Flirting U/D in OP

[karmasabiotch]

Update.  I've been asked out. 

I'm not deciding on anything now because this is my crazy busy time at work planning and implementing a fundraiser for 450 people that brings in hopefully around $50,000.  The money raised goes 100% toward helping low income youth so they can go to camp, play in school sports, take a fun class, etc. 

After that, I have the 1 year mark, and 2 days later we leave for the cruise.  I feel like I don't have to decide now, although I did say meeting for coffee sounds fun but to me that seems like it could be just a friend thing.  He did mention the party that we were both at when I made out with him so I'm guessing he remembers that part.  I also remembered that while making out with him I attempted to unbuckle his belt unsuccessfully and he didn't help so it didn't go any farther.  I always wondered about that but looking back we were young and he's 1 year younger than me so he was probably 16 and might have been more innocent than me since those were my slightly promiscuous years, that would have been my very slutty years if AIDS wasn't still so new and unknown.

I feel like I have until after the cruise to decide if I will meet him for coffee. 

It feels weird in so many ways.  Nobody has really ever pursued me since I always had a weight issue.  I'm still heavy but not the way that I get stared at and made fun of anymore. I should weigh about 95lbs according to the BMI but that will never happen, especially if I don't get the 20lbs+ of loose stretched out skin removed from my thighs, upper back, and other various locations.

Also weird is that he has friends in common with my ex-bff who I'm still friends with on a limited basis. 

All of this is so weird, stressful, anxiety provoking, but fun and a bit exciting. 

PDQ  I will probably DD.

There is a guy that I'm friends with on FB and we might have exchanged one comment in the last 5 or so years and that comment would have been when we friended each other 5 years ago or maybe even longer than that.


I worked with him when I was in high school at a movie theatre.  My friend liked him and I liked another guy and it was a year filled with teenage angst.  The dude I liked told me he didn't like girls with weight issues so I crash dieted and gained 20 pounds.  This guy thought my friend was a  stalker she was so obsessed with him and he wasn't interested in her.  Remember, I'm an old so this was in the late 80's.


One night this guy and I were both at a party.  I guess we probably had been drinking and at one point we went to my car and made out for a bit.  It was random because we never really hung out before and never really talked after that night.

A few days ago I changed my profile pic to one of my DH and I that was taken a few years ago.  It was after my botched tummy tuck but I looked decent in the pic.  I usually never post any pics of me but I decided to post it since on the 27'th it will be 1 year.

Yesterday he sent me a pm and said I looked great and happy and that he lives near me and asked a few questions.  I pm'd back and answered questions and mentioned that I have an 8yo and am a widow, and just general stuff.  We have exchanged 2 more pm since then.  He is divorced with an 8 year old daughter.  The last message he sent me he told me how good I look, how it would be great if I loved closer to him (he's only like 20 minutes from me now which I consider close but whatever,  it's in the area I've started sort of looking at houses online), and that he does IT at a major place in the area and if I ever have any computer issues to let him know.  He also said I should come out to one of his shows.  He records music and is in a band.  He was an amazing musician when he was 17 and had a manager representing him back then. 

This is flirting right?  It feels like flirting.  Why after all this time would he suddenly send me a message and keep it going if he wasn't interested?  Or am I reading too much into it?

It feels fun, although I can't imagine really meeting up with him and I'm not at all ready to date.  I'm intrigued though and tempted if it goes farther to maybe see about grabbing a coffee or something like that which I guess is what people do.  I feel guilty like I'm cheating on my DH.  It's giving me anxiety but it's a little exciting too, and scary.

[miniroller]

WootWOOT. Proud of you, man

[sassycat]

I think it is just a bit of flirting! Yay for you! Knowing you are not ready to date is fine, but nothing is wrong with chatting or just having coffee and being just friends or even someone to hang with.

It is fine, have fun and GO FOR IT if he asks you out for coffee. You deserve this.

[flamingeaux]

This makes me happy for you.

[W.T.Faulkner]

Flirt if you want to. You don't have to meet up, or do anything you don't want to do. Just revel in your sexiness and know that it's out there, if you want it someday.

[cville]

It's flirting! Continue online flirtation for as long as it amuses you and meet up if you feel like it. In the meantime, just enjoy.

[sunshineluv]

I love this!

It sounds like flirting to me.

[hisno1girl]

Maybe he's a nice guy and waited a respectable amount of time since your husband's passing?

Anyway, it sounds like he's in to you. Just go with it my friend, and enjoy it

[kris356]

I love that you sound so happy!

[BaliHai]

Yes it sounds like flirting! Enjoy yourself, you deserve it.

[zitiqueen]

YOU GO, KARMA!

[googled]

Woo! Sounds like a little flirting to me

[chchchia]

You know what? Good. For. You.

[karmasabiotch]

totally a typo!!

[Jalapeñomel]

It's fun! Enjoy yourself! You certainly deserve it.

[onesweetworld]

Enjoy it. I could be nice to have an old friend back in your life especially since your kids are the same age...someone to have coffee or a beer with.

[underwaterrhymes]

❤️

Flirting is fun. Have fun.

[cbwm1]

This made me smile.

Flirt your ass off and have fun with it!!

[Gato]

He definitely sounds interested. This makes me happy. You deserve to feel good and flirt if you want to!

[compassrose]

Oh yay! Fun flirting is the best! I hope you enjoy whatever this ends up being!

[Saint Monica]

I hit the like button like a thousand time based solely on the title of this post!

[carrotsmakemefat]

You go girrrrrrrl

[lookforstars]

I love this post. Have fun with it! You deserve it.

[sugarbear]

Awesome.
You absolutely deserve to enjoy yourself.

[isabel]

Sept 7, 2016 18:32:18 GMT -5 cville said:

It's flirting! Continue online flirtation for as long as it amuses you and meet up if you feel like it. In the meantime, just enjoy.

I was going to say something, but this about sums it up.

[nancybotwin]

I saw the title of the post and was like "ho hum - probably won't read this" and then saw it was from you and got SO excited. Ready or not ready to date, you deserve to have this happen in your life right now. Enjoy it and have fun with it!!!

[janegold]

It sounds flirty to me, and it is perfectly ok to enjoy it!

[Deleted]

Enjoy yourself! It's more than ok!

[Waffles]

Sounds like flirting to me! Enjoy it!

[qcinoct]

sounds fun! Enjoy yourself!