interview. I hope this continue on this path to healing!

I worked this morning and then got myself some lunch and paid our rent. It's rainy and stormy now. I really have a lot to do but I also really need a nap! Decisions decisions...

[katespade]

estrellita - Do you think it would work for you to work through a book together while you're waiting for your counseling appointment? H and I haven't done any counseling together, but a few years ago we picked up a book that really helped us open up to each other about the differences in our communication needs.

[tacocat]

Today has seemed like a long day for no real reason. I'm tired of the hot weather. I want to be able to hang out outside for longer than 5 minutes.

[estrellita]

Aug 29, 2016 15:57:47 GMT -5 katespade said:

estrellita - Do you think it would work for you to work through a book together while you're waiting for your counseling appointment? H and I haven't done any counseling together, but a few years ago we picked up a book that really helped us open up to each other about the differences in our communication needs.

I was reading the 5 Love Languages but I stopped because I'm reading another book and prefer that, lol. I'll have to pick that back up and have H read it. Maybe look into some others too!

[katespade]

Aug 29, 2016 17:06:05 GMT -5 estrellita said:

Aug 29, 2016 15:57:47 GMT -5 katespade said:

estrellita - Do you think it would work for you to work through a book together while you're waiting for your counseling appointment? H and I haven't done any counseling together, but a few years ago we picked up a book that really helped us open up to each other about the differences in our communication needs.

I was reading the 5 Love Languages but I stopped because I'm reading another book and prefer that, lol. I'll have to pick that back up and have H read it. Maybe look into some others too!

I'll look through my books to see if I can find the one that I really liked. I don't remember the title and my bookshelf is all the way across the room. lol.

[amaranth]

estrellita I think the list is a good idea, but choose an equal number of items for you both to write or else one may give 30 things and the other may only list 3. Also, I recommend doing the same number of items as a complimentary list. Things you're thankful for or like about each other. Criticism is so much easier when mingled with positivity. Compliments will also help remind you both why you're working on the other things

[estrellita]

Aug 29, 2016 17:24:39 GMT -5 amaranth said:

estrellita I think the list is a good idea, but choose an equal number of items for you both to write or else one may give 30 things and the other may only list 3. Also, I recommend doing the same number of items as a complimentary list. Things you're thankful for or like about each other. Criticism is so much easier when mingled with positivity. Compliments will also help remind you both why you're working on the other things

That's true about the compliments. I was going to put on my list that I would like compliments that aren't physical characteristics. Maybe I'll skip the list and just talk about things as they come up, but make sure we both stay calm. We've been doing fairly well at that so far. I told him that the things I would have written down are things he's already doing, I just want to make sure he follows through on them.

[melsamoony]

estrellita I think there may be better books than the love language book. I feel the love language book is better for strengthening intimacy/gaining information on why people do what they do. Idk that it is the best tool for you right now in the midst of a crisis.

Workbooks are a good tool for self guided constructive conversations.. if money is the issue this may be a good place to start: One Bed, One Bank Account Workbook: Better Conversations on Money and Marriage www.amazon.com/dp/098588634X/ref=cm_sw_r_sms_awd_x_WdmXxb3VGHP8Z

Today was a busy day. DS has a double ear infection so I had to rush him to the doctor and pick up antibiotics this AM before work which made for a weird/long day. Grocery shopped after work which was desperately needed. I am also enjoying fall scents with newly purchased yankee candles. Fall scents are probably my favorite!

[katespade]

estrellita - You should check out The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. I liked it because it has a lot of good information, but it's also interactive so you can work through the concepts together rather than just reading about them.

[MrsAggie]

My potato, broccoli, and cheese soup was a big fail. I attempted to make it in the crock pot and the broth is very oil with like cheese curd chunks. It's supposed to be creamy. 😞