My H keeps ruining my clothes.

[cleo29]

DOn't have him do your laundry. H and I do our own, unless we have a small load and ask if the other wants to add to it.

[emoflamingo]

My laundry is separate from everyone else's because my husband once shrunk a cashmere sweater I had never worn. I was prewashing and he shrunk it in the dryer.

[tacokick]

I'd be beyond pissed. He can read, right? This sounds like an excuse to get out of doing laundry to me.

[cleo29]

Also, you get to replace said items with no whining or a hard time from him.

[pandorica]

I would be mad! Even more mad that you told him NOT to, and he did it anyway.

I've completely taken over doing laundry, I don't want to risk this kind of stuff, and it's easier to do it myself. But I would expect my H to be able to follow simple instructions.

[thatgirl2478]

Yeah - it's happened to me too - shrunken cashmere sweaters, delicate blouses with holes in them because they shouldn't go in the dryer, pants shrunk 2 sizes because they shouldn't go in the dryer... I have been SO PISSED that now he asks about ANYTHING that isn't a tee shirt, underwear or jeans.

[speckledfrog]

Put your special laundry in a different place. I know all the tricks about our laundry because I do it all the time. MH is not a dummy, but there's no way he'd go through all the clothes and check their laundry tags. Help him help himself, so you don't have to kill him.

[speckledfrog]

I missed that you told him not to do the laundry. Yeah. He's dumb. Kill away!

[nicbreeful]

WTF?! No. You don't get to "just be happy that he's doing laundry" because, presumably, he lives in the home and, presumably, he wears clothes. He doesn't get a special "I HELPED!" husband medal because he did a chore that needs to be done.

Do you guys do a set amount fun money? If this is a multiple offense, then the replacement of your items should come out of his fun money.

[nicbreeful]

OK, so you told him not to do it and he did it anyway? Yeah.. You get to take his fun money to replace the things that he disregarded.

[litebright]

I'm sorry, that sucks. I'd be upset, especially since you specifically asked him not to do that laundry. If you can't replace the exact items, at least you should get to go shopping and hopefully find similar ones!

I have come to accept that my husband will probably never check laundry tags, separate colors except maaaaaybe some whites, or go through pockets to look for chapsticks and pens. Most of the time he gets away with all of those things without ruining stuff, but there have been a few notable exceptions (both my stuff and his own!). So anything that needs specific care doesn't go into my hamper at all -- I start a bag in my closet, either a mesh bag or a trash bag, and he leaves that alone. DH has his own mesh bag hanging from a closet handle for dry-cleaning, too, so I can add anything of mine that needs to go. Stuff in the hamper is assumed to be good to go for a standard washing cycle. Even though it pains me that he piles brights and darks in together.

[OscarQ]

I don't go here but I'm grinding my teeth about this one. You told him not to touch your stuff. He touched your stuff and he fucked it up. No. Just no. He needs to listen to you and respect your wishes. He also owes you replacements for the shit he ruined. Sorry about your stuff.

[Cioccolato]

I would be pissed.

[auntie]

I would be livid.

DH has only ever ruined good bras on me. He gets a little anal retentive about laundry and trash when charged with managing them. As soon as he has 2 things in the hamper he's running a load which is wasteful and annoys the shit out of me. And then he expects a cookie for something I generally do as part of my routine of doing other things.

Those Color Catcher things are great for mixed loads.

[mel]

You are justified in being pissed.

DH has gotten really good about checking with me if he's unsure about an item of clothing. At first I would get annoyed at him and wonder why he couldn't just read the tag, but then I realized that I sometimes don't follow the recommendations on the tag either. There was a pair of dress pants that he put in the dryer and shrunk down so bad our 7 year old could wear them, so I told him to never ever put pants in the dryer regardless of what the tag says. Our laundry room looks like a clothing store with the amount of stuff strewn about hanging to dry.

[livinitup]

My DH is afraid of laundering my clothes.


This works well for us.

[trytobearunner34]

Sept 22, 2016 21:14:31 GMT -5 cleo29 said:

DOn't have him do your laundry. H and I do our own, unless we have a small load and ask if the other wants to add to it.

This

[iamgrace]

My H and I used to do each others laundry - like whenever one was doing some, we'd do it all. After one too many situations as the one you've described, we decided that in order to stay together, we needed to separate our laundry. Lol. Also, he used to hate the way I folded his shirts!

