How much $ do you give for a wedding gift?

[Deleted]

Answers are per person, not as a couple. So if you give $200 as a couple tha wouldbe $100 per person.

[Deleted]

We tend to give $100-$150 per person, so usually 200-300 as a couple but I'm worried that's too low. We live in a lcol area.

[whitepicketfence]

My answer will vary widely depending on how close I am to the bride and groom.

[momof2boys]

Sept 9, 2012 18:14:13 GMT -5 whitepicketfence said:

My answer will vary widely depending on how close I am to the bride and groom.

Same here

[honey987]

We haven't been to many weddings yet, but we have 4 from now til the end of the year and then 4 more already next year. Our friends gave us about 50 each or per couple. A few gave more, but the average was around that. We plan on giving around 100 from both of us, but it will depend on how close we are to the couple.

[giantsgirl]

Sept 9, 2012 18:16:12 GMT -5 momof2boys said:

Sept 9, 2012 18:14:13 GMT -5 whitepicketfence said:

My answer will vary widely depending on how close I am to the bride and groom.

Same here

x3. But, I got married in a HCOL area and I think that 200-300 per couple is a generous gift and was what we received from most of our guests.

[mrsbro]

Sept 9, 2012 18:11:20 GMT -5 @lauriergirl28 said:

We tend to give $100-$150 per person, so usually 200-300 as a couple but I'm worried that's too low. We live in a lcol area.

This is us.

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[315bride]

I kind of don't understand the "per person" unit. I give the same amount whether I go to the wedding alone or I go with my H. I answered accordingly above.

[caprisun]

Sept 9, 2012 18:14:13 GMT -5 whitepicketfence said:

My answer will vary widely depending on how close I am to the bride and groom.

Ditto this

[elizabethann]

We have only attended weddings in our home town (LCOL) since being married and we give $50 as a couple. Close friends $100. When our siblings get married probably $300. If we attend a wedding in our current city (LCOL-MCOL) I know $50 would be too low.

[awick14]

We are in a MCOL area and we have never given money. (never been to a close friends or family wedding) we always spend $50-75 on a gift from there registry. I would give $100 to a close friend/ family member

[papie]

100-150 pp

[M]

It depends on who it is. We've given anywhere from $100 to $500. If they're just friends they get less, close friends get more, close cousins get even more. My brother's engaged, we'll most likely give them $1000 but only because he's my brother. My little sister and BIL are both 12 (the babies of the family ) so who knows what we'll give them...down payment on a house? haha.

[dexteroni]

I don't really understand how "per person" comes into play. We usually give $100 total. But if for some reason only DH or I can attend, we don't reduce the gift to $50. And if I were single (and could afford it), I would still give the same amount.

But it does depend on who the person is to us. Someone we hardly know from work is probably going to get more like $50 or a gift of roughly equivalent price. Someone super close to one of us will get a lot more.

[Deleted]

$100-$200 per person, so $200-$400 a couple. Depends on how close we are to the B and G.

[Deleted]

$150-$250 per person, depends on our relationship with the bride/groom.

[raangoli]

Sept 9, 2012 18:57:10 GMT -5 @iheartcosmos said:

$100-$200 per person, so $200-$400 a couple. Depends on how close we are to the B and G.

This.

[Deleted]

Sept 9, 2012 19:03:21 GMT -5 tigerlily said:

$150-$250 per person, depends on our relationship with the bride/groom.

This is what we spend too (note: we give a gift, not money).

ETA: but I don't understand the per person thing either. We aren't paying for our admission to the wedding, so we don't base our gift on how many of us are attending the wedding. (Also, it has never been just one of us who attends, but I guess that could change.)

[rugbywife]

$200 all in, so I answered the poll wrong because I answered it as $200 when I should have said $100...and I do $50 for a shower, although I have done more too.

If it were a family member (brother, sister) we would give more.

[Deleted]

Now that a few people have mentioned it, we actually give the same gift wether both of us attends or not. So I'm not sure why I said PP - perhaps because a few of my friends IRL phrase it that way.

[flygirl22]

Almost every wedding I've been to I have had to fly to, and for me that plays a part in this. We usually give as a couple $100-$150 depending on closeness of the couple. When any sibling gets married it will probably closer to $500.

I'm from the Midwest and most of the weddings I go to are in that region. My wedding was in the midwest and $100 was a good gift, most averaged around $50/couple. My east coast family gave more, I assume this is a regional thing.

[Deleted]

Sept 9, 2012 18:38:59 GMT -5 @vicmo said:

It depends on the couple, but we are usually somewhere in the $150-300 for the two of us, so $75-$150. I think I'm in the same general area of Canada as you, lauriergirl? I'm in KW. I would give more at a GTA wedding than a KW wedding, though...

We are in the exact same area! You can probably guess from my screen name

[polarbearfans]

$100 as a couple... The amount would be the same if only one went. It's a gift from both of us. We are not paying admission.

[chessie]

Depends on wedding. We grew up you pay per plate. Close friend 200+, Family at a cheap place 50-100..

[SJ]

I don't usually give money, but when we do we give $100-$200 total.

[countthestars]

Usually $100 to $200 total, but depends on relationship with B and G and how much they gave us. A couple of our couple friends gave $75 and then got married within 6 months of us - we just gave the same amount back.

[spartychic2010]

At my wedding, the average was $100-$150 per couple. Family members, cousins, aunts tended to give more.

[sillygoosegirl]

I am impressed by these amounts. We give $50-$100 normally (a gift, not cash normally), which is comparable to more than what we recieved from most people at our wedding. I think we gave around $200 to SIL.

[sporky]

It totally depends on who is getting married. But the most we've ever given was for superclose friends and that was $150 (per couple). I know a lot of people on this board live in HCOL areas, but wow. I'm kind of jealous! We didn't receive anything over $150-$200 at our wedding and we do have some very well to-do family members. Larger amounts just aren't the norm in our area.

[Deleted]

Sept 10, 2012 9:19:14 GMT -5 sporky said:

It totally depends on who is getting married. But the most we've ever given was for superclose friends and that was $150 (per couple). I know a lot of people on this board live in HCOL areas, but wow. I'm kind of jealous! We didn't receive anything over $150-$200 at our wedding and we do have some very well to-do family members. Larger amounts just aren't the norm in our area.

You shouldn't be jealous! Sure, we received larger gifts than people in other areas of the country may have, but we also give larger gifts. So it all kind of evens out. If we went to five weddings and gave $100 gifts each time, and then those couples gave us $100 each, we end up with $0 net. If we went to five weddings and gave $500 gifts each time, and then those couples gave us $500 each, we end up with $0 net. And honestly, I think the amounts people here give are ridiculous and showy... but you kind of have to do what others do.