Contrasting between Loss - navel gazing & TMI/feelings

[MixedBerryJam]

Sept 17, 2016 18:58:10 GMT -5 mp said:

... When I doubted myself, that maybe I HAD been too much. Or too intense. Or too needy....

I hope it's okay that I quoted this much. I'll take it out if you want. But I want to make the point, but which I think you know, that you are a person with needs. That is not the same as a needy person. I'm glad you and Stinky had each other. JFC I loved that dog and I never even met him. And I'm glad you and Hermie had each other. As an animal lover I thank you for making is journey peaceful and loving, something I doubt he would have had without you.


(heart)  right back atcha.

[aussiecrush]

It was never about you being too much, it was about him being not enough. I'm so sorry he made your loss and grief about him and I'm glad you've found peace. You have an incredible heart mp.

[nsl]

(((MP)))

[Monica Geller]

I'm so glad you've been surrounded by love. I'm sorry for the loss of your pups. ((Hugs))

[mom2twoboys]

I am so sorry for your loss of your puppies, but I am so glad you realized it was him and not you. Big hugs!!

[lilibet]

I think Stinky sent you Hermie cause he knew you needed him and he needed you. That explains why it seemed so destined when Hermie came along. Hermie needed you to show him love and devotion and kindness and you needed him for all the reasons you listed. Hermie knew you were in a good place and he knew he was in the best place he'd ever been, so he knew it was ok to go.

I'm glad you're having this experience this time. You're an amazing person.

[Mrs.Rad888]

I'm so sorry about the loss of your dogs. And I'm sorry about how shitty your XBF was to you when you needed him to be supportive. I don't remember if you posted about it on the SO board, but I hope it's just because of my spotty memory and not because you didn't think we'd support you. While there have been some shitty people showing their asses around here lately, there are also good people here, and I hope you know that you'd have our support, even if we lived too far away to do anything other than sending prayers and wishes for peace.

[bcv513]

I just want to hug you and buy you a drink. I'm so sorry for the loss of your pups

[mcmel]

I've been thinking about you and your sweet babies. I'm sorry you've been hurting and I wish I could take some of the pain away. Please know that so many people on the boards love you.

[pugz]

mp you are a person that really inspires me. I love all pug people, but your commitment to savings dogs, taking care of senior puggies, being a genuinely kind and good person, it all sets you apart. Your posts on IG always pick me up! I'm sorry it has been such a hard year and I'm glad you found some healing.

Your love for stinky and hermie was so clear. I cried when I learned Hermie died. I know how special he was to you. <3

[hi725]

You.

I have so much love for you, and I am so sorry you've been through so much. I'm amazed at your strength and perseverance, no one deserves to be put through any of that shit. I am so sorry for your loss of your wrinkly old men, they always made me smile. (Hugs)

[puddleofgrace]

I wish I could give you the biggest hug ever.

[liverandonions]

Without getting into the whole story when my dog was sick and I didn't know if we should continue trying to figure out with what or just stop altogether I called my husband from the vet (he was with the kids) and my mom and they both were basically like "you should put him down" but in a harsh way. I needed someone to tell me to keep fighting and they were so heartless...i didn't do it that day and ran more tests only to end up putting him down less than two weeks later. All that to say that I get it. The people who should be the most supportive in our times of need were cruel. I am so happy you're feeling some peace with both stinky and hermie's passing. Your heart is so good to so many deserving dogs. I hope you find all the things to make that heart happy.

[gogadgetgo]

Hugs and love. You are a beautiful soul and both stinky and hermie were lucky dogs to have you.

[wambam]

((mp))

[jenstar]

Sept 17, 2016 23:50:41 GMT -5 mp said:

Sept 17, 2016 20:05:56 GMT -5 Mrs.Rad888 said:

I'm so sorry about the loss of your dogs. And I'm sorry about how shitty your XBF was to you when you needed him to be supportive. I don't remember if you posted about it on the SO board, but I hope it's just because of my spotty memory and not because you didn't think we'd support you. While there have been some shitty people showing their asses around here lately, there are also good people here, and I hope you know that you'd have our support, even if we lived too far away to do anything other than sending prayers and wishes for peace.

I've posted vaguely about dating a narcissist, but this is the first I've really shared any details. It took a while to even tell my closest friends this much. It was horribly embarrassing and I felt incredibly dumb. This was my first encounter with a narcissist, so it took a little while to break it down and work through it and really get that I had nothing to feel guilty over. 

Anyway, thank you. <3

I really think it's pretty easy for someone to be vulnerable to a narcissist when they haven't experienced one before. We usually think the best of people and that means ignoring red flags, that with a normal person wouldn't be so bad. You shouldn't be embarrassed by it. I still find after 2 years that many of my friends/family members I've talked to about it really just can't grasp what it's like. And in reality that's not a bad thing, it means they haven't come across someone like that and for that I'm thankful.

I'm so sorry about your doggies, but I'm really glad you are feeling at peace x

[justemily]

I'll echo what the other posters have said - you were never too needy, or too much. For the right person, you'll be perfect

*hugs* to you

[Deleted]

All the love. (hugs)

[googled]

Don't feel dumb. He's a dick.

I'm sorry about your pups

[berbles]

[thatgirl2478]

Sept 17, 2016 19:17:46 GMT -5 aussiecrush said:

It was never about you being too much, it was about him being not enough. I'm so sorry he made your loss and grief about him and I'm glad you've found peace. You have an incredible heart mp.

THIS!
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