Let's cheer up and be thankful!

[Deleted]

I know it's not thankful Thursday, BUT name something(s) you are glad you can do since leaving XH. Change is always difficult, even when it's the right decision. I'm learning to appreciate the simple things that I couldn't have while with a douchebag prick.

1. Having my home as a peaceful place that I'm happy to be at. ( as opposed to waking on eggshells waiting for the next explosion)
2. The ability to maintain my friendships.
3. Being able to smoke a cigarette if I please.
4. The ability to eat a bowl of cereal for dinner if I want to!
5. Besides bills, spending my money how I choose. ( I was the bread winner and he took advantage)

[doriswe]

I thought about this yesterday after spending the day with my friends....

XH would have been hella pissed that I was getting groped by my female friends and would have been all sorts of butt hurt that I danced on the bar because some dude was inevitably watching! He was also a terribly emotional drinker, so most of the time we would go out with my friends, I'd stay sober to make sure I could keep him (and his crying) in check.

Edited to clarify: I'm thankful I can be me without the drama that always came along with taking him out and about!

[bullygirl979]

I am thankful for not having to share my bed. I woke up this morning sleeping sideways and taking up the whole damn thing, lol!

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Sept 9, 2012 8:11:49 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

I am thankful for not having to share my bed. I woke up this morning sleeping sideways and taking up the whole damn thing, lol!

Oh I totally agree! I wake up all in the middle spread out, it's fantastic!

[cutter21]

Not feeling guilty for doings things for myself- playing softball & soccer, signing up for 5K's, spending time with my sister/family just because.

And also, being able to spend money how I want. Because of XH's debt, I always felt like I couldn't splurge or spend money on anything fun (even though he spent money on himself all the time).

Also, with BF, being able to share my opinions and excitement without being told my feelings are stupid.

[explorer2001]

The list is sooo long. Here are some highlight:
- coming home to house just as clean as I left it
- cleaning up after only myself
- being safe and at peace in my home
- not (metaphorically) walking on eggshells , constantly afraid of what would set him off this time
- not literally walking on broken glass, screws, nails, twisted paperclips, shards of metal, broken toothpicks, etc. that "fell out of his pocket" and being told if I didn't like stepping on it I should just wear shoes in the house (yes even in the bedroom straight out of bed)
- saving money, paying off debt, not having to pay all the bills the minute I get paid before he can empty the accounts ad being afraid of what he'd charge next
- sleeping sounding through the night and not being woken up with demands for sex or being raped because he knew if he woke me up to ask at 3 am when I had to be up at 6 for work, I'd tell him to fuck himself
- being responsible for my own actions and only my own actions, instead of trying to fix things he fucked up, like cleaning up after him getting stupid drunk and puking at a wedding.
- make some big career moves and travel for work

There is so much more...
Right now as I type this, there is a huge thunderstorm pounding down outside. I just realized I don't jump at loud noises any more. I tensed for a half second before the big peal of thunder and then I just breathed. I truly am safe and unafraid here now.

[hobs209]

Not freak out because I'm running late.
Being able to see my friends soooo much more.
Having the time and motivation to take better care of myself (physically and by getting counseling).
Being about to date a really, really great guy that I'm super into.

[bookworm85]

I second #1 from the op. I am happy to be able to make my own money. Be able to come home and not worry if he is going to walk out or better yet kick me out. I am so blessed to be able to start my job in October. I will prove to him I don't need him or his money to survive I can do it ALL on my own

[bookworm85]

I'm also thankful to my mom and my sister they have helped me so much with my child without them I don't know where I will be.

[roselis]

1. Like others, being able to keep a clean house. My brother actually cleans up after himself *gasp!* and will clean my kitchen for me from time to time and do dishes without complaining. Much more than ex ever did.
2. Being able to go out with friends without getting a call of when I will be home
3. Not getting that knot in my stomach when he doesn't answer my calls.
4. Being able to buy stuff for myself without the guilt trip. Actually having money to spend on myself (XH wanted to buy stuff for himself a lot at the expense of stuff for me, and then I got the guilt trip from his mom if I bought stuff for me because he didn't have his own vehicle)
5. Being able to actually spend time with my family.

[angieawesome]

Sept 9, 2012 8:11:49 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

I am thankful for not having to share my bed. I woke up this morning sleeping sideways and taking up the whole damn thing, lol!

Yup this.

[blackkitty]

I am thankful I can spend my disposible income on whatever the fuck I want to.

[chrissie3416]

The ability to control the remote.....and not be criticized about what Im watching on TV....