Week of Oct 17

[awick14]

It's late here, 10:40, but I'm not even remotely tired even after getting up at 5:3 this morning. WTF!

I did go to the local pool and walk for 30 mins then I hung out in the kiddie pool until Dh was done his work out. (The kiddie pool is warmer then the lap pool but cooler then the hot tub.) it felt nice to get out and do something for once. I think I need to start pool walking more, or something I'm starting to get lazy.

[thoseareradishes]

awick14, my friend who was pregnant over the summer craved being in the pool, it made her feel a lot better.

Hi everyone. Thought I'd hang out over here while waiting for my ultrasound on Friday. I feel a bit out of control with my anxiety about this. I'm 5+1 today and have no symptoms other than some mild cramping and I want to cry all the time. So while I'm trying to enjoy that, it's of course making me nervous, and I'm half convinced that it's over already and all my symptoms are just progesterone.

[cactuscookie]

So many hugs, thoseareradishes . I'm so glad to see you here, and we all know exactly how stressful it is. This is the perfect place for that stage.

ETA: My notes from 5+1: "almost completely normal; minor ab soreness; emotional?" Sound familiar?

[dollyllama]

Oh my gosh awick14, you are getting close! I am so excited for you!

Hi all!
I figured I would pop on and check in on everyone. My little man is 8 months today and he is so much fun. He's crawling all over the place and his best friend is our giant hairy dog. We're doing baby-led weaning and he loves to eat, definitely the right choice for him. Last year, it was amazing to have a holiday season filled with so much joy as we anticipated his arrival & I am so excited to have him here this year and start passing on some of our favorite traditions.
As crazy as it seems that it's taken this long, I am starting to move on more and more from our labor experience which DH is happy about because I have been firmly in the OAD camp until the last week or so. It'll still be a long while until we pursue anything because our RE wants you to be done BF for at least 3 months and I'm still hoping to make it until at least a year.

Can't wait to hear all the updates on the babies & pregnancies.

[dollyllama]

thoseareradishes ((hugs)) the wait is long and hard especially when you are feeling anxious. I felt normal until about 6 and a half weeks and then started having tiny bouts of nausea. I did have cramping from before my BFP until like 26 weeks though.

[awick14]

thoseareradishes- the first few weeks of being pregnant but have no symptoms is hard. I remember I felt off and that's why I tested when I did. But for about a week after the BFP I never felt different then before until the morning sickness and reflex came in.

We are here if you need us.

[knx9211]

xoxoxo thoseareradishes - But no. We are both 5+1 and that means we will both be good luck for each other and make it to the finish line this time <3


Waiting on Beta #2 results. Ultrasound looked great, but I'm still very nervous.

[G22]

Oct 18, 2016 9:45:13 GMT -5 thoseareradishes said:

awick14 , my friend who was pregnant over the summer craved being in the pool, it made her feel a lot better.

Hi everyone. Thought I'd hang out over here while waiting for my ultrasound on Friday. I feel a bit out of control with my anxiety about this. I'm 5+1 today and have no symptoms other than some mild cramping and I want to cry all the time. So while I'm trying to enjoy that, it's of course making me nervous, and I'm half convinced that it's over already and all my symptoms are just progesterone.

#1 - Congrats!!!!! I've got everything crossed for a good u/s!! I'm so happy to see you here. (heart)

#2 - I felt the same way while I waited between betas and u/s. I was a mess. ((hugs)) When you need to vent, we're here.

[G22]

Z turns 1 next week.  When I look at him, I see a toddler and not a baby anymore. He can walk when he wants, though he lacks the confidence right now to go very far. Hes got a handful of words he can say. His favorite foods are bananas (really all fruits), sweet potato, cheese, and scrambled eggs. Oh, and toddler tantrums?? Already?!

[knx9211]

Beta #2 is in - 9,682! Doubling time of ~30 hours. I'm so relieved. Going back next Friday and really, really hoping we see a heartbeat. I'm going to be very nervous until then and will have to do a lot of random shit to keep myself busy.

[HoneySpider]

DS is 2 months old, he is such a good baby and he's so smiley and giggly now which is fun. It makes me want ALL THE BABIES right now.

[Muddled]

thoseareradishes, I didn't feel any real pregnancy symptoms until after 6 weeks, then the nausea started. I never had sore boobs. I don't think I was ever any more exhausted than usual. I was FULL of anxiety. Not to be a party pooper, but there's really nothing to enjoy about first tri. That will come later.

[thoseareradishes]

Thanks guys. It makes me feel better to know I'm not abnormal for not having symptoms yet. I'll try to enjoy it while I can!

[Chrysanthemum]

So happy to see you here thoseareradishes, knx9211. And yes, the wait between betas and the first u/s is a special kind of hell for us PAIF people. I didn't have any real noticeable symptoms until like 9 weeks and really struggled with believing things could work. Hell, I still do! Hang in there, we're all here rooting for you and supporting you!

