Threesomes, would you now?

[hannamaren]

Would you have a threesome now with your SO or H? If you dont have a SO, what are your thoughts?

I read an article about a woman that gave her H a threesome for his 40th birthday. It was very interesting and she ended up being excited after they found a mutually likable third (friend of a friend) but during the threesome, she found herself just watching and getting bored. Weird. They had rules - no penetration allowed between H and third.

If there was a guarantee it would not ruin our relationship and was a "what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas" type event, then maybe. But I would worry that I would regret it and then hate my H, etc.

[GailGoldie]

never. that isn't something I feel belongs in a marriage. Dating someone? i would have done it if the right situation came up, and it wasn't someone i was really seriuos about - but once i'm in a very committed relationship there's no way I'd do any kind of 3-some.

my husband would never either - we feel the same about that. he wouldn't have done it at all - it's not his thing.

[bunch]

No, im way too jealous. If he even looked at her I'd lose it.

[Kore]

Possibly. Alcohol would have to be involved. I can't begin to imagine hooking that up, though. We are not smooth. It'd be easier to do it with another guy than another girl.

[mrs.spunky]

I would, with one of 2 guy or one of 3 girl friends. DH and I are in agreement about 1 of the guys and 2 of the girls (one of whom I've already hooked up with) when we joke/talk
about it.

[hannamaren]

H and I are in agreement that we would have a threesome with Heidi Klum or Portia deRossi. No questions.

[jinnifah]

No, way too introverted to do anything like that. I don't think I could ever get drunk enough

[takeonyou]

No. I know that neither dh and I could not handle it at all. We both tend to be on the jealous side. It would ruin us.

[orchideous]

Possibly down the road.
I would never feel comfortable planning it, but it we were out drinking and the perfect opportunity presented itself and we were both on the same page I wouldn't be opposed.

[puppiesandrainbows]

I think there's way too many opportunities for something to go wrong and have your marriage get ruined as a result.

[Kore]

Sept 7, 2012 21:17:29 GMT -5 orchideous said:

Possibly down the road.
I would never feel comfortable planning it, but it we were out drinking and the perfect opportunity presented itself and we were both on the same page I wouldn't be opposed.

Same here. We would get stage fright if we planned it out. It'd have to be an "in the moment" thing.

[fuddyduddy]

No. It's just not something that has ever appealed to me.

[wanderlustmom]

No no interest, I don't even like 69! I would one, get way too jealous, I couldn't imagine having sex with someone besides DH and it sounds way too overstimulating.

[SJ]

No.

[KaraOrNot]

No. We are both too awkward to pull something like this off.

[belovedbride07]

Sept 7, 2012 22:35:45 GMT -5 KaraOrNot said:

No. We are both too awkward to pull something like this off.

Ditto. Aside from this just not being something we would introduce into our relationship, that is.

Although Portia de Rossi piques my interest. She's totally my girl crush. :-P

[Deleted]

No. My husband would be awkward and horrified. I would be jealous and stabby.

[lanyac]

1) I don't like sex, fuck if I'm supposed to have sex with someone else.
2) No, I'm too jealous. If he was all up in her business, I'd be pissed.
3) I don't think he'd do it, because he's really shy. He's slept with less people than I have.
4) If it was a dude, I'd be concerned about his bi-ness, like crackhabit.

[thumper55]

no.I'd be jealous and wondering if H was thinking of someone else when it's just me.

if I was single and not in love with the guy, maybe.

[Deleted]

DH and I kicked around this idea when we started dating. Never happened. Assuming he is honest, he has never had a threesome. I've had a couple.

I think the only way I'd be ok with this is if I was the only one hooking up with the girl. I'd be 100% fine with that, but I would not be ok with DH having sex with another girl.

I'd also be ok with having a threesome with another guy, but DH would never ever go for that.

So basically, I wouldn't want to share but I'd be fine being the center of attention. LOL.

[ILikeSloths]

No.

[Deleted]

If all 3 parties were okay to it, I would do it in a heartbeat. But I don't think that will ever happen.

[chessie]

Now, no, before yup.

[Deleted]

Not now. not with H. I would do it if I was single and the guest star, but never as part of the couple. Nothing about watching my H touch someone else the way he touches me seems sexy to me.

[whitemerlot]

No. I don't like the idea of swapping all those bodily fluids.

[honey987]

Sept 8, 2012 7:33:19 GMT -5 @kjewell said:

Not now. not with H. I would do it if I was single and the guest star, but never as part of the couple. Nothing about watching my H touch someone else the way he touches me seems sexy to me.

This maybe. I feel like it sounds cool, but I'm not sure I could actually go through with it in real life. I could never do it now though, I'm way to jealous.

[MarmeeNoir]

No, I would only be a third. My husband was all excited when we first met because I've done it with girls. Then he said he's too jealous to share me with someone else.

[thegooser]

We've talked it over. We both agree that him watching me hook up with a girl would be the perfect balance of non-jealousy-inducing and sexy. I could see it happening if we had the perfect storm of alcohol, opportunity, and a hot willing girl. But we likely won't seek it out.

[Bumblebee]

No, never. I wouldn't risk my marriage that way.

[protozoa]

No, I really don't think its my thing. Married, single, dating, whatever.