Engagement party ?

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I've got an engagement party to go to tonight. It starts at 6:30 and they aren't providing any food or drinks. Do I need to bring a gift? And if so what?

[stephm0188]

No food or drinks? That's not a party!

[sparkythelawyer]

Define party

[Deleted]

Sept 3, 2016 13:35:53 GMT -5 stephm0188 said:

No food or drinks? That's not a party!

I know right?

[notoriousmeg]

No food or drink, so just people standing around? Hard pass.

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Sept 3, 2016 13:35:16 GMT -5 HRH Queen Dick I, Orphan said:

You're not going to that. Don't be silly, girl.

I really don't want to go. But I've been cooped up recovering from surgery and it would be nice to see some friends that will be there.

[littlemermaid]

No food, no drinks, then I'd bring an empty "congrats on your engagement" card. What kind of friends do you have?

[Deleted]

OK so I'm not crazy for thinking this is weird right? And I'm not misinterpreting anything they clearly put in the invite no food or drinks it's ally BYO. So I'm wondering if this is just a gift grab, but I've never been to an engagement party where you brought gifts. Nor did I get any when I got married like 9 years ago.

[TR]

Take a card for the B&G and a personal pan pizza for yourself. WTF to a party starting at 6:30pm that doesn't serve food or drink? Are they in college or something?

[cuddlyevil]

Wait, it's BYOB? Bullshit.

If you want to go, go for a bit but I would be tempted to leave really early "I have other plans, but didn't want to miss out on seeing you!" *heads to the door*

[lingome]

Sept 3, 2016 13:41:26 GMT -5 @darkangel said:

OK so I'm not crazy for thinking this is weird right? And I'm not misinterpreting anything they clearly put in the invite no food or drinks it's ally BYO. So I'm wondering if this is just a gift grab, but I've never been to an engagement party where you brought gifts. Nor did I get any when I got married like 9 years ago.

Definitely no gift, then. Bring something to drink (and eat if you think you'll be hungry). Maybe share. That's plenty. Sounds basically like a pot luck. 

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Sept 3, 2016 13:41:02 GMT -5 littlemermaid said:

No food, no drinks, then I'd bring an empty "congrats on your engagement" card. What kind of friends do you have?

The bride is more friend of a friend to me. My closer friends that will be there all think this is weird. But I forgot to ask them if they are doing gifts and haven't heard back to my text yet.

[stephm0188]

Sept 3, 2016 13:41:26 GMT -5 @darkangel said:

So I'm wondering if this is just a gift grab

Yes.

[tacokick]

Just a card. Then leave early to get food.

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Sept 3, 2016 13:43:14 GMT -5 TR said:

Take a card for the B&G and a personal pan pizza for yourself. WTF to a party starting at 6:30pm that doesn't serve food or drink? Are they in college or something?

Nope they're about my age (34). She did this for her birthday "party" too a few months ago.

[Mrs. ChanandlerBong]

Sept 3, 2016 13:44:07 GMT -5 @darkangel said:

Sept 3, 2016 13:41:02 GMT -5 littlemermaid said:

No food, no drinks, then I'd bring an empty "congrats on your engagement" card. What kind of friends do you have?

The bride is more friend of a friend to me. My closer friends that will be there all think this is weird. But I forgot to ask them if they are doing gifts and haven't heard back to my text yet.

Oh yeah. Friend of a friend and this bullshit byob and food? I wouldn't even waste the money on a card

[Cioccolato]

Sept 3, 2016 13:46:10 GMT -5 @darkangel said:

Sept 3, 2016 13:43:14 GMT -5 TR said:

Take a card for the B&G and a personal pan pizza for yourself. WTF to a party starting at 6:30pm that doesn't serve food or drink? Are they in college or something?

Nope they're about my age (34). She did this for her birthday "party" too a few months ago.

What a weirdo.

[Deleted]

No. This is bullshit. Take yourself to dinner instead.

[Deleted]

Oh and she made it kinda clear that most of us in the group (except her best friend) weren't really wanted at the wedding. But we were totally invited to the shower, bachlorette party, etc. The more I write this the stupider this all sounds. I guess I'll maybe bring a card and leave after a bit and see if anyone wants to come with me for food.

[Cioccolato]

WTF? Don't go. Ask your friends to meet up with you for dinner instead.

[wambam]

People are the worst

[TR]

Sept 3, 2016 13:51:12 GMT -5 @darkangel said:

Oh and she made it kinda clear that most of us in the group (except her best friend) weren't really wanted at the wedding. But we were totally invited to the shower, bachlorette party, etc. The more I write this the stupider this all sounds. I guess I'll maybe bring a card and leave after a bit and see if anyone wants to come with me for food.

Yessssss. Take a card and then leave early with half the guests to go get food! These people are the worst. 

[cville]

Sept 3, 2016 13:43:14 GMT -5 TR said:

Take a card for the B&G and a personal pan pizza for yourself. WTF to a party starting at 6:30pm that doesn't serve food or drink? Are they in college or something?

"Personal pan pizza" is slaying me.

"Congrats on your engagement! I'm going to sit over here with my very own pizza just for me not you just me go away."


OP, don't go. They'll probably then ask you to help with their dry, potluck wedding and ask you to set up chairs or some such nonsense.

[lilybug]

Sept 3, 2016 13:51:12 GMT -5 @darkangel said:

Oh and she made it kinda clear that most of us in the group (except her best friend) weren't really wanted at the wedding. But we were totally invited to the shower, bachlorette party, etc. The more I write this the stupider this all sounds. I guess I'll maybe bring a card and leave after a bit and see if anyone wants to come with me for food.

Whaaat, no. She made it clear you weren't wanted at the wedding, but you still want to go to her party? With no food?

[sproctopus]

Girl...what?

No.

[Waffles]

That is not a party. Don't go, get together with your other poor invited friends instead!

[sookie]

Sept 3, 2016 13:51:12 GMT -5 @darkangel said:

Oh and she made it kinda clear that most of us in the group (except her best friend) weren't really wanted at the wedding. But we were totally invited to the shower, bachlorette party, etc. The more I write this the stupider this all sounds. I guess I'll maybe bring a card and leave after a bit and see if anyone wants to come with me for food.

So, yes, absolutely a gift grab by someone who sucks. Don't go.

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Sept 3, 2016 13:51:12 GMT -5 @darkangel said:

Oh and she made it kinda clear that most of us in the group (except her best friend) weren't really wanted at the wedding. But we were totally invited to the shower, bachlorette party, etc. The more I write this the stupider this all sounds. I guess I'll maybe bring a card and leave after a bit and see if anyone wants to come with me for food.

OH HELL NO. Fuck them and their cheapass shitty "party". They should be shamed publicly for this asshattery.

[ECB]

Dude. DUDE. Do NOT go. Do not give them tacit approval for this bullshit. Seriously.

And I don't care what anyone else does - NO FUCKING GIFT.

This "friend" sounds like an asshole. Call all your other friends up and make plans to see them. Don't tell this idiot that her party is just fine in order to see your friends.

[elleblue]

No food or drinks? That's not a party, that's a gift grab. I wouldn't go.