[eddy]

H and I stopped doing each other laundry about 2 years ago. Best decision ever. I know exactly how to do my own and the same for him. 

[eddy]

Sept 23, 2016 6:08:00 GMT -5 iamgrace said:

My H and I used to do each others laundry - like whenever one was doing some, we'd do it all. After one too many situations as the one you've described, we decided that in order to stay together, we needed to separate our laundry. Lol. Also, he used to hate the way I folded his shirts!

I remember our first fight after getting married was about how I folded his shirts. He WAY overreacted and I haven't folded his laundry since.

12 years going strong lol.

[dottyblue]

This is why I do all the laundry in my house. My rules for dry/don't dry are completely inconsistent because it depends on the fit of the article of clothing as well as fabrics, etc. If he needs something to be washed immediately, he does a load of only his clothes.

He does the yard work. I do the laundry. It's a fair trade.

[zitiqueen]

Oh yeah, my H is under strict orders to never touch my laundry, and I don't even have anything really special -- I just don't want my clothes dried on the hottest possible setting for the longest amount of time possible.

[cleo29]

Sept 22, 2016 21:18:05 GMT -5 ste said:

Sept 22, 2016 21:14:31 GMT -5 cleo29 said:

DOn't have him do your laundry. H and I do our own, unless we have a small load and ask if the other wants to add to it.

I specifically asked him not to do it. I traveled for work last week and had various dress and casual clothes in my suitcase (some like this that I wore briefly, and actually didn't even need to be washed). I said please not to do any of it until I had a chance to sort through it all, and apologized that it prob wouldn't be til this weekend. He went through it anyway to "help" and picked out stuff he thought would be ok.

I'm seriously really pissed off about this.

Well, then he needs to learn a lesson. Your anger is justifiable and I am sorry her ruined your clothes. I am always partial to cutting out the crotch in all of their underwear.

[aliciaflorrick]

Adding to the choir of doing our own laundry. Way less arguments/annoyance about when and how.

[ECB]

Yeah, no.  He doesn't get a cookie for doing the laundry when he VERY SPECIFICALLY went against your direct request of what NOT to wash, especially given that he's screwed up before. 

If he really wants to help you, then he needs to LISTEN to you. 

[snowflurry]

H is not allowed to touch any laundry because he insists that bleach needs to go in every wash regardless of the color of the items. Our nice maroon sheets are now splotchy white and he insists it was not because of the bleach. And he refuses to use color safe bleach so he has been banned.

[shortstax]

Sept 22, 2016 22:49:45 GMT -5 ste said:

I do, in general, appreciate that he took it upon himself to do laundry. Truly. But since this a recurring thing apparently, and I *specifically* asked him not to do this particular laundry, I'm really really irritated. And he knows it. And I'm actually more irritated by his "poor me I screwed up and you're mad" mopiness.

The romper he did replace. The first dress was no longer available. I just looked online, and this one isn't anymore either. None of it has been expensive, they were just things I liked and felt good in.

And each one I only got to wear ONCE. /sob

Losing something that makes you feel like a million bucks is THE WORST.

Maybe check Ebay?  I've found replacements for my past season loved items there in the past.  

[motzie]

Sept 23, 2016 7:39:38 GMT -5 snowflurry said:

H is not allowed to touch any laundry because he insists that bleach needs to go in every wash regardless of the color of the items. Our nice maroon sheets are now splotchy white and he insists it was not because of the bleach. And he refuses to use color safe bleach so he has been banned.

Wtf? Can you maybe give him a quick demonstration, maybe on a favorite tee of his, because dude, no.

[fivechickens]

Will he still do the clothes if you put what you don't want him to wash in a separate pile from the rest of the laundry? (Sorry if this was covered)

So , I didn't ruin any of my H work clothes but he kept complaining how I hung them up. (🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻 To H). So I still do laundry but I don't touch his work stuff and he puts it in a separate pile that I ignore.

[fivechickens]

Sept 23, 2016 8:09:03 GMT -5 motzie said:

Sept 23, 2016 7:39:38 GMT -5 snowflurry said:

H is not allowed to touch any laundry because he insists that bleach needs to go in every wash regardless of the color of the items. Our nice maroon sheets are now splotchy white and he insists it was not because of the bleach. And he refuses to use color safe bleach so he has been banned.

Wtf? Can you maybe give him a quick demonstration, maybe on a favorite tee of his, because dude, no.

How does a grown adult person not understand how bleach works?