I don't know why particularlly, it just doesn't sit well with me. Plus I hang out over on the starting over board sometimes and some of the online dating stories those girls share are enough to turn me off it forever.
If she's that attractive then online might actually help her. Guys who might be intimidated to approach her in person might be bold enough to fire off an email. It might make the initial approach and "get to know you" stage a little easier.
And she will get some creepers. But she can just ignore them!
This. Plus who approaches her now, my money is on a lot of douchebags.
I would totally online date if I were single. One of my bff's won't do it, she's SO. EFFING. HOT. She said she tried it and it was a disaster. Too many guys contacted her and she said most were gross and obvs just wanted physical relationship. And the ones she did go out with were hot and therefore had many other gorgeous women they were also dating so they weren't serious with her. She has a great job, is kind, funny as hell, and very normal. I'm shocked it didn't work out for her. She tried it for at least 6 months (more than that, I'd say). No real prospects came out of it at all.
I would. It wouldn't be my only means of meeting people, but it seems like a good start. Plus, how else do you meet people, if you go to a bar, it's for a one night stand most of the time. Maybe friends? If nothing else, you get a bunch of creepers, so you shut it down. I would set up a special email with fake info so if it is unsuccessful, I could just never worry about that email again you know.
Yes. I very reluctantly tried eHarmony when I moved back to my home state. And met my husband.
When I was younger, I met a lot of boyfriends/guys at the bar, or in classes or at parties. I just didn't have that same kind of social life at 28, and quite frankly, I don't know if I would have met the kind of guy I wanted to marry in a bar.
Plus, how else do you meet people, if you go to a bar, it's for a one night stand most of the time. Maybe friends?
ITA. I was lucky to meet H in college. One of my labmates is dating a lot and complains about how much trouble she has meeting people. I don't have any advice because I don't know how dating works in the adult world. LOL
I met my DH shortly after I got my first email address, so online dating was not really something I ever had an opportunity to consider. But if I was single now and not having luck meeting someone through traditional venues, then sure.
Random tangent--My DH used to work with a couple who met on the Internet in the mid 80s when it was just accessible to a small handful of academics and researchers (they were grad students in computer science at different schools). They have been married for like 25 years. I have always thought they should alert someone (the Guiness records people?) and see if they can be officially named the first married couple to meet on the Internet.
I met my husband online. But, his ad was the only one I answered. It freaked me out despite it working out. If I had to do things all over again, I would probably not go the online route.
If your friend is hot, I foresee it being a nightmare for her.
Considering I met my DH on match seven years ago, I say go for it. I did online dating for a little over a year before we met, and I had a few really good dates (dated a few guys for a month or two), lots of mediocre ones, one date with a real asshole, and no scary ones.
My tips:
1) Assume that if a guy has three photos posted, and he looks good in only two of them, he will look like the one bad photo in real life. And if a guy doesn't have any photos posted, there's usually a reason for that.
2) Don't feel that you need to respond to everyone who sends you a message just to be polite.
3) If a guy sounds obnoxious or stuck-up in his profile, he will be in real life as well.
4) The obvious things - don't use your real name in your screen name. If you do start talking with someone you like and want to email outside of the dating site, set up a separate email account that does not include your last name. Don't tell people where you live and only meet out in public.
Post by milkrations on May 17, 2012 19:48:03 GMT -5
My BIL is one of the most awkward people on the planet and he has been dating someone he met online for over two years. If online dating can work for him, it can work for anyone.
I absolutely would. I figure it's where I'm more likely to find other introverts, whom I prefer dating.
This. I met my DH online in 2001. We've been married 9 years. It was just so much easier to have a way to identify common interests without having to deal with other crap.
Yep! Met my husband online and we have been together almost 10 years now.
I saw his picture and new I was going to marry him...did not even read his profile.
This is almost exactly what happened with us....one night a bunch of internet friends and I were chatting and trolling love.aol (later merged with match.com), and we found my DH's profile. We all agreed he was yummy and that I should email him, but I didn't. I signed up on that site later and 3 months later, HE emailed ME. I knew on our first date.
I met my H on Match. I loved online dating. It was such a great time killer and i could book 2-3 dates every weekend, pretty much whenever i was bored. It was a beautiful thing. Plus you dont have to worry about getting gropped at a singles bar.
I did a bit of online dating before I met DH (didn't meet online) and sure there were some creepy dudes, like the one that was into S&M and went into great detail in his email (even included pics of his toys), but after I got over the creeper part, I would email my friends and at least we all got a good laugh. I never had a scary experience in person and I met many guys, I just wasn't really into any of them.
I met SO online, we've been together two and a half years. My experience was very positive, and I used a free service not known for long term relationships (OkCupid). I did get some creepers (one guy wanted to come over to my house and make lasagna for me), but I dated a couple of good ones before SO and there are some decent guys out there. Usually they're the type that either work a lot or are new to the area and don't know many people.