Post by liveintheville on Oct 14, 2016 11:21:59 GMT -5
Getting my house in order. We just ordered blinds and I'm hoping to redo our living room. Reading My time at night when I snuggle in the bed with my kids My cats and sometimes my dog My friends my friends my friends Cliche but H
There are some personality tools around values that you might find helpful to pinpoint what you value most and what you may get the most joy from. I can research some if you want.
That would be awesome. There's a lot of things people have mentioned that I enjoy, but I wouldn't classify as things that "make me happy" which is interesting. I don't even know how I'd answer the question, actually.
Will do. I am on vacation, so I will research when I am home in a few days!
Hot yoga is (still) new for me, but it really does change my perspective. Exercise in general keeps me sane. When I get a morning alone I enjoy a small pot of tea (to drink from a small cup) and a scone in my favorite reading spot with a good book. Travel when I can really disconnect - no phone (except for pictures) or internet. Keeping a gratitude journal listing 3 - 5 things each day is a nice way to refocus my attention on what I have, not a list of wants. Cooking/baking soothes me when I feel frazzled, plus I then get to eat something delicious! Knowing that even if/when he frustrates me, my DH always has my back and my best interests at heart.
There are some personality tools around values that you might find helpful to pinpoint what you value most and what you may get the most joy from. I can research some if you want.
That would be awesome. There's a lot of things people have mentioned that I enjoy, but I wouldn't classify as things that "make me happy" which is interesting. I don't even know how I'd answer the question, actually.
But like others have mentioned, remember it's ok to not be happy all the time. You just went through a life altering event, which changes you. And you're trying a new med and I'm guessing your hormones might be a little whack. It's ok to grieve and feel sad. You don't have to find joy in certain things right now. You don't have to find joy ever. Be kind to yourself <3
There are some personality tools around values that you might find helpful to pinpoint what you value most and what you may get the most joy from. I can research some if you want.
That would be awesome. There's a lot of things people have mentioned that I enjoy, but I wouldn't classify as things that "make me happy" which is interesting. I don't even know how I'd answer the question, actually.
It took me a long time to identify the things that make me happy. And it came from a list of my top 5 values. Personality tests helped me identify those values. I hope something comes along to help you find your thing. Also, I don't anyone who runs around happy all the time. It ebbs and flows, especially with major life changes.
That would be awesome. There's a lot of things people have mentioned that I enjoy, but I wouldn't classify as things that "make me happy" which is interesting. I don't even know how I'd answer the question, actually.
But like others have mentioned, remember it's ok to not be happy all the time. You just went through a life altering event, which changes you. And you're trying a new med and I'm guessing your hormones might be a little whack. It's ok to grieve and feel sad. You don't have to find joy in certain things right now. You don't have to find joy ever. Be kind to yourself <3
I promise, I understand all of that. The uncontent feeling isn't necessarily new though (though certainly not to this degree), and I'm self-reflecting and thinking of things that will make me feel more content and fulfilled moving forward. I think starting to volunteer for example would provide some of what I'm looking for - a bigger sense of self, social interaction, and something to "do." My coworker is also interested so we're going to find something we want to do together.