Post by monarobinson on Sept 14, 2016 20:54:49 GMT -5
I feel like it's been a while since we've had one of these and I've got questions!
bebeetmoi How has life been since the wedding? Did you go into the post wedding depression that some people get or have you just been super relaxed and glad the stress is gone?
rjamz Are you having a bday party for E? (I'm dying that our kids are so close to turning 1. It's not even possible.)
Post by bebeetmoi on Sept 14, 2016 21:03:09 GMT -5
You're sweet for checking in on everyone:)
Not a gosh darn thing is different about married life for us, expect our wedding bands lol. I definitely did have a few days of post-wedding blues! It all went by too quickly, and I feel like there was so much of the day I missed, as I was busy being the bride (if that makes sense). But now I am so glad the stress of planning everything is behind me- it was a freaking LOT of work. We have our honeymoon in 2 weeks, which will be awesome:)
Not a gosh darn thing is different about married life for us, expect our wedding bands lol. I definitely did have a few days of post-wedding blues! It all went by too quickly, and I feel like there was so much of the day I missed, as I was busy being the bride (if that makes sense). But now I am so glad the stress of planning everything is behind me- it was a freaking LOT of work. We have our honeymoon in 2 weeks, which will be awesome:)
It makes total sense! I always say that I want to go back and re-do our wedding but I'd want to be a guest at it. Where are you going on your honeymoon? I bet it's someplace dreamy.
For now, they are still coming. It could be a disaster, but I'm hoping if MIL just can't keep up they go back to the room early. School is good I guess, haven't had an exam yet so I guess we'll see if I still think it's good after the first one lol.
Not a gosh darn thing is different about married life for us, expect our wedding bands lol. I definitely did have a few days of post-wedding blues! It all went by too quickly, and I feel like there was so much of the day I missed, as I was busy being the bride (if that makes sense). But now I am so glad the stress of planning everything is behind me- it was a freaking LOT of work. We have our honeymoon in 2 weeks, which will be awesome:)
It makes total sense! I always say that I want to go back and re-do our wedding but I'd want to be a guest at it. Where are you going on your honeymoon? I bet it's someplace dreamy.
Yes, exactly! I would have loved to be a guest at my wedding!
No verdict. I really don't know what to do. I never had baby fever before. This is so bad. Will it pass? Will I live like this forever? I easily spent hours yesterday consumed with baby thoughts - timing, names, how it'll impact vacations, money, daycare, nursery colors, etc. I just don't know what is right for our family. Yesterday as I had dinner with the girls and did baths, as my husband worked a 48 hour tour, I kept thinking how this is finally not so hard and how stressed I would be if there was a baby I had to nurse during all that. But my heart! I'm so confused. I really don't know what is right for us. My ideal timing has passed too and that weighs on me. Some days I feel like someone is missing and others I feel like the jack pot with our two smart, happy, healthy girls and we should just carry on as is.
Post by monarobinson on Sept 15, 2016 9:07:33 GMT -5
bean47 I have a little different perspective on the issue of a third kid. I was very much done and very happy with having two. Perfectly content. Cue a surprise pregnancy, many, many tears and a lot of freaking out. You mentioned the timing aspect. My pregnancy came at almost the worst possible timing. We've had to make so many changes and adjust our way of life big time. I have absolutely no regrets and if I had to go back and do it all again, I would in a heartbeat. There's always a way to make things work, some ways are harder than others. We went from a two income household to one. I've had to majorly curb my shopping (boo!!) and I'm much more budget conscious than I've ever been.
Its such a hard decision! I know you'll make the right one for you and your family.
No verdict. I really don't know what to do. I never had baby fever before. This is so bad. Will it pass? Will I live like this forever? I easily spent hours yesterday consumed with baby thoughts - timing, names, how it'll impact vacations, money, daycare, nursery colors, etc. I just don't know what is right for our family. Yesterday as I had dinner with the girls and did baths, as my husband worked a 48 hour tour, I kept thinking how this is finally not so hard and how stressed I would be if there was a baby I had to nurse during all that. But my heart! I'm so confused. I really don't know what is right for us. My ideal timing has passed too and that weighs on me. Some days I feel like someone is missing and others I feel like the jack pot with our two smart, happy, healthy girls and we should just carry on as is.