Happy birthday Z, G22!
Your post makes me so happy HoneySpider!

We had our fetal caridio follow-up and the "issue" they saw last time with the leaky pulmonary valve seems to have resolved itself! We'll still get a check after birth, before leaving the hospital, but HUGE relief! My family also threw me a small surprise shower this weekend. It was really nice and meant a lot to me. I'm also feeling more movement lately, so I think I've rounded a corner (FINALLY!) at 28 weeks!

[loira]

Made it over to the sane side of the border. Visiting friends and family right now, but we'll be back at my parents' house at the end of the week. A is... SUPER clingy. She's never been overly fond of new people but she's not dealing well with all the change and it doesn't help that her papa isn't with us. She doesn't understand why he now lives in the computer (skype). I'm exhausted already and the thought of doing this long term makes me cry.

[awick14]

((loira))

[Muddled]

Oct 18, 2016 22:12:32 GMT -5 loira said:

Made it over to the sane side of the border. Visiting friends and family right now, but we'll be back at my parents' house at the end of the week. A is... SUPER clingy. She's never been overly fond of new people but she's not dealing well with all the change and it doesn't help that her papa isn't with us. She doesn't understand why he now lives in the computer (skype). I'm exhausted already and the thought of doing this long term makes me cry.

Just a few months. It will pass before you know it.

[cactuscookie]

Oct 18, 2016 22:12:32 GMT -5 loira said:

Made it over to the sane side of the border. Visiting friends and family right now, but we'll be back at my parents' house at the end of the week. A is... SUPER clingy. She's never been overly fond of new people but she's not dealing well with all the change and it doesn't help that her papa isn't with us. She doesn't understand why he now lives in the computer (skype). I'm exhausted already and the thought of doing this long term makes me cry.

So many hugs. I hope the time passes quickly.

How is your husband handling it?

DH is out of town for work this week, and we were skying with him yesterday. H was crawling after the computer as I was holding it and walking away from her, and it was super cute until SPLAT, she fell face first on the tile floor. Oops!

[loira]

Oct 19, 2016 10:01:57 GMT -5 cactuscookie said:

Oct 18, 2016 22:12:32 GMT -5 loira said:

Made it over to the sane side of the border. Visiting friends and family right now, but we'll be back at my parents' house at the end of the week. A is... SUPER clingy. She's never been overly fond of new people but she's not dealing well with all the change and it doesn't help that her papa isn't with us. She doesn't understand why he now lives in the computer (skype). I'm exhausted already and the thought of doing this long term makes me cry.

So many hugs. I hope the time passes quickly.

How is your husband handling it?

DH is out of town for work this week, and we were skying with him yesterday. H was crawling after the computer as I was holding it and walking away from her, and it was super cute until SPLAT, she fell face first on the tile floor. Oops!

Aw, poor baby! A still has no interest in crawling and now she won't let me put her down so she's not getting any exercise. My H is okay. I'm not really sure how he's doing because I think he's so busy with work he hasn't had time to process it. He says his downtime is really lonely though. I feel so bad for him, but then I get really angry because I feel like I didn't really want to live in the US in the first place and now I'm making even more of a sacrifice for a situation that I was already making a sacrifice for... I'm the trailing spouse except I'm not even there.

[cactuscookie]

Oct 19, 2016 10:14:20 GMT -5 loira said:

Oct 19, 2016 10:01:57 GMT -5 cactuscookie said:

So many hugs. I hope the time passes quickly.

How is your husband handling it?

DH is out of town for work this week, and we were skying with him yesterday. H was crawling after the computer as I was holding it and walking away from her, and it was super cute until SPLAT, she fell face first on the tile floor. Oops!

Aw, poor baby! A still has no interest in crawling and now she won't let me put her down so she's not getting any exercise. My H is okay. I'm not really sure how he's doing because I think he's so busy with work he hasn't had time to process it. He says his downtime is really lonely though. I feel so bad for him, but then I get really angry because I feel like I didn't really want to live in the US in the first place and now I'm making even more of a sacrifice for a situation that I was already making a sacrifice for... I'm the trailing spouse except I'm not even there.

Ugh, H had a cold on Monday and was really clingy and it was tough. I hope A adjusts soon. Poor thing.

This whole situation with you guys is such a mess, and it makes me so angry that my country's immigration laws are forcing a family to be divided like this.

[loira]

Oct 19, 2016 10:56:51 GMT -5 cactuscookie said:

Oct 19, 2016 10:14:20 GMT -5 loira said:

Aw, poor baby! A still has no interest in crawling and now she won't let me put her down so she's not getting any exercise. My H is okay. I'm not really sure how he's doing because I think he's so busy with work he hasn't had time to process it. He says his downtime is really lonely though. I feel so bad for him, but then I get really angry because I feel like I didn't really want to live in the US in the first place and now I'm making even more of a sacrifice for a situation that I was already making a sacrifice for... I'm the trailing spouse except I'm not even there.

