Yes, I would. My BF met her DH that way. I think you have to be a bit more careful, but I haven't dated in 15 years, so I'd assume that even with regular dating. At least w/ online, there is a bigger pool.
Post by fuddyduddy on May 17, 2012 17:20:26 GMT -5
It wouldn't be the only way I would try to meet new people, but I think I would try it. Most of my friends in LA have tried online dating with mixed results. I know of a couple people that developed long-term relationships from JDate.
Absolutely. I met my first boyfriend in 1995 online. I'm sure it's improved in the last 20 years.
I have friends who've done it within the last couple years. There are a lot of douchebags, but that's true of any group of dudes. It's socially acceptable now, so no real risk of judgment or need for embarrassment if someone IRL finds her on there.
In my friends' experiences, it's a lot harder if you're a woman in your late 30's or later. Many dudes in that age bracket are single for a reason, and often come with a lot of baggage. It'll probably help a little more if your friend is thin and/or hot.
Tell her to skype or google chat with them first, so she can see what they look like.
the key, imo, is to be selective & to meet after a few emails. if you email too long then the first meeting is weird. if you don't get a few emails then you might go on a date with someone that's a furry (um, not that that happened to me or anything...or that there's anything wrong with furries...)
Like all of my guy co-workers overwhelmingly agree that she is the #1 hottest in our department of over 90 attorneys.
We have discussed this. Ok, we actually did an informal ranking.
But this is a long aside.
The guys are telling her not to do it because she is so hot, and she will be inundated with creepers.
if she does pictures of her that are more "pretty girl next door" vs. "could be playboy bunny of the year" i don't think she'd get more creepers than if she was slightly above average.
eta: i think dateline or something did some test & the more "girl next door" version of a profile got far more interest in her & what she said vs. the "sexy" version of a profile. the profile with no pictures got fewer responses but the ones that did get, focused on the text in the profile (same woman for all 3 profiles, same info, just different picture situation)
I had some luck with online dating when I was single. Technically DH and I "met" online but we had only exchanged a few messages before we met IRL at a Speed Dating event organized by a dating site.
Like all of my guy co-workers overwhelmingly agree that she is the #1 hottest in our department of over 90 attorneys.
We have discussed this. Ok, we actually did an informal ranking.
But this is a long aside.
The guys are telling her not to do it because she is so hot, and she will be inundated with creepers.
if she does pictures of her that are more "pretty girl next door" vs. "could be playboy bunny of the year" i don't think she'd get more creepers than if she was slightly above average.
Then she will definitely be inundated with creepers. The pool gets a little stale on those sites sometimes, so "new blood," especially in the form of a hot, successful woman, will be swarmed.
Post by luvmagoldn on May 17, 2012 17:30:35 GMT -5
If she's that attractive then online might actually help her. Guys who might be intimidated to approach her in person might be bold enough to fire off an email. It might make the initial approach and "get to know you" stage a little easier.
And she will get some creepers. But she can just ignore them!
Him: She shouldn't do it. She will have to fight off hordes of creepy men. Me: YOU MET YOUR WIFE ON MATCH. SHE COULD MEET...ANOTHER YOU! Him: Yeah. Same thing.
...would you consider online dating? I did online dating after my divorce
Why? Why not? I have a child that I have 80% of the time and am working full time and getting my MBA. I don't have time for a lot of extra stuff, and when I do, I like to go to ballet class ... not a lot of straight guys in there. I figured it would be a way to meet new people and go on some dates after I had already "screened" them for lack of a better word. I did both eharmony and match.
Or have you already done it? See above
How was your experience? I had a pretty good experience with it. Match I met a few guys and I found the quality of guys to be not as good as eharmony, but that is really dependent on age, region and what you are looking for. I probably went on first dates with 20 or so guys, additional dates with maybe 3 of those, and I met my bf on eharmony. We are now living together and planning to get married next summer. So I'd say it was a success
I am trying to encourage my friend to do so even though I have no firsthand knowledge. Please tell me I'm not leading her down a path of terror.
I met my DH using an online dating site, way back when that sort of thing was thought to be skeevy or reeking of desperation by most of the population.
Absolutely. I met my husband on eHarmony and we've been married almost three years and are still as in love as ever. Yes, we got lucky, but if it happened to us, why can't it happen to you?
if she does pictures of her that are more "pretty girl next door" vs. "could be playboy bunny of the year" i don't think she'd get more creepers than if she was slightly above average.
She can't help being Playboy Bunny of the Year.
Even in glasses. LOL.
No, really. Hot like the surface of the sun.
That's why I suggest eHarmony. It's not based on looks, it's based on more personality based traits. And other people can't see your profile if the system didn't "match" you.
I would and I have I met my DH on match and we've been together for 7+ years and married for almost 5 years. You have to be careful, but it's a great tool.