My husband is working nights right now so I've been solo for bedtime with the big and the baby and honestly it's been NBD. I was dreading it but you just make it work.
JUST HAVE A BABY!
Thanks for your input! It's helpful to hear. I know I could do it, I've done solo everything with two but I kind of dread changing our routine. But not enough that I can let it go! I need someone to make these decisions for me haha
If I could SAH and be finically okay we would go for it. Being a ft working parent of 3 with an H who is gone 24 hours at a whack every few days, sounds exhausting. Even when they are older and have to get a bunch of different places. Silly little things make me hesitate too like the girls sharing a room forever. Our new house is only 3 bedrooms and I just never pictured my kids sharing a room. It's so silly but then I start questioning if something so trivial gives me pause, then maybe I'm not 100% sure of a third.
I also know this is silly but I feel bad for the third. My girls are the BEST friends and sisters. Like obsessed with each other. I know they won't always be that way but I feel bad this one would be like the side kick, so much younger than them. Why does my mind hang on these crazy reasons not to? But I keep thinking about how amazing having C was for our family. How much my love grew and how I want that again.
bean47 I have a little different perspective on the issue of a third kid. I was very much done and very happy with having two. Perfectly content. Cue a surprise pregnancy, many, many tears and a lot of freaking out. You mentioned the timing aspect. My pregnancy came at almost the worst possible timing. We've had to make so many changes and adjust our way of life big time. I have absolutely no regrets and if I had to go back and do it all again, I would in a heartbeat. There's always a way to make things work, some ways are harder than others. We went from a two income household to one. I've had to majorly curb my shopping (boo!!) and I'm much more budget conscious than I've ever been.
Its such a hard decision! I know you'll make the right one for you and your family.
Thank you so much for your perspective. What is the age difference between your 3?
bean47 I have a little different perspective on the issue of a third kid. I was very much done and very happy with having two. Perfectly content. Cue a surprise pregnancy, many, many tears and a lot of freaking out. You mentioned the timing aspect. My pregnancy came at almost the worst possible timing. We've had to make so many changes and adjust our way of life big time. I have absolutely no regrets and if I had to go back and do it all again, I would in a heartbeat. There's always a way to make things work, some ways are harder than others. We went from a two income household to one. I've had to majorly curb my shopping (boo!!) and I'm much more budget conscious than I've ever been.
Its such a hard decision! I know you'll make the right one for you and your family.
Thank you so much for your perspective. What is the age difference between your 3?
7, 4, 10 months.
B and K are 3 years apart, K and C are 3.5 yrs apart.
Post by TrudyCampbell on Sept 15, 2016 10:35:50 GMT -5
bean47 I'm personally on team two and through but it sounds like the only cure for your baby fever is to be holding a baby! And now I want to discuss baby names lol
Also sharing a room is NBD, we actually love it and plan to keep our girls sharing when we move to the suburbs, even in a 4 bedroom house. They LOVE sharing.
bean47, I'm still having back-and-forth thoughts about #3 (though obviously it's too late now). But at the end of the day, I keep telling myself that I will only regret the kids I don't have. My vision of the future Thanksgiving table full of extended family. And somehow all those other things will work themselves out.
I found out I was pregnant right after we got back from a ski week where G had her first lessons and my ILs watched X for us. It was a really nice low stress trip and I was thinking how great it was to have older kids who can do fun things. They're also easier/more independent at home. But...we'll get to that point again eventually. And in the interim, I can ask G for help with some things and have both kids learn to be more independent with other things.
We also have 3 bedrooms, so X and G currently share. Eventually the girls will share and X will have his own room. Right now, though, he HATES being by himself and really loves G's company. I figured we'll manage, and also G will be leaving for college by the time DD2 is starting high school. So hopefully there won't be too many really tough sharing years.
I was perfectly happy with two. Thrilled, in fact. Then Charlie came along. She really is the perfect addition to our family, and the age difference actually works really well. They are 8.5, 4, and 2 now.
Although now it seems ridiculous that I was pregnant with Charlie when Sadie was her age now. I can't imagine having another baby right now.
monarobinson I knooooow! How are they so old?? I don't know if we're doing anything special. What about you?
We going to have a party for him but it's jist grandparents, aunts and uncles. Since his birthday is in Halloween, I am going to have that as the theme. I was worried that was a cop out but it just seems like it will be so fun!