Ugh, H had a cold on Monday and was really clingy and it was tough. I hope A adjusts soon. Poor thing.

This whole situation with you guys is such a mess, and it makes me so angry that my country's immigration laws are forcing a family to be divided like this.

To be fair to the US, most countries don't have stellar systems in place for family class immigration. It's only within the last 2 years that Canada has made it easier to apply from within the country - and to work while waiting for a decision so that families aren't also forced to separate for financial reasons. I'm more upset by how we were treated at customs - basically bullied and made to feel stupid like we knew nothing about the process (which wasn't true because you CAN apply from within, they just don't want you to so they put conditions on my entry to prevent me from doing so). I'm also upset that you basically have to lie about your reason for entry in order to apply from within. Which is illegal, but plenty of people do it, but I personally always tell the truth to customs officers. You'd think that Canada's partnership with the US would allow for easier application, and that a long-standing marriage plus child together would expedite the process.  It's not like I'm trying to trick anyone.

[mpc]

After seeing the RE every 2 weeks, I am feeling a little out of sorts waiting 4 weeks for my next OB appointment. I imagine this will get easier once I can feel movement. I'm thinking sometime in december that will start. Anyway, I can't keep hiding this for another 3 weeks until I get confirmation again, so I guess I just have to... believe it's all still alright.

[awick14]

mpc- going 4 weeks between appointments is hard. ((Hugs)) it does get easier. Feeling movement has made a huge difference for me, and now I am down to appointments every 2 weeks so that's helpful too.

[cactuscookie]

Oct 19, 2016 11:46:13 GMT -5 mpc said:

After seeing the RE every 2 weeks, I am feeling a little out of sorts waiting 4 weeks for my next OB appointment. I imagine this will get easier once I can feel movement. I'm thinking sometime in december that will start. Anyway, I can't keep hiding this for another 3 weeks until I get confirmation again, so I guess I just have to... believe it's all still alright.

It's gets easier, until you don't feel movement when you think you should and then you start freaking out about that. There's always something. But yeah, getting confirmation that the baby is doing well every few hours instead of every few weeks is much better!

[cactuscookie]

I'm reading What Alice Forgot. I really like Liane Moriarty and didn't know this book of hers had an infertility plotline.

I'm glad I'm reading it now and not two years ago. Or in a year, when we start TTC #2. I'm more and more eager for another baby, and it really isn't likely to happen. Getting pregnant once was unlikely, much less it happening again when I'm almost forty.

[G22]

Hugs loira. Long distance is hard, especially with kid in the mix. I know my situation isn't the same but if you ever need to vent, I'm here. It took Z a bit to figure out daddy was in the computer now. He gets excited when he hears the skype ring now and lights up when we talk to H. I know its hard for H to be away and missing a lot of big milestones of Z's, so it makes his day when Z smiles and recognizes him on skype.

[loira]

Thanks G22. I know it's not quite the same, but it's still difficult either way. My SIL is also a military wife, and she's given me some tips too. I definitely have a lot of respect for your situations, and even though you signed up for it, it still must be incredibly hard at times. A and I have been skyping with H, and she always smiles at him, which he loves. I think she already found it kind of difficult to adjust to him being at work all day (he was home with us for 7 months and probably cared for her 65% of the time because he took all the nights). Now she's away from him, plus we're visiting family and friends so she's out and about a lot. I know it's early to tell, but I really think she's an introvert. Today was clearly her limit on visiting, and I've canceled my plans for tomorrow so she can have a break.

[loira]

Oct 19, 2016 6:46:31 GMT -5 Muddled said:

Oct 18, 2016 22:12:32 GMT -5 loira said:

Made it over to the sane side of the border. Visiting friends and family right now, but we'll be back at my parents' house at the end of the week. A is... SUPER clingy. She's never been overly fond of new people but she's not dealing well with all the change and it doesn't help that her papa isn't with us. She doesn't understand why he now lives in the computer (skype). I'm exhausted already and the thought of doing this long term makes me cry.

Just a few months. It will pass before you know it.

I already miss our texts! Back on my Canadian number now.

[G22]

loira, I hope this time goes by quickly and you can be back together permanently soon. I'm sure that's a big change for her to be around him so much and now only see him on the computer. Babies are pretty resilient though, I hope she adjusts ok both to being away from him and then when you around are together again.

[Muddled]

Oct 19, 2016 23:25:33 GMT -5 loira said:

Oct 19, 2016 6:46:31 GMT -5 Muddled said:

Just a few months. It will pass before you know it.

I already miss our texts! Back on my Canadian number now.

I miss you too. Let's plan your visit!